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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Jun 19, 2006 0:30:27 GMT -5
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Post by Honey Beeswax on Jun 19, 2006 4:40:54 GMT -5
I dunno I wouldnt cuz then he might get mad if he isnt being abusive but then u have to protect her if he is cuz shes ur friend, is there anyway u could find out for sure before u say something?
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Post by Sparkle on Jun 19, 2006 13:38:52 GMT -5
Just ask her 'Hey, are you and *insert name here* OK? I've noticed *Insert things you've noticed here* and I just wanted to make sure you're OK' and then wait for her to talk to you.
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Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 19, 2006 16:06:34 GMT -5
What sparkle said sounds like it could work
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Post by allianne on Jun 19, 2006 20:53:24 GMT -5
Why do you think your friend is being abused by her boyfriend? Has she had lots of bruises or injuries after she's been around him? I wouldn't come right out and say it, as it might just be nothing. But, I just feel that if you think he's abusing her that something at least must be going on. You don't just randomly suspect that. This is what I found for signs of abuse: Bruises or injuries that look like they came from choking, punching, or being thrown down. Black eyes, red or purple marks at the neck, and sprained wrists are common injuries sustained in violent relationships. An injury such as bruised arms might suggest that a victim tried to defend herself. Attempting to hide bruises with makeup or clothing. Making excuses like tripping or being accident-prone or clumsy. Often the seriousness of the injury does not match up with the explanation. Having low self-esteem; being extremely apologetic and meek. Referring to the partner's temper but not disclosing extent of abuse. Having few close friends and being isolated from relatives and coworkers and kept from making friends. Having little money available; may not have credit cards or even a car. Having a drug or alcohol abuse problem. Talking about suicide or attempting suicide Maybe say that you've noticed things seem different or weird between them? Ask if they're having problems? ^ Listen to Sparkle.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Jun 20, 2006 4:39:50 GMT -5
Well I noticed a few bruises on her forearms where it looked like someone sqeezed them or something and A few weeks back she had a huge bruise on her sholder but said she was bending down and the cupboard door above her was open and she smaked it with her shoulder by accident, Shes been way quiter especially when he is around now, He does most of the talking when before you would try to get her to be quiet for 5 seconds lol. I will try what sparkle said, Should I do it with him there or no?
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Post by Sparkle on Jun 20, 2006 15:00:58 GMT -5
No! Not with him there! If he is abusive, that won't go well at all. In private.
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Post by butter on Jun 20, 2006 17:30:24 GMT -5
you have to be gentle with this. like sparkle said, if he is abusive, he will be mad by the fact that you have noticed or that you ask. And that may make him want to hurt her more.Please be very careful with this
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Post by L.B on Jun 21, 2006 3:58:56 GMT -5
No do not do it with him, talk to her privately. She may lie if he is there anyways and then later on he will get madder at her.
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Jun 21, 2006 15:06:25 GMT -5
just do wat sparkle said, thats a good idea. I would do that, like say that your worried about her.
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Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 21, 2006 16:51:58 GMT -5
PRIVATELY AND SAY WHAT SPARKLE SAID
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Jun 23, 2006 21:52:00 GMT -5
Okay well I said it to her but she never really answered me and I didn't want to pry. I noticed she didn't make eye contact at all.. looking over to the side like she was looking right through me and I kind of got the vibe like she was nervous almost. It was a really weird feeling.. I think I'll bring it up again this wekend.
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Jun 24, 2006 17:24:33 GMT -5
hmm sounds very suspicious, I hope everything goes well this weekend. Sounds like she is hiding something. Let us know how it goes!
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Jun 25, 2006 3:24:43 GMT -5
Yeah I'll be asking her tomorrow after Family breakfest shes coming over.
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