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Post by helpgirl on Mar 7, 2006 21:27:37 GMT -5
ok i just found out my friend is somkeing and drinking and she told me this herself well i made a promisom not to tell anyone but i just dount kno wht to do
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Mar 7, 2006 22:29:04 GMT -5
It's always hard when a friend makes you promise to keep a secret thats really hard to keep. Its up to you whether you are willing to break that promise to save your friend or try and help your friend on your own and keep the promise. You should inform yourself on the risk with smoking and drinking and then inform your friend. Is she doing it just with certain people she hangs out with or does she do it alone? Most people start out doing it socially or just because everyone else is doing it. Is there something going on in her life that is bothering her that you know of? If there is maybe talk to her about that and help her get help for that. When you do that you can go into the other problems like drinking and smoking. If shes athletic or something explain to her how its going to affect her lungs and breathing. If shes not find something that she does that this is going to affect and show her whats going to happen if she continues.
If the problem presist's I think you should tell someone like your parent's or a counseller at school and keep it confidential and then the counseller can just talk to her and she won't know you told. Tell the counseller or teacher that you don't want your friend to know that you told because you promised not too..
I know breaking promise's aren't nice or fun but its worth it to stop something that could turn out to be a really destructive future.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 8, 2006 21:13:01 GMT -5
I think you should tell. Whats worse a friend with a failing liver and lung cancer , stinky breath , stinky fingers/clothes or a friend who's mad at you for awhile? think about it you could be saving her life from continuing this for a long time.
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Mar 9, 2006 0:15:07 GMT -5
I agree with both post's above. I have nothing more to add.
Good luck with your friend I wish the best too you.
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Post by pretzelofconfusion on Mar 9, 2006 14:28:44 GMT -5
i agree with all of the above. she needs help whether it be by you or someone else but something definitely needs to be done.
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Post by helpgirl on Mar 9, 2006 19:34:23 GMT -5
thank you guys well i told my friend about how much i care for her and stuff and then i told her she was being studiped and then she says o i only somke and drink just for fun and iam like what.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Mar 9, 2006 20:08:39 GMT -5
That to me says that shes just doing it too fit in or to 'look cool' Has she started to hang out with anyone new? Someone thats influencing her?
either way she shouldn't do it just for fun because she pretty much killing her body. I would of said to her " so ruining your organs is fun?"
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Post by goochmonster on Mar 10, 2006 1:42:07 GMT -5
What she said ^^^
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Post by stars2mind on Mar 10, 2006 2:38:01 GMT -5
i think what she told you was a lie cause i used to use that lie on my friends to hide my sadness. and how i felt.......that little fun thing isnt going to be a fun thing for long...watch she's gonna get addicted to them "helping" her out for stress...but dont let her do it. it will lead to many things....im telling you from experience!
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 11, 2006 2:40:00 GMT -5
i think what she told you was a lie cause i used to use that lie on my friends to hide my sadness. and how i felt.......that little fun thing isnt going to be a fun thing for long...watch she's gonna get addicted to them "helping" her out for stress...but dont let her do it. it will lead to many things....im telling you from experience! I totally agree, Shes going to think its fun and then it's going to take over her life because she will like the feeling of not having to feel while shes drunk. Shes usuing this to cover up her problems. There has to be reason why ANYONE would try drinking, smoking or drugs. There's always a reason in the beging and then it just becomes a destructive lifestyle. You need to help her ASAP before it gets worse or else she will be like this for a long time or forever. Just think getting drunk at parties she could get raped or abused. Not trying to sound harsh but it could happen!!
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 13, 2006 19:19:04 GMT -5
And I agree with everyone else. People start off doing it just for fun or to cover up other problems but sooner or later that 'fun' is an addiction that can ruin your life. Its better to stop now then later when its going to be 100 times more hard because you become dependent on it.
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Post by aod on Mar 13, 2006 20:17:37 GMT -5
the alcohol isnt much of a problem if allowing your liver to clean out the poison the somking on the other hand is the problem smokes arent going to get any cheaper there high right now so people will quit easier
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Post by Dregond [Gone] on Mar 14, 2006 4:39:41 GMT -5
Give them a cold, they wont be able to smoke i smoke, Wheee...well..ermm...once in a blue moon (exam time) but hey im not a kid ..and im not addicted..iv been clean for nearly a year now.. most people start smoking due to peer pressure ..thats how it starts, after that it grows into an addiction because it feel like a way to feel important and cool ..its relaly silly
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Mar 14, 2006 5:06:30 GMT -5
Hey helpgirl, If you have an update I would love to hear it. or read. lol
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Post by L.B on Mar 15, 2006 21:12:03 GMT -5
tell someone.
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Post by helpgirl on Apr 24, 2006 20:49:43 GMT -5
hey again k well to make along story short i told her that she was being studiped then i went and told the conselor b/c she was really scareing me she still is b/c shes loseing weight anyway she got mad at me and for a while we where in a fight and every day i would come home in tears then one day itlike changed for the good now we are friends again
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Apr 25, 2006 4:24:03 GMT -5
aww thats good its all good now I hope it stays that way for u
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