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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Apr 12, 2006 18:25:25 GMT -5
last night my gf was upset so i went to go see her. i gave her a hug asnd she pulled back ansd i saw some blood on her shirt so i asked her what happened. she told me the she was playing with the cat and it scratched her stomcch I know it wasnt the cat because the cat wouldnt of gone deep like it just didnt look like a cat and the cuts were spread out too far. How do i confront her with out her getting mad or upset or think that i think shes a liar and stuff i dont want to make her anymore upset it could be the cat tho becuase u only cut ur arms right and this was on her stomach and i noticed some by her ankels 2
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Post by stars2mind on Apr 12, 2006 22:28:07 GMT -5
hey i will just ask her what wrong (like if you noticed that she has been sad more than usual...tell her that) tell her that you have been noticing that she has been mad/sad (anything that is unusual of her) lately...and thats how you start it...keep going untill she tells you something...but i have to warn you though that if you keep going untill you get something...there is a possiblility she will get mad if you insist on her telling you and she doesnt want to....if she gets mad.....or you can go the easiest (but you may not get a fast response) you could ask her if there is anything wrong and if she doesnt tell you..tell her that she could tell you anything... or the easiest thing write it in a letter and explain everything you want to say to her...
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Apr 12, 2006 22:48:35 GMT -5
You have to be careful on pushing the subject on her. The best way I have seemed to get information from someone is give them time. I agree with stars that you should tell her you notice she has been sad or angry alot more lately. That would be a good starter to the conversation. Push a bit but not much. If your not getting the response you were hoping for which would be her telling you the truth let it go and just let her know that your there for her 24/7 and she can talk to you anytime. Make her feel comfortable talking to you and that she can go at her own pace. It might be hard for her to tell because of embarrassment, shame, guilt etc so don't get angry if she doesn't tell you right away. Keep a close eye on her also. You don't want this to get out of hand and have her accidentally kill herself. If you ever think its getting overboard or you notice more cuts etc tell her parents or yours or call 911 if shes in immediate danger. If she calls you or messages you telling you that she wants to die I would suggest calling 911 right away.
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Apr 15, 2006 10:51:04 GMT -5
usually people cut anywhere, i know some people that cut their legs..like their thighs..and some people cut their necks or somachs...ive cut my ankles and my arms..so i think you should ask her if she has ever thought bout cutting...then ask her if shes telling you the truth because people in a relationship should be open..and help each other out when they need it! good luck..PM me if u want to talk some more
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Post by Sparkle on Apr 15, 2006 16:01:09 GMT -5
Wrong wrong WRONG. People don't just cut on there arms. I've cut on arms (top and bottom), thighs, ankles, feet, stomach, and some other places. And I know loads of people that have cut in personal places and stuff... so they can cut any where. Don't confront her with 'do you cut' that'll make her close up like a clam. I agree with the 'I've noticed you've been upset lately. Any thing you want to talk about? I'm here whatever.' thing.
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