Most people are ready for sex at different ages, but I'd say the average is probably anywhere between 16 and 21.
To me, being "ready for sex" means a lot of things. I think that if you've asked yourself the following questions and really thought about them, you're probably ready:
--- Sex might lead to pregnancy - do you know how to get birth control/condoms, and do you feel comfortable getting them?
---Sex can lead to STIs - have you talked to your partner about their (and your) sexual past? Do you know if they have been tested recently?
---Are you having sex because you want to, or because you think it will change you in some way: make you "cool" or an "adult," or make the person love you? Do you genuinely feel sexual desire for this person?
---Do you expect to be with this person forever? Would you regret having sex if you broke up with this person later?
And most importantly, ---Do you feel comfortable talking to your future partner about sex?
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well im kinda shy about it but i know i want to have sex I think like he is hot and stuff and popular so hes probibly clean n tested,, i just want to do it because i want to no reason and im 14 so is that still ok cuz u said 16? thnx 4 the advice
Post by littlemikey on Apr 11, 2006 4:52:51 GMT -5
Im my mind, 14 is way too young to make a commitment like that. You will probaly regret it later if you give away your virginity now. Just my thaughts.
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You are ready for sex when you can accept the possible consequences of having both safe and unsafe sex. There's pregnancy, STD's, and a whole other number of things you need to worry about. Sex is just not for fun: it's supposed to be a beautiful thing between two loving partners, not something to do because you think you like somebody and are looking for a quick shag.
At any rate, fourteen is too young to be having sex, whether you think you are ready or not. I really think 16 is too young to do it, but by then you should know what you're doing and how to stay safe.
I think that in some cases 14 might be an okay age, but you said some things that make me think you should reconsider. You said "he's probably clean and tested" which kind of implies that you wouldn't ask him, just assume, which is dangerous when dealing with STIs... anybody can have them, even people who you would think would be "clean." I know it can be embarrassing to ask these questions, but trust me, it's worth it... you could bring it up by getting tested yourself and then saying "By the way, I got tested recently."
My personal advice to you would be to go slow with it... have you ever done anything sexual -- making out, touching, being naked with someone else, oral sex, etc? If not, I don't recommend jumping right into intercourse. Why not take some time to explore sexuality before having "actual" sex? That way, when you do have intercourse, you won't be so nervous, because you'll be more comfortable with your partner's body.
"Every boy is a snake is a lily / every pearl is a lynx is a girl"
Post by moronicscarecrow on Apr 23, 2006 6:46:46 GMT -5
14, i would say is far too young, especially the way you spoke about that guy... for your first time its much better to really care for the person and have been with them for a while, personally i think 16 plus is a good age
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