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Post by section8 on Apr 2, 2006 17:10:10 GMT -5
Don't worry man, you can press charges, drain them of their money, put them through therapy, get a restraining order, and if your lucky they will get arrested. They won't be stupid enough to keep on bothering you.
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Post by allianne on Apr 4, 2006 17:53:06 GMT -5
There was this guy that everyone picked on at my school. He got really depressed and wrote about suicide and cutting a lot. He got upset really easily and even if he said nothing, people would still pick on him. He switched schools and finally found some friends...later we all found out that he had some medical problem that made his emotions all screwed up. The best think you could've done was to go to someone about this. Good job!! You don't want to end up like many other people out there...
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Apr 5, 2006 3:21:48 GMT -5
Don't worry man, you can press charges, drain them of their money, put them through therapy, get a restraining order, and if your lucky they will get arrested. They won't be stupid enough to keep on bothering you. ditto
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Post by vy on Apr 5, 2006 22:42:27 GMT -5
Dear Erin:
THE NATURE OF BULLIES Those bullies bullying you Erin are doing that because they are insecure about themselves, and in bullying you - make themselves feel powerful and strong. Bullies are bullies are many reasons: abuse, bad home life, etc... Bullies are usually that way because they don't know how else to act, because some part of their life is out of their control and need to feel secure by bullying.
Personally, I find that they are more to pity then feared. Maybe the next time they bully you - you can think about trying to be the guy's friend? I know this sounds rather silly because he is beating you up and showing no kindness - but maybe he doesn't know how? He takes your lunch bag, (MAYBE) because he is jealous that you have a lunch bag, maybe he doesn' t have that kind of a life and is jealous of yours. This might sound surprising, but he probably is jealous of you - so that is why he bullies you. That does not give him the excuse to beat you up and act the way he does, but I hope it will help you to understand why bullies do what they do. Try to show compassion, instead of think there is anything wrong with youself.
There is nothing wrong with you Erin, you don't have to change or act a certain way because of these bullies. Just be yourself. You cannot control what these bullies do, however, you do have the right to protect yourself. I don't recommend taking the matter into your own hand, like fighting them - because in turns, that makes you no better then they are, and you have just allowed yourself and your life to be affected by someone else's misery.
The only suggests I can give you right now are:
1.) Be grateful for what you have, and just enjoy what you have. Try not to worry too much about the bullies.
2.) Talk to an adult about it: parents, school counsellor, or teacher. Adults can usually help you figure out a way to handle things better then if you were to try someone on your own.
3.) If you are in a public place, try talking to the bully. If he takes your lunch bag - verbally and confidently tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. This might not do much, but at least you tried. You never know? In doing this, even if he does take your lunch bag away - you have raised above all the bullying and shown that you are more mature.
4.) Be compassionate. Maybe the bully beats you up, because at home, his parents fight all the time or he too - gets beat up by another? Aren't you happy that you don't have that kind of a life style at home?
Oh my gosh, I'm rambling again! LOL. Well, if you like what you hear - use it, if you don't, then ignore my rambling. Good Luck Erin. I understand how you feel, I am a nerd too - it was hard when I was around your age. But I'm proud to be a nerd and myself, and no bullying is going to change that. You can live through this, it is a test for you before you can be all you can be.
Hope this helped. Take Care Erin ^_^Vy
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Post by L.B on Apr 8, 2006 3:51:53 GMT -5
Hey, That's some really good advice vy
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Post by erin on Apr 8, 2006 20:57:02 GMT -5
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Post by vy on Apr 10, 2006 19:15:37 GMT -5
Dear Erin:
I'm so glad to hear that you are doing well! I'm also very proud that you stood up to those bullies! You had that inside, all this time! This is such good news!
I agree with you about this site Erin! Teen Vibe rocks! Take care! ^_^
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Post by Mar on Apr 16, 2006 19:57:27 GMT -5
I'm a skinny girl in grade 8 and I'm 5'4... If that was me I'd lose controll and punch one of them in the mouth, although I'm kind of destrbed so when people try and bug me I tell them morbid things about them dieing... i've got low tollerance for ass holes... I say you tell em off and demand the respect you deserve.. not by words.. but... Give them somthing to be bothered about... scare them, give them those looks that could kill.. that's what I do heh, once they aproach you, stand there with your head tilted down and your eyes looking up at them and then go all psycho on them.. use huge words and things they wouldn't understand, and morbid details of how you'd like to torture and kill them... I'm a bit messed but it gives me the respect I deserve..
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