Post by Beautiful Disaster on Feb 9, 2007 23:30:03 GMT -5
Are you confused whether you are getting respect in your relationship or not? We are all in a relationship with someone somewhere and in some way so I thought it would be cool to see what you think respect is and how it differs from what I'm about to post or how it is the same. I'd also like to touch on the subject as being a third person, someone looking in on someone else's relationship. Do you know someone who is in a relationship that you think lacks respect? Maybe a best friend and their boyfriend and girlfriend or your parents? Well you get the idea. This is what respect is according to the 'professionals' and yes I do agree with them. Do you think you deserve respect in a relationship? Anyways theres a few questions for you to answer as you read below.
Only you can decide what a Respectful Relationship is. Some things to think about as you negotiate having a relationship is how do you want to be treated Physically, Emotionally and Sexually in your dating relationships?
What are your bottom-lines or your non-negotiables, meaning what are ways that you should not be treated and ways you should not treat others?
Below are some things youth have told us is important to them in having and maintaining a Respectful Relationship.
Physically:
* Respect
* No Abuse
* Space and No Possessiveness- You and your partner can do things without each other and hang out with other people without you or your partner getting upset, excusing the other of cheating, etc.
* Comfortable
* Trust-No spying on, checking pagers, having other people give "reports"
* Communication
* Affection
* Attraction
Emotionally:
* Respect
* No put-downs, especially when fighting or angry with one another
* Comfortable
* No manipulation or blaming
* Communication (if necessary talk about how you communicate when you fight and when you're not fighting)
* Trust and honesty
* Love
* Friendship
* Security
* Understanding
* Caring
Sexually:
* Respect
* Trust and honesty
* Communication (talk about expectations of what you're willing or not willing to do, safe sex, history, and consequences)
* No pressure
* Comfortable to say "Yes" and "No" at all times to any activity
You have the right to…
1. Be alone.
2. Express your ideas.
3. Express your feelings, even if they're negative.
4. Choose your work and your religion.
5. Live without fear.
6. Have time to yourself.
7. Spend your own money however you want to.
8. Get emotional support from your family and friends.
9. Listened to by your friends and family.
10. Choose your friends - men and women.
11. Express your strengths, abilities, and talents.
12. Decide if you want to participate in sexual acts or not.
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Alot of people think they don't deserve respect! I think respect is VERY important in all aspects of our lives and seeing as respect comes in relationships I thought this was an appropriate place to post this. So lets discuss respect. What do you think respect is?
Only you can decide what a Respectful Relationship is. Some things to think about as you negotiate having a relationship is how do you want to be treated Physically, Emotionally and Sexually in your dating relationships?
What are your bottom-lines or your non-negotiables, meaning what are ways that you should not be treated and ways you should not treat others?
Below are some things youth have told us is important to them in having and maintaining a Respectful Relationship.
Physically:
* Respect
* No Abuse
* Space and No Possessiveness- You and your partner can do things without each other and hang out with other people without you or your partner getting upset, excusing the other of cheating, etc.
* Comfortable
* Trust-No spying on, checking pagers, having other people give "reports"
* Communication
* Affection
* Attraction
Emotionally:
* Respect
* No put-downs, especially when fighting or angry with one another
* Comfortable
* No manipulation or blaming
* Communication (if necessary talk about how you communicate when you fight and when you're not fighting)
* Trust and honesty
* Love
* Friendship
* Security
* Understanding
* Caring
Sexually:
* Respect
* Trust and honesty
* Communication (talk about expectations of what you're willing or not willing to do, safe sex, history, and consequences)
* No pressure
* Comfortable to say "Yes" and "No" at all times to any activity
You have the right to…
1. Be alone.
2. Express your ideas.
3. Express your feelings, even if they're negative.
4. Choose your work and your religion.
5. Live without fear.
6. Have time to yourself.
7. Spend your own money however you want to.
8. Get emotional support from your family and friends.
9. Listened to by your friends and family.
10. Choose your friends - men and women.
11. Express your strengths, abilities, and talents.
12. Decide if you want to participate in sexual acts or not.
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Alot of people think they don't deserve respect! I think respect is VERY important in all aspects of our lives and seeing as respect comes in relationships I thought this was an appropriate place to post this. So lets discuss respect. What do you think respect is?