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Post by Ruby on Jul 14, 2006 17:27:05 GMT -5
Lasy year my cousin died, she was 17 and she died in a car accident. I feel so empty inside without her. It's been almost 2 years now and my family has started movinf forward with their lives but I just can't bring myself to go on without her. We were so close and I feel a desperate need to see her again. Everybody has told me "It will take time, just remember all of the good times with her" and my favorite "she's in a better place now" Those words were meant to make me feel better but they don't. What can I do? I have awful dreams about the accident and I dream about her all the time. I just miss her so badly. ^^This pic is the one they put in the newspaper^^
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 14, 2006 19:18:33 GMT -5
Awwwh she is so pretty!!! Its normal to feel the way you feel. Try talking to a grief counseller, They will give you great tools on how to deal with all the troubles your having surrounding her death. People don't really know what to say to someone when this happens so they go with the normal things like "It will get better" " they are in a better place" etc.. and it might not always make you feel better but it is true.
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Post by allianne on Jul 14, 2006 19:31:44 GMT -5
There's people you can talk to that are especially trained to talk about deaths and grief. I highly recomend you ask your parents to see one. I'm sure they'll understand. We all have things in our life that are harder for us to move on and accept. You don't want to forget her, and you don't want to live with out her. Death is a hard thing to come to terms with, especially when you're were close to them. I'm so sorry about your cousin, and I hope you go and talk to someone. We're all here for you.
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Post by Viper on Jul 15, 2006 0:54:42 GMT -5
Yes they pretty much said it all but just remeber you will be seeing her again.
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Post by Ruby on Jul 15, 2006 17:35:52 GMT -5
Thanks for the advice so far! I have thought about talking to someone but, I'm just scared to ask my mom if I could. I'm really close to my mom so I don't know why I would be scared but I am.
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Post by stars2mind on Jul 15, 2006 18:00:14 GMT -5
whats the worst your mom could say?
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Post by Ruby on Jul 15, 2006 20:02:17 GMT -5
I don't know, that's what I'm afraid of.
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Post by allianne on Jul 15, 2006 22:12:25 GMT -5
Try telling your mom that you're having trouble dealing with your cousin's death and you feel that talking to a counselor that specializes in grief counseling might make you feel better. I'm sure your mom will understand. She's not going to say that it's a stupid idea or that she won't let you go. Don't worry, she won't say anything to make you feel bad.
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Post by stars2mind on Jul 15, 2006 22:35:37 GMT -5
if a mom loves her children she will do anything in her power to keep her children happy although moms can be a pain in the butt the key here is commmunication!!! talk to each other and say how you feel dont be afraid to hide your feelings hiding your feelings doesnt help
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 19, 2006 17:05:21 GMT -5
Sometimes its hard to ask for help but afterwards you will feel much better.
Did you end up asking?
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Post by Ruby on Jul 20, 2006 22:12:11 GMT -5
I tried and then I just kinda gave up, I'm going to ask her tomorrow though.
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Post by stars2mind on Jul 21, 2006 3:24:54 GMT -5
good luck!!!! *hugs*
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Jul 21, 2006 22:44:39 GMT -5
Try writing the note, Its easier to say things in a note then saying them out loud. Greif counselling is a really good thing to do after something happens like this and its going to take time to feel better and your always going to miss her. It will get better though,. I wish you the best of luck Pm me anytime.
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Post by Ruby on Jul 22, 2006 12:31:43 GMT -5
Thanx everybody! I talked to her and everything is pretty much set and we're going to start looking for a counsellor this week. *hugs all* thanks a ton, that idea was awesome
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