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Jan 23, 2007 13:59:28 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on Jan 23, 2007 13:59:28 GMT -5
Ok I know I'm not a guy before any one points that out but this is related to guys and it will make this board have more than three posts.
I have only just started to have sex, but whenever we try to put a condom on my boyfriend he always looses his erection... any one know why this is and how to prevent it? Thanks x x x
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Nerevarine
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Jan 23, 2007 20:21:48 GMT -5
Post by Nerevarine on Jan 23, 2007 20:21:48 GMT -5
Embarrassment? Or putting the condom on means his mind is focussed on something else, not sexual or erotic thoughts. Those are just guesses though.
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Jan 23, 2007 23:43:57 GMT -5
Post by Will on Jan 23, 2007 23:43:57 GMT -5
Wow, Nerevarine, I spent like a minute looking at your avatar. Sparkle, maybe he knows what he's doing isn't right, so he loses it. Maybe he's embarrassed or thinks he has to be 'good' or you won't like him, and maybe he knows he can't reach that standard. Too much thinking causes... wiltage. Maybe it's a sign that he's not ready. Why don't you hold off for a while? Do you have to have sex with him? I mean, come on, you're only 15. There's plenty of time.
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Jan 24, 2007 3:52:22 GMT -5
Post by Nerevarine on Jan 24, 2007 3:52:22 GMT -5
I think thats the key. For whatever reason he overthinks something. I can't tell you what though, I am not him. I am sure he would know - have you asked him?
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Jan 26, 2007 1:46:04 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on Jan 26, 2007 1:46:04 GMT -5
Sparkle, maybe he knows what he's doing isn't right, so he loses it. What do you mean... isn't right? We tak to each other a lot, and yes we have talked about this,and he doesn't know why it happens. We could wait till I am 16... but I don't know. He's always gone on about wanting to do it any every thing... don't get me wrong here, he didn't pressure me one bit (I bought it up in the first place) so I don't see why he should be nervous or any thing if he's wanted to do it that much?
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Jan 26, 2007 5:55:50 GMT -5
Post by Nerevarine on Jan 26, 2007 5:55:50 GMT -5
Nerves could be the implications that he has to do a certain thing or last a long time during sex or something.
If he doesn't know why, then I definatly don't know.
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Jan 26, 2007 7:03:41 GMT -5
Post by Firey Shades Of Blue on Jan 26, 2007 7:03:41 GMT -5
he could be nervous about putting it on properly you could learn and put it on for him? "Erections are about being relaxed and being turned on. Many men experience difficulty achieving and/or maintaining the relaxation they need to get and stay erect. For most men it only happens sometimes. For others it happens quite often.
Losing an erection or being unable to become erect often results from nerves, anxiety, or using alcohol or other drugs. Sometimes men worry about performance, and sometimes they are anxious about whether or not having intercourse is the right decision, or whether they're with the right partner. And some guys become anxious and self-conscious when they are putting on condoms, especially if all of these other things are going on. Becoming aware of all of these possibilities can help a guy to make the choices he needs to make to be relaxed and turned on enough to have an erection.
If putting on a condom seems to be the only thing that interferes with erection, there are a couple of simple solutions. A guy can have his partner put the condom on him as part of sex play. This can help him stay aroused and erect. If that doesn't work, a couple can use a female condom instead. Female condoms are inserted into the vagina and men don't need to stay erect all the time to keep them to stay in place.
A guy's erection usually alternates between harder and softer during sexual intercourse, and it's possible a condom may slip off. If this happens, it's important to withdraw the penis and put on another condom. (That's why it's a good idea to have a good supply of condoms around when partners decide to have sexual intercourse.) But with a female condom, that's not an issue. "
by tha way i dont thin u are old enough for sexs anyway
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Jan 27, 2007 6:36:32 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on Jan 27, 2007 6:36:32 GMT -5
Lols. I'm 15 so thats like... 5 months behind the legal limit. I'm resonsible with it... we've been together nearly 6 months and the fact we are using contraception speaks for itself. I tried putting it on him and that didn't work- he still went down. I guess the best thing to do will be to wait till I am 16. Thanks every one
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Feb 2, 2007 11:59:07 GMT -5
Post by biancasaur on Feb 2, 2007 11:59:07 GMT -5
Losing his erection usually means the guy is nervous, or sometimes it happens for no reason. The best thing to do is to relax and not make a big deal over it. After all, "making love" doesn't have to mean intercourse, you can do other things. However, don't make the mistake of skipping the condom altogether!
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Feb 3, 2007 5:55:56 GMT -5
Post by Will on Feb 3, 2007 5:55:56 GMT -5
She's right. You can lead up to it, and by that time you'll be more comfortable. You'll also be older.
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Feb 9, 2007 17:24:24 GMT -5
Post by Amor on Feb 9, 2007 17:24:24 GMT -5
it can also be a physical thing. No I don't mean that he doesn't have a physical attraction, but the tightness of the condom is jsut cutting off too much for the erection to stay.
It's like that with my boyfriend just from so much things that have happened in his life (accident after accident and such) that that's just one of those things his body just won't allow.
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