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Post by Not so sure on Sept 25, 2006 7:07:48 GMT -5
I'm 18 yrs old, pregnant and I need to tell my parents. I didn't use protection... Me and the father are keeping it and getting married. However I think he may be abusive and take advantage of me. How do i tell if this is true? I love him he says he loves me, and no matter what I'm keeping the baby.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 13:23:58 GMT -5
Hmmmm... I think that you should sit down with him and go over expectations that BOTH of you have for each other, and how you guys are going to treat the baby! Also you guys are going to be parents and you are going to have to be supporting the both of you AND the baby so you have to make sure he is willing to take a full time job maybe not now but later on.
Before the baby comes you guys need to make sure you know how you are going to run things!
Oh and i suggest getting married ASAP!!
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 25, 2006 15:13:47 GMT -5
Talk about where you will live, on what money, how the child will be treated, how you qwill be treated and analyse his answers. What do your parents feel about him? Like just you two going out, before they know you're carrying his child.
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Sept 25, 2006 15:14:17 GMT -5
what makes u think he will be abusive or use you?
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Sept 25, 2006 15:15:54 GMT -5
Has he ever hit you before? Or done anything to make you think he might abusee you?
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Post by Ruby on Sept 25, 2006 16:22:50 GMT -5
If he has ever threatened you, hit you or done anything emotionally wrong then I would NOT get married to him and I would NOT let him be near my child. A baby is a big responsibility. It's kind of like having a puppy only it's not as furry and it eats more........and then the diaper changing..........yeah, maybe it's not like a puppy at all. When I had my daughter I didn't have to worry about the father because he decided to be a jerk and bail out on me at the last second stupid 12 year olds............ anyways, I would also tell your parents right away aout this. I would get tested and go to a doctor as well. ((It also wouldn't hurt to make sure you didn't get any STDs on the safe side)) Next time I would use protection and have you and your boyfriend tested for STDs. Good luck! ;D
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Sept 25, 2006 16:53:05 GMT -5
Go ahead and keep the baby, thats a good choice. If you think about it you think he's going to be abusive for a reason. Did something happen? You need to keep you and the baby safe no matter what. Just because you have a child together does not mean you need to be married. When you consider that someone could possibably be abusive that is a warning sign. Here are some websites to help you determine if it is abuse or not. www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htmwww.breakthecycle.org/about_abuse/cycle_of_violence.htmwww.lacaaw.org/home.htmlAlso don't wait to tell your parents about your pregnancy. You will need their support through everything. You need to do alot of planning and preparing ahead of time so you are ready when the time comes. You and your boyfriend should start saving money right away. Don't get married if you are unsure. Good Luck!
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Post by Barbaro on Sept 25, 2006 18:44:12 GMT -5
As long as you have the baby, safe healthy (both of you) Thats a good thing. The hard part though, is going over it with the dad and your mom. Make sure he can handle it. And when you don't think he can, #1 don't get marrried, #2 don't let him near the kid, and #3 tell your mum. I know it might be hard, but it is the right thing to do.
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Post by `Avvy on Sept 28, 2006 15:11:27 GMT -5
hmmm..... personally, i would tell my parents as soon as possible. after all, they should be glad you didnt have one before highschool ended (or almost ended), right? secondly, about the marriage... i really wouldn't worry about it. just don't get married to him if you think hes abusive. Times are changing and a "bastard" child is no longer as bad as it once was. I'm glad that you decided to keep the child, by the way. Growing up without knowing your parents would be sheer torture. PS. you and the guy can stay together, i didnt mean break up when i said dont get married.
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Post by [Beefy] on Oct 6, 2006 20:12:54 GMT -5
Go ahead and keep the baby, thats a good choice. If you think about it you think he's going to be abusive for a reason. Did something happen? You need to keep you and the baby safe no matter what. Just because you have a child together does not mean you need to be married. When you consider that someone could possibably be abusive that is a warning sign. Here are some websites to help you determine if it is abuse or not. www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htmwww.breakthecycle.org/about_abuse/cycle_of_violence.htmwww.lacaaw.org/home.htmlAlso don't wait to tell your parents about your pregnancy. You will need their support through everything. You need to do alot of planning and preparing ahead of time so you are ready when the time comes. You and your boyfriend should start saving money right away. Don't get married if you are unsure. Good Luck! Very good advice :] I have to agree with you. [/size]
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Post by vy on Oct 6, 2006 23:47:22 GMT -5
Dear Not so sure:
Very happy to hear that you'll be having your baby, that is great news.
What makes you think that your boyfriend is abusive? Is there anyone trustworthy that you can talk to, and get support from?
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