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my mom
May 31, 2006 5:49:04 GMT -5
Post by bmxchick on May 31, 2006 5:49:04 GMT -5
hey my moms an alcoholic but she will not admit it she's been drinking since i was about 5. Since after my dad passed away.
It got bad when i was about 9 and I got put in forster care. I am now 17 she hasn;t stopped drinking ever and her drinking has got to the point now where she has a great job but she is drinking and not going to work any more. We have no relatives that are alive anymore so no relatives can help me. I have an awesome boyfriend who says if I need I can stay at his if I ever need to get away, but I don't want to burden him. I don't know where to go for help. I am in my first year at college and I want to go on to do college next year.
I fear if I stay here I will have to quit college and get a full time job. I don't know what to do or where to turn. It is really starting to effect me. I am starting to take my stress out on my boyfriend by play hitting him and I am scared I am getting to violent. I never want to hurt him
Can anyone help me. I live in the U.K.
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my mom
May 31, 2006 5:55:20 GMT -5
Post by L.B on May 31, 2006 5:55:20 GMT -5
Theres people here who live in that area, I'm sure they will be able to give some suggestions.
I think your moms been drinking for so long that your not going to be able to stop her. Shes going to have to stop for her self. I think the most you can do is tell her to get help for her addiction and leave it at that. I know its difficult to just be cold hearted to your mom but usually nothing else will work.
I'm a bit confused. Are you still in foster care or living with your mom now? I don't know if your problems are at your foster home or mothers. Here in the USA if the foster parents adopt you, you usually stay till your 19.
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my mom
May 31, 2006 5:56:45 GMT -5
Post by bmxchick on May 31, 2006 5:56:45 GMT -5
i am living at home with my mom
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my mom
May 31, 2006 6:05:54 GMT -5
Post by L.B on May 31, 2006 6:05:54 GMT -5
Honestly its not your "job" to skip out on a Education and get a job to help support your mom. Guys don't offer their place to a girl unless they mean it. You wouldn't be a burden on him at all. If he thought you would be he would of never offered. It also seems like you love each alot so it would probably work out. Your mom has to care for herself shes a grown women, You need to live your life, go to school and make something out of yourself. Maybe go to a inpatient place and enquiry about your mom maybe they can do something for her, I know here there is alot of places that have programs for this stuff. Sorry If I sound harsh Im really not meaning to. I dont mean leave your mom out in the cold but you should continue your own life and be happy. Suggest things to her and then its up to her to do them
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my mom
May 31, 2006 16:49:07 GMT -5
Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 31, 2006 16:49:07 GMT -5
I think school is more important. If you drop out and start working then your living your life for your mom and really you need to live it for yourself. If you can I think you should go stay with your boyfriend. Your in a tough position right now, I don't know what I would do but I know that I would live my life because my mom isn't my responsibility, shes the one that should be doing better then me! I'm really sorry to hear about your dad. Going through foster care is tough sometimes.
In your city there should be places with people who can help your mom, Just be there for her but don't do it for her. If you look in your phone book Im sure you will find something.
Your probably play hitting your boyfriend because this is making you angry. Try not to take your frustrations out on him. You need to deal with it at the root and that would be the alcohol.
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my mom
May 31, 2006 17:20:13 GMT -5
Post by Beautiful Disaster on May 31, 2006 17:20:13 GMT -5
If you really want to look after your mom then maybe you can take a year off or something? Its up to you but that also will set you back a year. Since you have no family to help you there are places where other people who know about alcohol addiction would help you. The phone book is a great place to look for those things. What are you going to school for?
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my mom
Jun 26, 2006 4:31:25 GMT -5
Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 26, 2006 4:31:25 GMT -5
Hun that must be soooo hard for you! So much pressure and stress ta deal with! Live with ur boyfriend. he's offering and he obviously wants to live with you so atleast be there until you can figure stuff out. I hope everything goes okay for you I wish I lived in the UK so I could suggest some places to look for help maybe try google.com.. take care bmxchick!
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my mom
Jul 3, 2006 18:33:05 GMT -5
Post by allianne on Jul 3, 2006 18:33:05 GMT -5
My mom used to be an alcoholic so I know how tough it is. You want to help her because she's your mother, but it also gets in the way of your life, which isn't fair. How about if you looked into some places that your mom could stay at to help alcoholics? You could try looking places up and calling and telling them about your situation. But, I'd say that's the most you can do.
What would you gain by taking a year off of school to help your mom? She's an alcoholic. Whether you're there or not, she's an alcoholic. She needs constant care and professional help. She's been like this for so many years now! You can't expect to be able to fix it all in a year by yourself. You'd have so much emotional strain and your mom will scream at you and hate you for trying to stop her from drinking. She needs more help than you can give her. You need to try and find her help and still live your life. Give her support and encourage her, but don't let it get in the way of your education. She's a grown woman, and as hard as it is to admit, it's not your job to take care of her. You should come first.
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