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Post by darcy on Mar 12, 2006 3:54:04 GMT -5
When I was 13 years old myself and a friend, also male and same age, experimented with each other. This led to us having anal sex. At this stage I was relatively undeveloped physically however, my friend was quite mature. Stupidly, neither of us thought about using a condom. At no point did either of us ejaculate.
Now four years later I am going out with my first girlfriend. We feel that we are ready to take our relationship one step further and have a sexual relationship. However, I am very worried that I may have HIV or some other sexually transmitted disease. I have never had any form of sexual experience with a girl before because of this. I have also never told anyone about this so I have had to wrestle with it all in my head. I dare not tell any of my friends incase they tell anyone else. Also I no longer speak to my old friend so I cannot simply ask him if he has any STD's. I do know that he has a girlfriend at present and they have slept together. So my question therefore is could I have HIV, STD and should I tell?
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 12, 2006 3:58:14 GMT -5
Could you have HIV? Well, the answer to that question has to be yes - anyone who engages in a sexual act with another person runs the risk of an STD of some sort and anal sex is a high risk activity in terms of HIV.
However, the odds are good that you don't have HIV - bear in mind that your friend would have had to have HIV to pass it on to you, and it's very unlikely he would have given his age and probable sexual experience at the time - not impossible but unlikely. And if he had passed on some form of STD to you it is likely (although not certain) that in three-four years you would have noticed some signs of it.
For your own peace of mind and your girlfriend's safety, it might be wise to have a blood test to test for HIV, and other STDs. Maybe you could tell her you want to wait until you've been tested just to be sure you are safe - personally I think that it's wise for both people to be tested prior to engaging in a sexual relationship - you can't be too careful. You don't have to tell her what you did in the past - although same sex experimentation in early adolescence is pretty common.
You're probably OK - but for the sake of your own health and your girlfriends it pays to be safe.
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Mar 12, 2006 7:21:50 GMT -5
In any sexual relationshipthere is always the chance of a STD & even protection isn't 100% but I think it is extremely unlikely that you would have HIV or some other STD man You were only 13 at the time I doubt that you friend had been sleeping around, either best way to exclude the risks is getting tested. That's the only way to know for sure. And, I would definitely want to know for sure if I were the girl. I wouldn't want to take the slightest risk with a thing like this
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Post by aod on Mar 12, 2006 10:19:27 GMT -5
go get blood tested by your local peditrtion and ask him if he can test your partner too
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Post by stars2mind on Mar 12, 2006 12:38:56 GMT -5
yes i agree, you should tell your doctor about it and ask for a blood test! this is the only way to know.....dont be afraid to talk to your doctor either! and i dont think you have it but if you want to be sure go ahead......
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Mar 12, 2006 15:40:14 GMT -5
You need to go get tested either way. Its the only way you will know forsure and once you know you will feel better then always guessing.
Also you don't want to put this girl at risk do you? I dont think you do so go get tested!
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Mar 12, 2006 16:05:23 GMT -5
Get tested. Thats the only thing you can do. Sometimes you don't even signs of it for a long time. The best thing to do is get you and your partner tested.
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Post by L.B on Mar 15, 2006 21:14:11 GMT -5
Dont risk putting urself or anyone else at risk. Get tested.
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Post by Dregond [Gone] on Mar 16, 2006 2:17:58 GMT -5
doi, test.
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Post by aod on Mar 17, 2006 5:41:33 GMT -5
test or get infected for life or even death you decide
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Post by Country Girl-- ♥ on Mar 23, 2006 11:09:35 GMT -5
Definately go do a test. A wise person once said, 'Better to be safe, than sorry,'. That could also go along with this. I'd go get a test if I were you, rather than having the risk of affecting your partner.
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Post by rpmonkey80 on Mar 24, 2006 22:12:39 GMT -5
Go to a doctor and have it tested...and if you do, then YES, she has a right to know!
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Post by stars2mind on Mar 26, 2006 4:25:44 GMT -5
i agree 100%
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