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Post by kk on Apr 9, 2006 23:52:03 GMT -5
my parents are going thru a custody battle over me and i June it will b 4 a year. my dad pretty much ignores me and my doctor even wrote a note 2 the courts 4 me. last year when this started i was cutting so bad that i almost had 2 go 2 the hospital. well tings r getting worse again and i am back 2 cutting. i need help on how 2 stop
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Post by amber on Apr 10, 2006 1:32:07 GMT -5
man that must suck my parents divorced when i was 6 im 14 now and its really hard i know how u feel. try and do something else when u think ur going to cut. i know its hard but maybe talk to a counseller or something,. you need alot of help getting through this. try the rubber band method. put a rubber band on ur wrist and everytime u think of cutting snapp it and then later when u dont get urges anymore u can take it off. it worked for me so it might work for u goodluck kk i'll be praying for u
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Apr 12, 2006 2:49:16 GMT -5
Stopping the cutting is easier said than done. I have read a lot of different suggestions. Basically what it boils down to is that you have to want to stop hurting yourself. Of course cutting releases pain and tension. Of course it makes you feel better immediately, but in the long run, it makes you feels worse.
When you cut, you generally end up feeling ashamed that you hurt yourself and embarrassed by the scratches and scars. There are other ways to cope with your pain that won't make you feel bad about yourself. Here are some of my suggestions:
Do something creative! Everyone enjoys doing something creative, whether you're good at it or not! I have a friend that paints, one that journals, and still another that writes poetry. I have several friends that write and compose music to release their frustrations. Personally, I like to create/modify websites to get my mind off the things that are bothering me. Sometimes I'll take photographs, work on graphics, or just surf the web for ideas. Entertain your mind! You can do a lot of things to occupy your mind besides expelling creative energy. You don't have to dwell on your problems. You can watch TV, rent a movie, or read a book. I would suggest something comical, not dramatic! I would also suggest going to a theater to see a movie because it helps to get out of the house. Also, if you go to a theatre you can't turn the movie off halfway through and you'll be less likely to leave since you've paid money to get in
Talk! This is probably the most obvious suggestion in the book! You can and should talk to others about your problem! You'd be surprised at how understanding people can be. I would suggest turning to a close friend or SO first, but parents can be a good thing to fall back on. If you are not sure how to broach the issue, here are some suggestions. Practice Violence! Did I really say to do something violent? Yes, but not something that will hurt you or someone else. You can rip up or punch a pillow, scream your lungs off, jump up and down, or practice a combination of things. Exercise is also a good idea, since it can be good for you. Ideas that a friend of mine suggests:
Journal! Keep a self-injury journal of the bad times. Sometimes, writing can help sway your feelings and the desire to self-injure will subside. Afterwards, you can analyze your feelings and possibly avoid what triggered the desire to self-injure in you in the first place. Music! Listen to music. Make mood tapes. Tori Amos seems to be a favorite. Little bits of her music and snippets of quotes twist themselves around the edge of my friend's journal. She has a lot of tapes she has made for herself that help her when she is in the mood to self injure. She has sent quite a few of these tapes to me. They give her something to identify with, so she knows she is not alone. Collages! Another interesting thing that she does when she feels down is make collages. She has several that are very interesting, although most are painful to see. It hurts to know someone is in such pain, especially when you know what they are going through and still don't know how to help them. We talk about her collages, why she chooses the images she does, and I try to reinforce that she is just as intelligent, beautiful, and important as the people in her collages.
Another thing to do, after you have calmed the urge to Self-Injure, is to go back through your day and try to determine what pushed you to want to SI. If you can recognize what is causing the problem, you can attempt to come to terms with it or handle it differently
Have alternative routes that you can pursue immediately instead of SI. Buy a red marker to pull across your arm, or a notebook in which you can furiously scribble your thoughts
squeeze ice wear a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you have the desire to SI scream, cry, etc. take a cold bath or hot or cold shower bite into something strongly flavored (hot peppers, gingerroot, unpeeled lemon/lime/grapefruit) rub Ben-Gay or Icy-Hot or Vap-O-Rub under your nose, sex, etc. punch a stuffed animal - rip it apart
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Apr 14, 2006 16:59:13 GMT -5
wow good advice chad I dont think I can add anymore I hope it helped u
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Apr 24, 2006 4:17:16 GMT -5
hey kk i hope your okay for real man that must be soo tough to go through just beg the judge to let u live with ur mom i hope your ok! post back please and let us know.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 1, 2006 17:49:06 GMT -5
Where have you been? I hope everythings okay
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