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Post by Firey Shades Of Blue on Jun 22, 2006 18:56:39 GMT -5
If thats not abuse I don't know what is. your friend needs to get out more.
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Post by Murdoc on Jun 22, 2006 23:02:15 GMT -5
I might be new..but I have one thing to tell you. Its abuse. I feel terribly sorry for you and your situation. Dont listen to your friend. She's how old? Listen to a bloke thats been on the earth a little longer. Its been said many times, but you need to tell someone. And I mean an adult. Hope your situation gets better.
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Post by pyromanniac420 on Jun 23, 2006 5:59:44 GMT -5
yea she needs to get out more that is ABUSE.
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Post by vy on Jun 23, 2006 22:07:05 GMT -5
Dear Butter:
I know you probably try your very best for you mom, right? Butter honey, your mom said some really painful things, but you know what? It's not your fault. It sounds like your mom has a lot of things to work out (anger flashes, and physical abuse).
It's not your fault. Sounds like your mom is very frustrated most of the time, and is taking it out on you, but it is not caused by you. She might address it to you, and sounds like is blaming you for her problems - but it isn't Butter. You are not the cause for her pain and misery, and the way she is choosing to deal with you, and her anger is not healthy.
I suggest that you talk to your mom about your concerns, and get her to a counsellor, because she is the one with the problem. If you don't feel comfortable talking to her by yourself, maybe ask for your dad's help. If you are not sure how to address her, maybe you should go see a counsellor first to ask for advice as to how to address your mom and the problem. Counsellors will usually have more experience, and will be able to teach you - they will keep it confidental, so no worries about her finding out.
There is counselling online (helplines), government counselling for teens (a long wait though), school counselling (I greatly suggest), or maybe try your family doctor? Maybe if you talk to him/her about your problem and ask for help as to where to go for help - he/she might be able to help.
Does your mom keep a journal? I suggest that you give her a journal. And if she looks mad, you should give her space, because you don't want to be there when she's mad. Hope that helps, but I still suggest that you talk to a counsellor. Maybe your mom has some really hard problems and you are doing her a big favor by talking to a counsellor. So it's not just for you, it's also for her.
Good luck Butter.
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Post by Italian Stallion on Jun 24, 2006 18:01:39 GMT -5
good luck I hope you realize it is abuse even if u dont want to see it that way... dont ignore whats going on. u can make it better what vy said was really good
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Post by butter on Jun 24, 2006 22:29:19 GMT -5
I'm going to camp for the next 8 days, and that means my mom won't be there at all. I think I will tell a counselor there, I've known most of the counselors there most of mylife, and I'm going to try to tell one of the senior counselors, or the director. Thank you guys for the help, I'll post what happens when I get back, promise.
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Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 24, 2006 22:47:57 GMT -5
Thats a great idea! Have fun at camp.
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Post by butter on Jul 5, 2006 14:43:18 GMT -5
I'm home! But I'm leaving again for two weeks, sorry.
I told my counselor at camp about my mom, and she told the director, they think it would be good for me to get a counselor, and then he proceeded to tell my dad I was doing fine at camp, but to consider getting me a counselor. But I am going back to that same camp, for two weeks, as I said earlier. That was all that happened, I'm still confused.I don't think my dad will get me one.But I told an adult right?
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Post by vy on Jul 11, 2006 0:15:25 GMT -5
Dear Butter:
Yes, you did tell an adult. You did the right thing, and you should be really proud. However, since camp is only tempory, and your father will not get you a counsellor. I suggest that you talk to a counsellor at your school about this, because they will have more power, and will know of more options.
Unfortunatley things take time, but I hope that things will work out more quickly for you.
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Post by butter on Aug 26, 2006 19:29:56 GMT -5
So, m, I told my youth pastors wife, who is a counselor, about my mom, She hit my sister on tuesday, and I told her on friday, Well she said not to worry about it.But you guys seem to think I should, Im very confused, really.Can somebody help me
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Post by Ruby on Aug 26, 2006 21:46:56 GMT -5
wow.....I am really sorry that this is happening to you. Nobody deserves this. Tell your youth counseller about this. Tell him your scared and everything about your mom hurting you. This can't go on anymore. Try to call an abuse hotline. I don't know the number but someone on here might. Just stay strong! *huggles*
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Post by vy on Aug 27, 2006 0:14:28 GMT -5
Dear Butter:
You're right, that is confusing (her reaction that is). I'm guessing, it's not that she won't do anything about it, but just wants to assure you that everything will be okay, and to not worry about it. You've done a lot, and maybe, now, it's time for the counsellors to handle the rest.
Take care. Hope to hear how you're doing.
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Post by butter on Aug 27, 2006 12:36:18 GMT -5
Well, she said her mom did the same thing, and if it happens again and leaves a mark to call her.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Aug 27, 2006 15:41:38 GMT -5
Did she tell you what she will do if your mom hits you again? Why does she have to leave a mark? Sometimes you can't even see the mark left because its under the skin. I would think a youth counseller would do alot more then what has been done here so far.
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Post by Ruby on Aug 27, 2006 16:42:53 GMT -5
Well, maybe she hasn't done anything yet b/c she needs evidence?
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Post by butter on Aug 28, 2006 16:15:07 GMT -5
I'm just confused. One friend says its wrong, the other friend says it isn't. I dont know what Im supposed to do
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Post by Ruby on Aug 28, 2006 20:22:18 GMT -5
Okay, I am going to tell you that what is happening is wrong. Your mom is hurting you physically and emotionally. You really need help with this. I recommend telling the police about it if your youth counsellor won't help. I think you should go down to the police station and tell them everything.
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