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Post by Mrs Gale on Sept 25, 2006 7:11:01 GMT -5
My son has no motivation, feels people are shallow, and does not see the point in life. He has good days & bad days and is doing very poorly in school because he does not want to do the work. He is very bright and capable, just does not want to try. He has some friends to see on the weekends, but no one except online during the week. His older brother moved out and he seems very lonely to me. He and I are very close, but he is mad at me for making him try at school, is sarcastic but not violent. He is not using drugs or alcohol. How can I get my son more motivated in school and help him feel joy again?
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Sept 25, 2006 15:06:47 GMT -5
ask him what he needs instead of trying to figure out what you think he needs. talk to him. it almost sounds like signs of depression so maybe get him checked by a doctor.
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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Sept 25, 2006 15:08:51 GMT -5
You can always make him think that if he did something good then he gets a reward for it. My friend has a deal with his parents that for every A on his report card he gets $5. For every B he get $3. For Every C he get nothing. But for every D he has to pay his parents $3 and for every F he pays them $5. That way they make sure that he gets good grades because no kid likes to pay money to their partents.
There are also some other ways to modivate kids. Unfortunatly at the moment I can't think of anything. =/ school wore me out. >.< lol I'll post here if I think of anything else though and I hope that your son gets the right modivation. ^-^
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 25, 2006 15:25:59 GMT -5
ask him what he needs instead of trying to figure out what you think he needs. talk to him. it almost sounds like signs of depression so maybe get him checked by a doctor. This definutley sounds like the best and most sensible idea.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 15:40:17 GMT -5
I agree! Once you do this tell us what happens.
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Post by Ruby on Sept 25, 2006 16:26:48 GMT -5
I like Fluffmeister's idea! ((underneath_the_smiles)) Maybe you should try and find a new hobby for him. Find out what he likes to do in his spare time and invite some of his friends over to join in the hobby with him.
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Post by Hairball Juni on Sept 26, 2006 19:31:06 GMT -5
Yeah, check him for signs of depression. Also, talk to him about what's going on at school- are there people bullying him? Does he think the teachers care at all? That sort of thing. Try approaching the problem from a different angle- obviously, to force trying at school won't work but if you do something that you both enjoy and gain hobby out of whatever it is- his grades may start to improve if he enjoys life outside of the classroom.
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