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Post by Southern_Cowgirl on Jun 28, 2006 17:49:18 GMT -5
What would you do if you found out that you had a older half brother that you never met or knew about? would you try and find him or just go on like you never knew about it??
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Jun 28, 2006 18:19:03 GMT -5
I would deffinatly try to find him, Why not? I think it would be really cool.
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Post by [Taboo] on Jun 28, 2006 19:41:16 GMT -5
I would try and find hem
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Post by Firey Shades Of Blue on Jun 28, 2006 20:11:23 GMT -5
I would try my hardest to find them. It would be too hard to just go on knowing that I have other family members out there and I don't know them.
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Post by Sparkle on Jun 29, 2006 0:38:31 GMT -5
Try and find them..... has this happened to you? How did you find out?
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jun 29, 2006 0:46:01 GMT -5
I guess I'd have to be in that situation and see what part of my life I was at if I was wanting to go through it all.. <<<Does that make sence?>>
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Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 29, 2006 5:11:53 GMT -5
Do you have a older half brother you don't know about??? I think I would look but get my parents to help alot.
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Post by Southern_Cowgirl on Jun 29, 2006 16:31:12 GMT -5
Yeppers I gots a older bro and well i found out because my grandma saw that their was another child on the child support and that i didn't belong to my mom and my grandma ask my mom about it and i kinda over heard it cuz she started cursing and drinking more and i want to find him sooo badly and i have tried but the problem is that i don't know his mother's name and i don't know what state him lives in. If i remember corretly(which its probably wrong) then he did live in Texas.....
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Post by Kat on Jun 29, 2006 16:55:55 GMT -5
Hmm...that sounds very tough and confusing. If you want to find him, you might as well ask someone about it. If your mom started drinking and cursing, it sounds like she wouldn't be the best person to ask, but on the other hand, who else would you turn to? You could always just casually ask why she was drinking and cursing the other night, and she what she says. If her reaction is fierce, you know to back off and try and find out some other way (try searching for family trees--my mom was doing ours a while ago and she went to look it up and she found a whole bunch of distant relatives she never knew we had). If she's nice about it, though, see if she tells the truth, and if she does, you can ask politely.
I strongly recommend that, while it's hard not to, don't get too worked up about it. While living a lie is really hard, if you let it ruin your life, or affect your attitude and your ability to concentrate on things in the present, it's important to focus on other things in your life. Something you should remember is that you can find this out more easily when you get older; it's possible that your parents didn't tell you because they were afraid you would be upset and planned to tell you at an older age.
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Post by Southern_Cowgirl on Jun 29, 2006 17:59:18 GMT -5
Well see the problem with asking my mom is that she is in jail and the reason why she start cursin and drinkin more cuz its my father's son and he was cheatin on her when they were married and i aint gettin ahold of him but see he don't have the same last name as i do so i don't know how to do that
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Jun 29, 2006 18:49:23 GMT -5
i agree with everyone above
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Post by Sparkle on Jun 30, 2006 0:18:29 GMT -5
I think hwta Kat said is probably the best thing to do in this situation
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Post by stars2mind on Jul 3, 2006 3:26:20 GMT -5
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 6, 2006 12:57:41 GMT -5
Yeppers I gots a older bro and well i found out because my grandma saw that their was another child on the child support and that i didn't belong to my mom and my grandma ask my mom about it and i kinda over heard it cuz she started cursing and drinking more and i want to find him sooo badly and i have tried but the problem is that i don't know his mother's name and i don't know what state him lives in. If i remember corretly(which its probably wrong) then he did live in Texas..... If your grandma found out from the child support it would also say the address its going too so your best bet is to ask your grandma. You could find out in 5 minutes.
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Post by Ruby on Jul 17, 2006 10:45:26 GMT -5
Wow! I had a very similar situation! About 3 years ago I found out that I had a half sister who was 15 at the time. I don't know why but my mom or dad didn't tell s she was our half sister at first. They had her come over and spend time with us but we were told that she was a daughter of a friend of my moms. We found out after a year that she was our half sis. We were shocked and confused at the same time. After a while it got easier to accept it and I grew very attatched to her. She is almost 19 currently and she comes to visit every week. I love her more than anything in the world. I think that if you want to know about your half brother, go find him and meet him! Good luck!
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Post by Southern_Cowgirl on Jul 19, 2006 13:50:45 GMT -5
well there is a little problem i dont know where to go for the child support thing and i cant find it
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 19, 2006 17:03:48 GMT -5
Your local Social Service place I think. It depends where you live. Try looking in the phone book or look on google for Child Support *Your City*
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