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Post by Sarah on May 2, 2006 19:30:06 GMT -5
I've been sexually active for about 5 years. The problem is I seem to get wet fast and I don't like it. Just kissing can get me really wet. Is there something I can do to prevent this?
Another question. When I have sex with my boyfriend I have to think of another guy or I won't "get off" I dont know what it is. Is this normal? He has no clue that I do this as I dont want to break his heart but it turns me on more to think of a 'stranger/aquatence(sp?) or another guy friend instead of him. I love him but he just doesn't turn me on. We've been having sex for over a year and I am his 'first'. I don't know what it is.
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Post by biancasaur on May 3, 2006 10:57:40 GMT -5
That may just be the way your body works. You may not think so, but getting wet easily is something a lot of people wish they could do. Personally, it takes me a long time, which can be very annoying. If you just don't like the feeling of being wet during the day (not during sex), you can probably wear a panty-liner in your underwear that will absorb it.
As for your second question, it's normal to fantasize about other people, but if you can't get off without doing this, there may be something going on within your relationship. If he truly doesn't turn you on, maybe you should take a break from sex with him and think about why this could be. How long has it been going on? It could be that you are just experiencing a low point in your sex drive. Or, if you are on the birth control pill, it could be negatively impacting your sex drive.
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Post by Andrew on May 4, 2006 17:49:39 GMT -5
Any sort of sexual "experience" while kissing would only turn me on more, and at least let me know that my partner is enjoying what we're doing. Perhaps that's just me, but I don't see anything wrong with it. I don't see anything wrong with getting wet too fast; like biancasaur said, a lot of women probably think that. I'd also follow her advice, too.
I also agree with everything biancasaur said on the second issue. It might just be a stage, it might be something with your relationship. Either way, you might want to think about what your problem is and what would be causing it. I'm not saying it's a good idea, but you might want to talk with your boyfriend on the issue, too.
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Post by Sarah on May 5, 2006 4:35:33 GMT -5
Okay thank you very much. We did have problems awhile ago but this has been happening since the first month we started going out. It just that his "preformance" is lacking. He can keep going for a long time but that time is borning. I've asked him numerous times to do this or try that and he does but he doesn't do a very good job and I don't want to tell him that it doesn't feel good as it has before (with other people) Sometimes I feel like cheating just to get it out of my system so I can feel 'relieved'. We've tried so many things and I've told him exactally what I like and I've guided his hand thousands of times but it still well.. sucks.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on May 7, 2006 14:23:24 GMT -5
keep showing him what to do? He is your first so he doesn't have much experiance. only with you.
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Post by goochmonster on May 9, 2006 2:04:40 GMT -5
Whoa thats harsh, you think of another guy while having sex with your boyfriend? Maybe you're so horny because your boyfriend is bad in the sack and you long for good sexual stimulation. I'd recommend not telling him that, and no I don't think theres anything wrong with you, you've just got a very healthy sex drive. Don't worry.
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