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Post by vy on Apr 19, 2006 0:35:41 GMT -5
:-[Hello everyone:
Recently, I have been really moody, because my friend Jay (not real name) has decided to date this girl that already has a boyfriend.
I like him a lot, and it hurts me, to see him put himself through this for nothing. I just feel so frustrated and worried - causing me to be all moody. I don't know what to do? His relationship with this girl is affecting me emotionally and making me very unhappy, but at the same time, I want to be there for him, because she is still in the decision making phase and I feel that I should be there for him. It is hard, because I was beginning to like him more then a friend - it was heartbreaking to know about this girl in the first place, and now all this.
Just finding it really hard to be there for him, while my emotions are also getting in the way. I want to be there, but I feel so heartbroken myself. Not sure what to do? Any suggestions?
:-[Vy
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Apr 19, 2006 2:05:22 GMT -5
Are they dating or not? You said he decided to date this girl and then you said she was in the decision making progress. Does he know that this girl has another boyfriend? I would think no guy that wanted a real relationship would stand for something like that. One more question, Does he know how you feel?
As a friend I believe you should still be there for him, that is what friends are for. As far as a relationship goes I would never wait around to be chosen by a guy. If a guy can't make up their mind right away then that shows that they are unsure about the relationship which is never a good start because I know in the back of his mind he will always think what if I picked the other girl etc. I may not make sense and I'm sorry if I don't. I think having a little more information will help.
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Post by vy on Apr 19, 2006 11:33:29 GMT -5
Well Dreamersdreamforev,
I'm just as confused as you are. But here is what I know:
1.) I admitted to him that I like him, but I never thought about dating him.
2.) He knows she has a boyfriend.
3.) She is dating both of them - right now: triangle love
4.) Apparently, she is suppose to choose one of the two boys - but hasn't and this 3 person love thing is still happening.
5.) I completely agree with you about not waiting around for him - I talked to him about my feelings, and he called me moody.
You are very helpful Dreamersdreamforev, and I understand what you mean ("unsure about the relationship"), reminds me that he is just not into me - you know? Maybe that is what is so upseting?
You also bring up a good point. Maybe I'm considering him too much of a saint ("no guy that wanted a real relationship would stand for something like that"), was worried that he was being played. But maybe he is playing me.
Seems like he enjoys seeing me so "moody" - he doesn't comment when I talk to him, but only laughs. Half the time, he is humouring me, and gives me like a "sure", "yep", or just plain laughs.
I confronted him about it, and he questioned why I was mad! He didn't see the big deal - well, I thought it was really rude, that he would pretend to talk or listen and wasn't. Yet, he thought it was funny and once again - confirming that I was moody! He didn't apologize or anything.
Do you think I am over reacting?
I'm too frustrated and angry at him to really think properly.
:-[Vy
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Apr 20, 2006 2:58:35 GMT -5
*I talked to him about my feelings, and he called me moody.
*that he would pretend to talk or listen and wasn't.
*He didn't apologize or anything.
*he doesn't comment when I talk to him, but only laughs. Half the time, he is humouring me, and gives me like a "sure", "yep", or just plain laughs.
Ask yourself, Do you REALLY want to go out with a guy that acts like that? Whats going to happen when you need comfort and support and you go to him and he says your being moody? I don't think this guy is worth the emotions at all.
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