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Post by butter on May 30, 2006 8:50:50 GMT -5
This may be a little long so don't blind yourself reading it lol For some time now I have been trying to stay away from my mom. I am really scared of her, I know that she is my mom and everything but she is hurting me. I don't know if it abuse or not, but when I am upset or anything other than happy she threatens to hit me which she has done if I start to cry. I try not to think about it, but earlier this year she threw me on my bed and put her hand to my neck as to choke me.I was really scared and have tried my best to please her ever since. But another time she was in the kithchen and she was mad about my report card, thinking she had cooled off, I asked what she was doing, and she came straight at me and almost hit me, she would have, and I usually deal with it, but I ran. Yesterday though, she told me I was ruining her life, she didn't want to be around me anymore, and that she just wanted to move away from me. I don't understand why she is doing this. I try really hard, I have 3 other sister and a brother.My father had Bobby Katy and Emily, in his first marriage, and he favors them dearly. My mom had mandi in her first marriage and only cares for her. I try so hard to make sure they notice me, but I don't understand why she hates me. Or why she would do this. After all this started I started cutting, and now one of my friends knows and wants to tell my mom.I have explained about my mom to her and she got really worried soo we haven't talked about it. Is this really abuse or am I just sensitive?
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Post by Xylaphonic on May 30, 2006 9:01:51 GMT -5
This is abuse, if it's bad enough to make you cut then it's abuse, please try to sort it out, ask your dad about it, phone the police if she goes to hit you or try's to choke you, I think you should go and speak to the experts on depression for the cutting, you are sensitive aswell, stay talking to us about it, tell us everything that happens and we will try our best to help you!
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Post by Alcohol4ever on May 30, 2006 12:44:36 GMT -5
exactly, you are strong, talk to ur dad bout it...usually dads favor girls more...well thats the case in my house..i wish you luck
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 30, 2006 18:40:09 GMT -5
This is abuse. You need to get out of there. None of this is your fault at all your mom has a anger problem and needs anger management. Go to school and tell someone there. Its not safe for you to stay home with your mom ever. What if one time she hits u so hard it kills you or her choking you kills you? GET OUT
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Post by butter on May 30, 2006 18:44:18 GMT -5
I'm to scared to get out.and school is out for summer, I can't tell anyone.And she will be mad if I do.I think maybe I am being to sensitive.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 30, 2006 18:58:13 GMT -5
Your NOT being to sensitive!!!
Schools out already?!?! My sister is still in for like 20 days.
Anyways.. you have to tell someone friends parents maybe? Dont be scared u could be in bad danger.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 30, 2006 21:39:41 GMT -5
it is abuse and u need to tell someone butter, your mom needs help and its nota good idea for you to stick around there for right now. Do you have a friends house you could sleep over at until you can figure something out? If your mom gets mad for telling - oh well - its for your safetly and maybe it will open her eyes to see what she is doing. Your not being over sensitive at all.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on May 31, 2006 5:06:33 GMT -5
That is emotional, mental and phsycial abuse. You know that you have more problems then this with family right now and this just adds to the pile. I know how hard it can be to go against a parent or step-parent but sometimes it just has to be done. They are right. What if one time she can't control herself at all and winds up and kocks you out. She could do some life long damage if she hasn't already. I don't care who you tell just tell someone you trust. Her temper will only get worse as this continues and its not a safe place for you to be. Choking you is not acceptable and telling you she wants to move away from you is wrong. Your not a horrible person, You don't deserve this butter. Please tell someone. I think you need to move out for awhile until they can grow up, be mature and control their anger problems.
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Post by butter on May 31, 2006 8:22:54 GMT -5
I told my youth pastor a while ago, but I only told him about her hitting me once in the car. I love my mom, and I don't want to hurt her. She is usually nice and stuff,I just got scared, I was going to tell my other youth pastor last night(the 1st one moved) but I got to scared that he would tell.I could stay at a friends but only for like one night, she would be a little suspicious of more than that and I am just to shy to tell anyone.I'm scared, and who would take care of me if my mom isn't there.
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Post by WilD CherrY on May 31, 2006 17:36:29 GMT -5
Of course you love your mom but she shouldn't be doing this to you. Why do you think your being over sensitive? YOUR NOT.
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Post by allianne on May 31, 2006 23:40:58 GMT -5
It's definately abuse. It's hard to deal with and you don't want to hurt her, so ur denying it. Your making excuses. There's no excuse for hitting a child, and certainly not for trying to choke u.
You're not being too sensitive. Right now, it's just that ur feelings are being all messed around with. You're scared, but u love ur mom. You want her to stop, but u don't want to leave her. It's yanking you around so that now ur not even sure what to do. Telling an adult is the BEST thing to do. How about if you talk to ur best friend and have her go with u somewhere? Maybe u could even stay with her for a while so u can figure things out. Either way, you can't think clearly in that house so get out!
Don't try to concentrate on why she's abusing you. Something is wrong with her..she can't control her emotions. It's NOT you....don't ever try to think of what you've done wrong. In the end, ur mom is at fault.
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Post by butter on Jun 1, 2006 16:39:20 GMT -5
I'm not making excuses guys. She never choked me, she just put her hand on my neck threatening to. And she was mad, I was disrespectful, and it must be hard to have a kid that is upset when she is having a bad day to. I would tell someone but what if they take me away from her?Who would I live with? I'm scared
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Jun 1, 2006 18:30:29 GMT -5
She threatened too that is abuse!!! NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO SHE DOESNT HAVE A RIGHT TO THREATEN TO CHOKE YOU!!!!!!!!
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Post by butter on Jun 3, 2006 17:36:18 GMT -5
I know she threatened to, and I want to tell someone I just dont know how.And I'm scared that she might get mad and actually hit me, and I don't know who would take care of me if she left, my dad is always gone.I'm really scared of her, but I'm just as scared to tell someone.And I don't have a chance to, she is always with me, and all of my friends are out of town on vacation.So I am just really confused, I want to stay with her, but I don't want to feel like this anymore, and I'm tired of wondering why she hates me. I don't know what to do at all
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Jun 5, 2006 15:26:32 GMT -5
hun, i was abused for a while, and it didnt stop till i talked to a councellor, and told them EVERYTHING, they helped me think of ways to talk to my parents, and now im never abused anymore...so go to like a walk in councellor, or find one...they work
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Post by .:Kaya:. on Jun 8, 2006 7:38:40 GMT -5
That is really sad and I feel bad for you. I can't imagine a home like that. I'd encourage you to talk to someone you trust, like a relative or teacher. Also, though you may not know, a really good person to talk to is a pastor. I always feel comfortable talking to my pastor, and he knows so much. Another thing, even if it isn't something you normally do, would be to pray. Hope that helped, I will pray for your situation
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Post by butter on Jun 22, 2006 17:36:27 GMT -5
I told a friend..and she said it wasn't abuse.
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