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Post by `Avvy on May 5, 2006 16:11:32 GMT -5
okay well..... i was at a party and i met a guy there.... we actually hit it off but you see, im bad with commitment... really i have a phobia of it. kissing is too much for me, but nobody seems to understand it. he tried to kiss me and i told him i wasnt going to, so now he thinks that im just not interested in him, but i am!! we'd met a few times before the party too, we just sat down and had a good talk at the party... and im so confused! please, somebody!! what can i do??
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on May 5, 2006 18:09:13 GMT -5
okay well..... i was at a party and i met a guy there.... we actually hit it off but you see, im bad with commitment... really i have a phobia of it. kissing is too much for me, but nobody seems to understand it. he tried to kiss me and i told him i wasnt going to, so now he thinks that im just not interested in him, but i am!! we'd met a few times before the party too, we just sat down and had a good talk at the party... and im so confused! please, somebody!! what can i do?? -`Avvy Go out with him. Get to know him better and tell him when you are ready to kiss, then you will let him know. Don't be shy about it, everyone does it when they are ready.
If he doesn't want to wait, then he isn't the right guy for you then (I suppose).
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Post by GrapeJuice on May 5, 2006 18:11:46 GMT -5
Tell him that you like to take things slow, he should be understanding if he truely likes you. If he doesn't understand or gets angry or annoyed he isn't the right guy for you because he's not willing to wait for you to feel comfortable. Don't do anything you don't want to do and if anyone has a problem with that.. well you know.
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Post by Kat on May 5, 2006 19:29:08 GMT -5
Insist that you are interested, but explain to him that you like to take things slowly as opposed to jumping into things. If you're too embarassed to say it, can't catch him alone, or he just doesn't want to talk to you, you can write him a letter to explain to him how you feel.
As said earlier, if he doesn't want to wait, you probably shouldn't go out with him. It's better to go out with someone that you feel comfortable with and take things at your own pace. Best act quickly! Good luck!
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 6, 2006 2:58:54 GMT -5
I ditto everything said above. Tell him you are interested in him. If you feel wierd in saying you want to move slow maybe say your just waiting awhile to see how things go till you jump into anything. The same thing but in different words. I hope he's understanding and everything works out for you
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Post by `Avvy on May 6, 2006 9:18:24 GMT -5
thanks for the help, everyone... im going to see him today at yet another party (funfunfun!) and hopefuilly it all works out:)
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Post by bgolem30 on May 7, 2006 10:55:57 GMT -5
Alright well, that's pretty tough. In order to find out if he's the right one, try explaining it to him and if he understands and likes you that much, he'll be willing to wait and help you through it. In order to keep him close, you need to let him know somehow that you do have feelings for him, wether it's a friend telling him for you, or you yourself telling him. If he doesn't understand why you like to take things very slow, and doesn't talk to you much anymore, don't make an effort to earn him back. You understand.
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