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Post by TigerLilly on Apr 9, 2006 2:20:33 GMT -5
Ok I have a problem with this guy, It seems like he used me. He told me he really liked me but I looked through he's e-mail and it said to a different person that he liked her alot. Like I'm confused. I know I had no right to look at he's letters but we do that he goes in my e-mail and I go in he's. I'm soo Pissed at him I feel really used. What should I do?? and I really really liked him I had the guts to tell him I did. I liked him for the passed couple months now and he told me he liked me sence the starting. I really believed him now I don't know what to believe. So I really need help. what should I do?? Should I talk to him?? I really thought we would be bf and gf. But I guess not. and I was at my sister house for the past week and he was telling me that I have no more time for him. but when I do he talks to the other girl and it makes me a lil mad and jealous. I dunno i'm very confused I kinda asked him who he likes and he said sence I do n't tell him anything anymore ... thats all he didn't tell me what the ... ment. So now I'm lost and :-( so Yah well I hafta go ok bye bye -TigerLilly
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Post by butter on Apr 9, 2006 2:48:24 GMT -5
Confront him again! You will get an answer eventually.It is really annoying, I know, the same thing has happened to me! Remember to be kind though, don't let your anger just completely over take you and start yelling at him.You may feel like he deserves it, but you will get alot more answers if you confront him nicely.Tell him exactly how you feel.Honesty always works!
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Apr 9, 2006 3:09:06 GMT -5
Looking through someone's email is a serious invasion of their privacy. You deserve any confusion or upset feelings you get from snooping in someone's personal stuff. Besides, don't you ever say things or have thoughts that you don't really mean? What he says to others and what he really feels are not the same. But relationships are built on trust and respect, which are the opposite of reading someone's private emails. If you keep that up, you'll never have anything real with this guy. Stop digging for information and start actually talking to him and listening to him. Instead of trying to figuring out hidden meanings behind things, pay attention to what he actually says and what his behavior is when he is with you. If you wonder about how he is feeling, ASK him straight out! If you can't communicate and interact with him in person, you may not be mature enough for a relationship.
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Post by Sparkle on Apr 9, 2006 7:57:53 GMT -5
Exactly what Killerstyle said. If you want to know some thing, ask, don't look through their private stuff- and this thing with each other looking through each others emails... if you ask me that's complete bull. You both deserve your privacy. But now you';ve done it it can't be helped, ad the best thing you can do is ask him about it straight. Sorry if I was a bit harsh Charlie XO
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Post by lilcrazygirl on Apr 9, 2006 19:47:47 GMT -5
^ I'm with these two up here!!! Going through his email wasn't a good idea. If you thought something was up then you should've asked him from the start. Ok.....I know I'm not helping right now by yelling at you. Now.......you should ask him straight out if he likes somebody else and also tell him that you want the TRUTH!!! If he keeps on giving you bull like what you were saying he said tell him that that wasn't the answer you were looking for and tell him straight out that you want a yes or no answer. Hope that helped!!!
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Post by TigerLilly on Apr 10, 2006 1:38:53 GMT -5
Okay like I *beep*ing said he goes through my e-mail to so I had every right to go through his and i dont care about my privacy because i have nothing to hide he does obviously though! and I am mature enough to have a *beep*ing relationship! I cant ask him because he will just lie to me anyways so I have to find out some how, and hes *beep*ing everything to me so wtf I have a right to know. I want to be his gf he told me that he liked me so he has to go out with me now. I will ask him if he likes her but do u think if he says he does I should make rumors about her so he likes me more? I'll make sure he doesn't find out though and it will be great! is that a good idea? I mean i love him Ive been getting to know him for the last couple month and he told me lots how much he likes me so were pretty much going out now right? anywho thanks for the advice. please respond -TigerLilly
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Apr 10, 2006 8:30:50 GMT -5
makin up rumors about her is not going to get you anywhere. and I agree it doesnt seem like your even mature enough to have a relationship if u were u wouldnt be thinking about making up rumors to have a guy like u. if he doesnt like u he doesnt like u tough shit. Dont u feel like crap if u have to MAKE him like u!>!>! cuz thats what ur doing ur trying to make him like u. get over it if he doesnt like u dont act all psycotic about it making up rumors and shit. and just because he said he likes you DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU ARE GOING ON. you are going out when TWO people like EACH OTHER and one asks the other to go out. In this case it doesnt seem like he likes u and quite frankly i dont blame him. who would like a girl that would start rumors about another girl to make them like them!?>!>!@>@>@>#@$>@#>$$@#%@%@
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Post by vy on Apr 10, 2006 19:04:25 GMT -5
Dear TigerLilly:
It sounds like you like this guy a lot, but don't trust him at all: going through his email, referring to this answers as lies, and etc. Maybe you should sit down and reconsider whether you actually want to go out with him, since it sounds like you can't even trust him?
Unfortunatley, even though you might like him, and you think he might also like you, that doesn't make you his girlfriend.
Since it doesn't sound like you are familar with how the rules of "dating" are, here is a little of my personal experience:
1.) To know if the boy likes you: he will ask you out, and will not mind telling you so - no matter how shy.
2.) Going on a date/hanging out does not automatically make you his girlfriend. Guys just like to hang - you know? They don't think anything of it.
3.) To know if the boy wants to date you: he will ask you out!
4.) To know if the boy wants you to be his girlfriend: he will ask you to be his girlfriend and will tell you so.
It is just as easy as that. Don't go guessing what he thinks, that will make it hard on you and him. I suggest talking to him - but if you feel like you can't trust him, then just go by what he does. There are always exceptions to what I listed - but usally if a boy is really into you, you can tell by the way he acts and what he says. If you don't believe me, lets ask some of the boys here on the site.
"If you don't mind boys, can you answer a few questions to help tigerlilly understand what boys are like?
1.) If you were really into a girl, how would you act around her?
2.) Would you ask her out? How about so examples to show tigerlilly what it really is like - when a boy is into you."
Hope this helped. ^_^
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Post by biancasaur on Apr 12, 2006 0:45:43 GMT -5
I cant ask him because he will just lie to me anyways so I have to find out some how, and hes f**king everything to me so wtf I have a right to know. If you think he's the type of guy who would "just lie to you," then maybe you should find a more honest guy to date! It doesn't sound like you trust him at all. I want to be his gf he told me that he liked me so he has to go out with me now. Unfortunately, that's not true. If you haven't had a dicussion about being exclusive, then you can't really assume that he's going to be with only you. Just liking someone doesn't mean you're attached to them. Many people go on dates with several people in one week -- that's not cheating, unless they have made a committment to one person to be with only them, and it doesn't sound like you've done that.
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