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Post by 14year old on Sept 25, 2006 7:18:14 GMT -5
When I was little, I used to get spanked by my stepdad. I guess it was normal then, but sometimes if he is really angry he still does. Last night, for example, I talked back to him and said something rather mean. He told me to go to my room, and I knew what was coming. He came in and, as usual, we talked about it, and I apologized. Then, he took off his belt. I had to pull my pants down and lie on my bed. He held my back down, and spanked me for a long time, then left.
Is it totally not normal to be spanked at 14 years of age? It is absolutely humiliating. So, I was just wondering what you think of all this, and how do you feel about spankings for kids my age, and on the bare butt? thanks.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 13:06:18 GMT -5
Well most parents think that once you are a teen ager not to spank you anymore. But doesn't mean no more discipline, they still ground you make you do more chores tell you you cant go out side no comp no radio etc. If they are spanking you because you are being bad and not for nothing they can do that. Most parents don't at that age but some do! I suggest that you talk with your dad about it, say that now you are teenager can he have different disciplines for you and suggest some of them ((i do that with my dad when i back mouth he says I'm grounded and go to my room but i don't always no what from he will come up stairs and ask me what i THINK an appropriate discipline is for what i did then i tell him and he considers it and some times does it or adds to it.)) Oh and by the way my parents spanked me on my bare but with a belt or wooden spoon till i was like 12
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 25, 2006 14:35:40 GMT -5
Well thats totally unheard of here! Well in my town... no one does that above the age of 10, and especially girls! I don't know what sex you are, sorry. If my pareents done that to me (I'm 15) I would consider calling Childline or telling some one.. i guess it's different in different familys though.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 14:52:09 GMT -5
I don't think you should call it abuse tho.... because your the one that did something wrong its not like he spanked you because he felt like it!
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 25, 2006 14:53:52 GMT -5
Well I still don't think this is tight. It may just be the way I was bought up, but it seems indecent.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 14:57:14 GMT -5
I don't totally agree with spanking a kid at 14 but there is no law that says you cant (if it is not abusive)
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Sept 25, 2006 15:19:37 GMT -5
I don't think you should call it abuse tho.... because your the one that did something wrong its not like he spanked you because he felt like it! jas cuz u did something wrong doesnt make it okay i think it is abuse spanking as punihsment is abuse and when u are 14 it should never happen
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 15:25:27 GMT -5
Spanking as punishment is not abuse it is discipline! At 14 it is questionable but if you a young kid and you disobey your parents you should be spanked! If you are not disciplined when you are young you could end up to be a spoiled brat..
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 25, 2006 15:28:58 GMT -5
There are other ways of punishment with out hitting. In england I swear theres a law you're not allowed to hit your child if it leaves a mark. If it leaves a mark the parents in trouble. I don't know about any where else though.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 15:36:04 GMT -5
I think thats dumb! I think you should be able to discipline as in spank NOT abuse, discipline. I have been spanked so hard my butt i swear bled!!!!!! Its not like your gonna hate your parents for it! I'm grateful my parents spanked me when i was younger.
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Post by Ruby on Sept 25, 2006 16:14:16 GMT -5
Everyone ((obviously)) has different feelings about this. I am still threatened with a spanking every now and then and I'm 14 as well. I don't spank my daughter and I never will. Hitting your bear skin with a belt is abuse. I would see if you could talk to a counsellor at school if you can.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 16:17:42 GMT -5
Wen they are little thats the only thing they understand you cant explain things to them and just have them apologies to you. Bare but and belt is a little harsh but normal spanking i agree with.
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Post by Ruby on Sept 27, 2006 12:30:02 GMT -5
Wen they are little thats the only thing they understand you cant explain things to them and just have them apologies to you. That's not the only way they understand! If Kira does something bad I will give her a 3 minute time out. She understands that when she does something wrong mommy gets angry and puts her in time out. When she is doing something good she gets lots of praise and hugs. It's almost like training a puppy to sit. You say a firm no and then give treats when they obey. You almost certainly can explain something to a toddler or a young child and they understand it.
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Post by stars2mind on Sept 27, 2006 19:33:38 GMT -5
whoa-- well yeah my parents still give me that too--- but they dont used belts or anything they just "sock" me because they know that i have built up a tolerance to that- but yeah i find it kind of weird that parents still spank over the age of 12 because it really doesnt hurt at all [at least to me it doesnt]- but it is very aggravting- yeah like ruby said ppl have different opinions on it and maybe your dad thinks its normal- my parents are probably gonna hit me till they are old and not able to lift their arms- [hopefully that doesnt happen to them but yeah]
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Post by Hairball Juni on Sept 27, 2006 23:13:43 GMT -5
Back when I was 11, I thought I was too old for spanking... I think it is sort of wrong to use violence as discipline-it doesn't always work. Though doesn't the fact that you have to take down your pants make it abuse? And the fact that it is totally humiliating?
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Post by Ruby on Sept 28, 2006 18:42:12 GMT -5
Plus, it could be counted as sexual assualt couldn't it?
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Post by Will on Oct 5, 2006 11:24:29 GMT -5
No way. Spanking isn't to do with sexual assault. I hate it how people can always hide behind this 'blanket' of sexual assault. If a male punishes a female, it's sexual assault. Supposedly. Doesn't matter if she deserved it.
Personally, I think spankng is discipline. Kids are getting so soft these days (ask your parents). I'd rather be spanked than have, say, food taken away from me, or kept in solitary confinement. These things cause aggravated psychological damage to one's mind. Whereas being hit is a one off thing, quick; afterwards all's forgotten. I'd rather have physical scars than mental ones.
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