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Post by anthrax on Jun 14, 2006 14:26:15 GMT -5
icve tried my best to help a friend through some really bad times now they think im trying to belittle them and im strugling to find a way of making them realise that what i say mey be what they have heard a thousand times but maybey just maybey if they tried them might get somewhere
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Jun 14, 2006 14:45:41 GMT -5
Its hard for me to answer that with not knowing what the problem is or what they "think" is making them feel belittled. Have you tried re-wording it? Maybe what people have told them won't work for them and thats why they aren't taking the advice. Even when people ask for advice sometimes they don't really want it and they don't take the advice and apply it to their situation because its not what they are looking for, Usually its just because they aren't ready at that time to let their guard down and try to fix it. Maybe the only thing you can do is lay it on the table for them to take or not and give them time.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Jun 15, 2006 4:21:47 GMT -5
It really sucks when you try so hard to help someone but nothing seems to work, Im going to have to agree with killerstyle on this one. Maybe she just doesnt want to be helped right now, there could be many reasons but I don't really know the situation. Maybe try suggesting something different to them so it doesn't sound like regurgatated bullshit everytime.
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Post by allianne on Jun 16, 2006 18:31:19 GMT -5
Well, um, a lot of times when people are going through something tough they think there can't be a simple solution. So when you give them advice it sounds like you are belittling their problem because they think it won't work. They think it's a big problem and therefore it needs something more drastic to help. People react in different ways when you try to help, so it can be hard to know how to help. Just be there for your friend and show them you really want to help. Then if your friend decides to listen to suggestions for help they will probably be more open to you.
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Post by Honey Beeswax on Jun 17, 2006 3:43:53 GMT -5
just do the best u can
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Post by Firey Shades Of Blue on Jun 27, 2006 0:27:26 GMT -5
Let us know what happened
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