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Post by strangebrew on May 22, 2006 13:52:32 GMT -5
First off i don't want to offend anyone I think if your in the age of 12to 17 ten a relationship is not able too work because your to young and you cant speak from love in that age
Better said you don't even know what love is What do you guys think over that?
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Post by littlemikey on May 22, 2006 18:24:35 GMT -5
I agree relationships dont always work when you are young, but I think by the time you are 16-17 you start to understand more. Anyone below that age though is only in for dissapoingment However I also think that it is right for people to learn from their mistakes, so its up to the kids involved when they start dating, so that they can learn about the harsh, real world.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on May 22, 2006 20:34:53 GMT -5
I think that alot of the time people between the ages of 13-18 mistake lust for love. In my opnion I think it takes a long time to discover true love. Being fasinated with someone isn't love, it's lust.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 22, 2006 23:02:35 GMT -5
Most relationships dont last at a young age. Its rare that they do
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on May 23, 2006 5:22:12 GMT -5
there is no such thing as love its all a figment of our imagniations
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Post by littlemikey on May 23, 2006 6:44:48 GMT -5
I know someone who is 16, and she has been dating the same guy for 14 months, so some young relationships may work...
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Post by strangebrew on May 23, 2006 10:08:10 GMT -5
hmmm 14 month are not very much
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Post by vy on May 23, 2006 18:48:51 GMT -5
I would have to agree with Babycakes that a lot of time, lust gets mistaken for love, and that might be one of the reasons why a relationship might fail. I think our society has idolized the idea of love at first sight, which I personally think is just attraction.
That whole first stage of attraction, and lust that a lot of people consider love, I would have to guess is the inflatuated stage of the relationship. A major problem with that is, this stage doesn't last forever, and people don't realize it, because they think it is "love".
Love, is different depending on everyone's own definition. Either it be that you think love exists or not, like how MuHa Feel My Wrath suggests that love does not exist.
No matter what love is, I agree with littlemikey that it's really up to the individual. Since it is one of those "taboo" topics that no matter how much you try to analyse- you cannot pin point it.
Personally, I think that before you graduate from high school, dating is a little over rated, because there are more important things to think about: education, growing, self-discovery, and such. Since relationships take a lot of time and dedication, it can be very exhausting and distracting. Experiences are good, but there are always prices to pay.
If you do decide to date at a young age, try not to let it affect your self-discovery process, and never think that love will make your life perfect. It is just a feeling - not a miracle worker.
Maybe love doesn't exist. Even so, relationships do: family, friends, dating. Just have to figure out what you want.
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Post by adamdk on May 24, 2006 13:16:29 GMT -5
I would have to agree with Babycakes that a lot of time, lust gets mistaken for love, and that might be one of the reasons why a relationship might fail. I think our society has idolized the idea of love at first sight, which I personally think is just attraction. That whole first stage of attraction, and lust that a lot of people consider love, I would have to guess is the inflatuated stage of the relationship. A major problem with that is, this stage doesn't last forever, and people don't realize it, because they think it is "love". Love, is different depending on everyone's own definition. Either it be that you think love exists or not, like how MuHa Feel My Wrath suggests that love does not exist. No matter what love is, I agree with littlemikey that it's really up to the individual. Since it is one of those "taboo" topics that no matter how much you try to analyse- you cannot pin point it. Personally, I think that before you graduate from high school, dating is a little over rated, because there are more important things to think about: education, growing, self-discovery, and such. Since relationships take a lot of time and dedication, it can be very exhausting and distracting. Experiences are good, but there are always prices to pay. If you do decide to date at a young age, try not to let it affect your self-discovery process, and never think that love will make your life perfect. It is just a feeling - not a miracle worker. Maybe love doesn't exist. Even so, relationships do: family, friends, dating. Just have to figure out what you want. AMEN To that! One thing though... Sorry if this goes off topic a bit but anyway, I'm 13 yeah, and there is this girl who i like. Now, she isn't exactly too attractive, my friends, etc don't find her attractive, but she is a very nice person and real nice to talk to etc, now, i find her a little bit attractive but I like her for the person she is, and if I did have a relationship with her, I think if she felt the same way about me, it could last a while... I don't relaly know lol. But surely that's maybe a sign of love? Like 25% love for the person? Soryr fi that was too off topic.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 24, 2006 13:20:26 GMT -5
thats not a sign of love imo I dont think its even close maybe 1%
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Post by Sparkle on May 24, 2006 15:06:05 GMT -5
Well.. you may as well go out with people, Like Little Mikey said, to learn from your mistakes.... because... gosh this sounds selfish.... but if you've hjad no practise with 'lust' how will you know what to do with 'love'?
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Post by Honey Beeswax on May 24, 2006 15:07:40 GMT -5
ill probably unever have a bf I can never go anywhere i dont even know what a relationship is realy
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Post by littlemikey on May 24, 2006 17:31:57 GMT -5
hmmm 14 month are not very much It's a long time to me
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 24, 2006 19:35:42 GMT -5
i dont think thats long. to me long is 2-3 yrs
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Post by vy on May 24, 2006 23:08:10 GMT -5
Dear Adamdk:
A little off topic, but not really, so no worries. It sounds like a good start for a relationship - for sure! Love, or not, I think it is a little early to say. There's also the possibilty of friendships- you don't always have to date someone you like. Sounds like you like her for good reasons though, not just based on attraction, and that is a good start to any relationship.
Good luck with that. vy
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Post by allianne on May 25, 2006 1:58:48 GMT -5
I think most young people aren't even looking for love. It's all about being in the moment and finding whoever you seem to like at the time. You don't look for that emotional attachment until you get older.
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Post by strangebrew on May 25, 2006 5:24:04 GMT -5
Yeah i also think so and i have to agree with Dr. .... 2-3years are a long time to me like i ve been together with my girl for like one and a half year (OK with a Little break) and its still not as long
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