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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Jul 20, 2006 13:45:05 GMT -5
I was online last night when a friend of mine came online crying. I asked her what was wrong and she told me that one of her friends commited suicide by shooting herself. I felt really bad for her and tried to help her the best I could but she still feels like it was partly her fault. She feels guitly that her advice didn't help the girl from killing herself. I told her that she did the best she could and that's all anyone would have asked of her but I don't think she listened to me. She has always helped people who cut or thought about suicide before and this was the first person that she couldn't help. I don't know what to do to make her feel better and to let her know that none of it was her fault. Also my other friend was friends with that girl who killed herself. I was told that he locked himself in his sisters room and was crying. I am afraid that he might do something stupid. He has been known to cut when things get bad (like me). I don't want to yell at him if he did cut because I'll feel like a hypocrite, but I want to help them feel better. I just have no clue how to do that.
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Post by Southern_Cowgirl on Jul 20, 2006 16:27:50 GMT -5
I now how it is to have a friend commit suicide by shooting herself i went threw that last Jan. The best advice that i can give u is to be there for them because that is what i need and it is hard to deal with for a long time. You did your good by telling her that. She may not have listen but she knows deep down that its true. About your other friend what you should do is tell him that you are there for him and if he needs to talk about anything to call you.
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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Jul 20, 2006 16:44:07 GMT -5
Thanks.....my other friend came out of his sister's room (thank god). He didn't harm himself that I know of although I haven't spoken to him yet. Their both doing better but I will do everything you said. Thanks and I'm sorry about your friend.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Jul 20, 2006 19:04:05 GMT -5
Your a great friend for being there and when other people commit suicide we have to know that its not our fault because we couldn't stop them. Some people in that state of mind just don't listen because they have such a cloudy veiw of whats going on and its hard to get them to see the better side of things. Its not your fault or your friends fault. Just be there for them as much as you feel comfortable doing. If something seem like its going to be to much for you to handle turn to someone else to help you out.
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Post by Seira on Jul 20, 2006 23:58:50 GMT -5
Alright. As for your first friend: Try taking her out somewhere, for ice cream or something, and try not to bring it up too much. I'm not sure about your friend, but I had a friend who was constantly threatening to cut and kill herself, and sent me scary notes in school and such, and I hated it when anyone asked me about her, because I felt so guilty that nothing I was doing was helping that I didn't even want to think of what she was doing at that moment. I felt like everything she did to herself was my fault because I couldn't help her, and this seems the same way as your friend does. Try getting her mind off of it... it just might work. After a while when she seems a little better, you should make sure she's okay.
Er.. yeah. Heh.
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Jul 25, 2006 13:23:14 GMT -5
Everyone feels that way when they lose a friend. She tried as best as she could. She has to keep up hope though.
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Post by Honey Beeswax on Jul 27, 2006 20:49:22 GMT -5
Awwwe thagts so terrible just be there for her.
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Post by Sparkle on Jul 28, 2006 4:16:37 GMT -5
I agree with every thing that's been said above. Just tell her that you'll be there for her whatever, whenever, and make sure she knows it Keep updating us x
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