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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 4, 2006 16:25:11 GMT -5
When I was in 1st grade-2nd grade my brother was making me do stuff (sucking his penis mostly....yes i know very gross.) At this time, I didn't know what it was. A few years ago my brother was making me show him my b**bs.....is this sexual abuse?
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 4, 2006 16:30:24 GMT -5
How old is he?
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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 4, 2006 16:42:02 GMT -5
when i was in 1st grade he was 13 2nd grade 14 and now he's 19
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 4, 2006 16:45:54 GMT -5
At that age I think he should of knowen better. It is sexual abuse have you told anyone else about this?
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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 4, 2006 16:50:19 GMT -5
no....i mean i've told a few of my friends but thats it.
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Post by Dreamers Dream on May 4, 2006 16:54:44 GMT -5
That is defiantly sexual abuse! I would tell your parents what he has been doing or has done because it's quite possible that he could do this to other girls (Not just family members). It seems that at a young age he was already abusing sexual so the older he gets it may be worse. If you don't tell and find out later that he's done this to another little girl how are you going to feel? You also need to have help dealing with this because he is your brother, your suppose to trust him and have him look out for you not take advantage and abuse you.
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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 4, 2006 16:57:38 GMT -5
Well he hasn't been doing it lately. And he doesn't know any other little girls....atleast I hope not.....
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 4, 2006 19:17:14 GMT -5
He still did it even if it was years ago he needs to be responsible for his perverted ways, Just like you said "not that I know of" it could be anyone your neice, your friend, your neighbor etc. and just like you they may not know its wrong or not want to tell. This is your brother and you know its wrong make him be payable for abusing you.
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on May 4, 2006 19:24:22 GMT -5
You definately need to tell your parents. Get your brother some help before he goes out and ruins his life and others, he could become a rapist for all we know. He did a lot of wrong things already, and he has to pay for them. Tell your parents now.
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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 4, 2006 19:26:02 GMT -5
But I don't know how to tell my mom and dad. Besides....my brother's usually in the house all day anyways....and no other family members (cept a few older ones) live around us. wouldn't i know if he was doing it though?
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 4, 2006 19:29:07 GMT -5
Listen to Dr.phil nekoichigo, you would have no idea if he was doing it. Does he have a computer in his room or a webcam or when no ones home just imagine. Even IF HE ISN'T DOING IT NOW he did it to you before. Therefore you must tell.
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on May 4, 2006 19:29:09 GMT -5
But I don't know how to tell my mom and dad. Besides....my brother's usually in the house all day anyways....and no other family members (cept a few older ones) live around us. wouldn't i know if he was doing it though? When your brother leaves for work, school, or with friends sit your parents down with you and talk to them. Just try your best to get it out of you...in the end, it will make you feel a lot better about it. Doesn't it hurt you inside keeping it to yourself and not telling your parents (besides your friends you told)?
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Post by Kat on May 5, 2006 15:30:12 GMT -5
I agree. You have to tell someone. This is sexual abuse and your brother could be legally charged.
If you don't know how to break it to your parents, you might want to try asking one of them, "Mom/Dad, would you like to go for a walk with me?" Or something along those lines. Then, once you're out of the house, things should be easier for you, because you're alone with them and you don't have to worry about your brother or the skepticism of another eavesdropper.
Then, you might want to say something like, "the thing is, I have to tell you something...my brother, well, he's been doing these things...I don't know why, but... [blah, blah, blah]."
It might make you feel better if you rehearse it in your head beforehand, or figure out what to say first. Once you've pretty much got it down, then just wait for the right opportunity. Going for a walk is good, because it will work even if your brother is at home.
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Post by `Avvy on May 5, 2006 16:02:33 GMT -5
ah... i know your delima(sp?) i have had to tell my parents some stuff that i was sure i just couldnt talk about (my sister physically abusing me, etc.) and it was so hard... in the end i wrote a letter explaining to my mom about it, then left it on her bed. when she walked in at night i could hear her reading it to my dad, and the next day she had my sister apologize for everything and we arent allowed to be alone in the house anymore. it helped a lot!
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Post by lilcrazygirl on May 5, 2006 16:55:20 GMT -5
Ok...maybe i'll write a letter to my mom....... I've considered telling them about it, but i think i was just afraid for two reasons: 1. my brother would hate me 2. he would get kicked out of the house.....
and he wouldnt have any place to live.......
SO HARD!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by Kat on May 5, 2006 19:18:54 GMT -5
You could always ask, say, "please don't punish him too severely...I just don't want him to do it again!" Or something. Don't hold back on telling them, though. You have to break the news somehow...
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 6, 2006 2:52:13 GMT -5
Ok...maybe i'll write a letter to my mom....... I've considered telling them about it, but i think i was just afraid for two reasons: 1. my brother would hate me 2. he would get kicked out of the house..... and he wouldnt have any place to live....... SO HARD!!!!!!!!!!! Its soo hard because he is your brother right so you love him and don't want anything bad to happen to him BUT look what he did to you? He took advantage of your body and used u like a piece of meat. Although getting kicked out is something he would deserve its not really nice. I think the only reason they would kick him out is to PROTECT YOU. <He may be angry at you for awhile but once he gets help he will thank you most likely> If you write a note to your parents explain what happened, how you feel, and that you want him to get help so he doesn't hurt anyone else or you again. He doesn't have to move out but they can put up boundrys where theres no way he can be around you while you are alone and so forth. Either way you must tell and protect yourself as well as anyone else he may of done this too or might do it too in the future. How do you feel about all this? How has it effected you?
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