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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 9, 2006 19:11:05 GMT -5
Hi... I'm real good friends with this girl, but she's abused and I worry about her a lot. Her sisters died in a car accident and she was hurt badly but survived, and her mother tells her she should have been the one to die, and she almost committed suicide. She was raped when she was 8 by her father. She got pregnant when she was 14 but miscarried, and now she's pregnant again and her boyfriend (the baby's father) left her when he found out. Then she tried to get him to stay and help with his baby, but he threatened to kill her. Now she's 7 months pregnant, living with her mom who tells her to "go to hell" and when she has pains from her pregnancy, her mother says to get over it and that she's not going to have any babies in her house. Her mother threatens her with knives and even stabbed her in the stomach with one. My friend says she doesn't care about her health, but all she wants is for her baby to be okay, and she cares about her baby so much. She says she doesn't have anywhere to go to get away from home (she doesn't have any friends or family near). She's really nice and sweet, and I just can't imagine everything she has to deal with. I'm really worried about her and her baby's safety. How can I help her?? Thank you
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 9, 2006 19:25:01 GMT -5
Oh, god.... her mom just stabbed her in the stomach and she says the knife went in all the way and there's a lot of blood all over the floor and she's in very bad pain... I told her to call 911 and she did but her mom grabbed the phone, and even if she did reach 911, her mother would go crazy and like kill her... I'm crying, I don't know what to do, this is REALLY serious and I need help right now, I don't know what to tell her... is anyone there??
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 9, 2006 19:34:51 GMT -5
I told her to get in her car and drive to the hospital, and she said she would and then she's going to call me... I hope she gets out without her mother seeing her... I'm SO worried, I'm about to throw up. This is really serious, she said she was dizzy and there was a lot of blood. I hope she can drive well enough... oh my god.... I'm so freaked out....
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Jul 9, 2006 23:21:44 GMT -5
YOU call the cops, right now. That's all I can say. She shouldn't be driving.. so call them.
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 9, 2006 23:30:44 GMT -5
She lives in a different state...
but she got to the hospital and they gave her some shots and said they couldn't hear the baby's heartbeat, and they would have to do an emergency c-section for the baby... I'm so worried, it's barely been 7 months and she cares about her baby very much and I would hate to hear of anything bad happening. I haven't heard from her in a few hours, so I'm assuming she's in surgery... I'm so freaked out, I don't know what to tell her about all this...
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Jul 9, 2006 23:38:19 GMT -5
How did you find out what happened at the hospital? I'm just curious because she lives in a different state and it doesn't sound like her mom would be caring and call people about it.
I hope shes okay though the most you can do is be there for her. Since she was stabbed the doctors will see that and won't let her return to the home of her mother. Also the police are probably at her moms house if she told them who stabbed her and is being arrested, If your friends press's charges she will probably be charged with attempted murder or double homicide or something since the baby is over 4 months old. Also the doctors will offer counsellers right away for her if the baby doesn't make it or she seems to be in any distress at all. I hope surgery goes well.
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 9, 2006 23:55:43 GMT -5
She took her cell phone with her and we were text messaging before she went into the operating room, and I haven't heard from her since then.
She didn't tell them it was her mother who stabbed her. She always acts like it's her fault and she's cautious about getting help, probably because she's so used to being abused and she feels like it's her fault. I don't know what she told them happened...
But she HAS to tell them that it was her own mother who stabbed her. She will never be safe at home if she doesn't, this is her chance to get away from her mother to safety. She can hardly get out of the house without being hurt, and now she has her chance... I mean, that woman stabbed her pregnant daughter, that's terrible and when I hear from her again, I'm going to do everything I can to get her somewhere safe.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Jul 10, 2006 0:05:28 GMT -5
When you talk to her tell her to tell them. If she doesn't want to you can always call the hospital where she lives and tell them yourself. You're right she shouldn't go back there at all.
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 10, 2006 1:05:38 GMT -5
Yeah, I did tell her to tell them but she just said "they have to do an emergency c-section" and then she left, so I don't know if she really did tell them (or if she's going to). If not, I'll figure out what hospital it is and call for her. I would have called 911 for her but we live on opposite sides of the country. I still haven't heard back from her, but hopefully I will soon... I hope the baby is okay. She named the baby after me because we have helped save each other from suicide a few times and we have become great friends, she cares a lot and I just want something in her life to turn out okay.
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Post by WilD CherrY on Jul 10, 2006 1:10:25 GMT -5
How old is she now?? You just said she was pregnant at 14 and miscarried
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 10, 2006 1:30:37 GMT -5
She's 16 now, but she got pregnant when she was 15.
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Post by littlemikey on Jul 10, 2006 8:01:29 GMT -5
My god... this sounds horrible, I hope that your friend and her baby are okay, nobody should live like this.
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Jul 10, 2006 11:27:01 GMT -5
Have you heard anything back yet? I hope she is okay, and she abosolutely cannot go back to her mom's.
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Post by Midnight on Jul 10, 2006 11:51:11 GMT -5
OMG!
I hope her and the babby are ok! You have to tell her to tell the hospital or the police that her mom did it cuse if she dosent and she gose back home and her mom has all ready gone this far it could meen death!
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 10, 2006 17:54:06 GMT -5
I hope she does the right thing.
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Jul 10, 2006 23:21:30 GMT -5
Hey, thanks for all the support... I heard back from her today. She had an emergency c-section because her stomach was punctured from the knife and she was bleeding so they wanted to get the baby out... luckily, she was going to have the baby early anyway, so it was developed enough even though it has only been 7 months. At first they didn't think she was breathing and thought she was dead, but then she started screaming and so she lived!! She's a healthy baby girl, but she's small. My friend loves her baby very much. For the wound in her stomach, she might have to have surgery so she's still at the hospital and her baby girl is with her. For her middle name, she named it after me. I feel special... hehe. She told them that it was her mother who stabbed her, and now her mother is in jail!! I'm so proud of her for doing the right thing. Now she needs a place to live with her baby... I'm so happy that something in her life ended well. I've been smiling ever since I heard the baby was healthy and alive.
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Post by vy on Jul 10, 2006 23:58:32 GMT -5
Dear dearblackgoodbye:
I'm very happy for you, and your friend. I am glad to hear that she did what she did, because that way, her mother cannot harm her, or her baby anymore.
I would suggest that she turn to the government for assistance, because it doesn't sound like she will be able to manage on her own. Maybe talk to the nurses, or doctors and get some advice about options. They might have a program or know of something that can help. Good luck, for new life.
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