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Post by allianne on Apr 3, 2006 23:43:05 GMT -5
Hey guys...I hope this is in the right place...
When I was in 7th grade, my parents made me choose who to live with. I chose my mom because I didn't want to move to another country to live with my dad. But, the gal made the final choice for me to live with my mom.
Now, I think I wanna live with my dad. He's always telling me that he'd do whatever I wanted if I really wanted to live with him. I don't get along with my family that I live with AT ALL. Being away from my dad gets me upset a lot and I've been getting into a lot of trouble because my mom doens't really care what I do. Is it worth going to court all over again to live with my dad or should I just stay with my mom?
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Apr 4, 2006 0:01:05 GMT -5
If your really unhappy living with ur mom then you should go through it. Be where u want to be and be happy don't let court stand in ur way. What country is ur dad in?
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Post by allianne on Apr 4, 2006 0:20:53 GMT -5
Australia..I visited it there and I loved it with him! And I live in the United States just in case no one knew..
But there's a lot of stuff that'd have to happen in order for me to live with him. It's cost tons of money and he doesn't have much left because he spends over $10,000 a year to visit. Sometimes my friend tells me that I'm overreacting and that I'm fine where I am. I dunno, it gets really confusing. I feel like I won't be truly happy unless I'm with him. He's the only adult I can actually talk to.
And then there's my brother and sister. I'd have to leave them. I'm not really close with them at all and I don't think i'd mind that too much, but they're still my family..
m dad told me to tell a councilor if I wanted to live with him. Then when we went to court again the councilor would tell how I've been having problems and that I would be happier with my dad. But I don't want them to go broke and hurt my family for leaving them all to live with my dad...it makes me feel selfish.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Apr 4, 2006 0:53:59 GMT -5
No one knows you better then you. If your going to be truely happy with your dad then save up and try and contribute to the cost of moving there. You have to do what you want. Only you can make yourself happy. Dont let what other people say is good for you effect you. Your worried about being selffish but whats the difference with your friends and family telling you that your better in USA and you rbetter with them and your over reacting. Thats being selffish because they want u to stay. Its no difference. Do what you want.
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Post by littlemikey on Apr 4, 2006 1:09:28 GMT -5
Australia..I visited it there and I loved it with him! And I live in the United States just in case no one knew.. But there's a lot of stuff that'd have to happen in order for me to live with him. It's cost tons of money and he doesn't have much left because he spends over $10,000 a year to visit. Sometimes my friend tells me that I'm overreacting and that I'm fine where I am. I dunno, it gets really confusing. I feel like I won't be truly happy unless I'm with him. He's the only adult I can actually talk to. And then there's my brother and sister. I'd have to leave them. I'm not really close with them at all and I don't think i'd mind that too much, but they're still my family.. m dad told me to tell a councilor if I wanted to live with him. Then when we went to court again the councilor would tell how I've been having problems and that I would be happier with my dad. But I don't want them to go broke and hurt my family for leaving them all to live with my dad...it makes me feel selfish. What part of Australia? I live in Perth. if you want to live with your dad, you need to tell so you can do what will make you happy.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Apr 4, 2006 2:18:47 GMT -5
Deffinatly move if thats what YOU truely want to do. If things aren't working out you can leave. Go where you are happy you deserve it more then anything.
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Post by allianne on Apr 4, 2006 17:09:24 GMT -5
He lives somewhere in southern australia...adelaide I think. Um, is it bad to say the city? lol I hope not. Well, I dunno if I want to go into the whole choosing who to live with thing right now anyway. Lots of stuff has happened so I think i'm just gonna try staying for a little while and if it doesn't work out...
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Post by L.B on Apr 8, 2006 4:07:15 GMT -5
Just do whatever you feel is right. If you don't think leaving right now is a good decision then don't. Make sure its what YOU want to do though. Don't jepordize your own happiness for someone elses. I hope you follow your heart and do what makes you happy. If you ever have any problems that come up we will help you through them. It might make it easier for you stay there for now. You can always PM me also. I don't think its bad to say the city since no one knows you name etc. and there is probably alot of people that live there lol. You may be making a good desicion to stay because it seems like you have alot going on and going to court and feeling guilty might be too much for you too handle right now. Only you know whats best for you.
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Post by Kai on Apr 10, 2006 12:25:35 GMT -5
hey, im in the same situation as you but speak to your dad, ask him whether he is prepared to take you on, see if you can spend a week at his. the grass may look greener on the other side, but it could be filled with holes. Honestly, if your feeling like me, confused, upset and are unable to call where you live "home" talk it through with him. You may not even need to go to court.
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Post by Kai on Apr 10, 2006 12:31:30 GMT -5
right, i've joined now. the problem with my dad is that he doesnt want me...so im screwed.
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Post by allianne on Apr 23, 2006 18:51:36 GMT -5
So sorry I haven't posted on this or anywhere in a while! I had a little um..problem. lol Anyways thanks everyone for the advice. Well, I've already visited my dad in the summer...I loved it with him. Well, of course he lives in Australia so that made it exciting. If I did decide I wanted to live with him, then we would have to go to court. My mom really doesn't like my dad so that causes a bigger problem. Anyways, right now i'm just trying to make it work where I'm at right now. If there's any bigger problems then I'll probably decide to leave. Just thought I'd update in case anyone was wondering what happened. And thanks again.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Apr 23, 2006 19:24:01 GMT -5
Glad your doing okay Thanks for the update I was wondering what happened to you lol
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Post by allianne on Apr 23, 2006 19:36:45 GMT -5
Heh, sorry if anyone got worried or anything. I love you all.
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Post by moronicscarecrow on Apr 26, 2006 6:36:23 GMT -5
I have the choice to live with my mom or dad... either way its going to suck..
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Post by moronicscarecrow on Apr 26, 2006 6:36:47 GMT -5
so i say go the way that will make you happiest
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