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Post by Melissa on Apr 30, 2006 23:32:56 GMT -5
okay nothings worked for me and half my friends are christians and half aren't. So since nothings working for me I've decided to do something different which is go do some of the things my christian friends do and see how that works. The problem is all my other friends some are really close to me that aren't Christian kind of look down on me for it and think its "dumb". They don't say its dumb but like if I say oh I cant go to the movies tonite im going to youth group they are just like pfft whatever and ignore me for a couple days and alot of them just stop talking to me as much as before. I dont know what to do because both "groups" i have some realy good friends in but I feel like im In a tug-a-war.
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Post by Jesusfreak on May 1, 2006 0:16:11 GMT -5
okay nothings worked for me and half my friends are christians and half aren't. So since nothings working for me I've decided to do something different which is go do some of the things my christian friends do and see how that works. The problem is all my other friends some are really close to me that aren't Christian kind of look down on me for it and think its "dumb". They don't say its dumb but like if I say oh I cant go to the movies tonite im going to youth group they are just like pfft whatever and ignore me for a couple days and alot of them just stop talking to me as much as before. I dont know what to do because both "groups" i have some realy good friends in but I feel like im In a tug-a-war. Yes, following Christ will cost you. Whether it be some of your friends, your precious time, or in extreme times your life. Jesus told us that we will suffer for him, right before he was crucified he told Peter and his other disciples that they will be persecuted because Christ was first persecuted. Jesus was basically saying, "Hey man, if I'm being dissed, why do you not think you're goin' to be dissed!?" In the Bible it tells us that we need to pick up our cross and follow Jesus daily. Christ came from his heavenly kingdom (ruler of the world) to die for a people HE CREATED. While it may seem hard to ignore the insults and abuse hurdled out at your by your non-believing friends, your reward will be great, either here or in heaven. About you going to Christianity for help: It's not necessarily the wrong thing to do, as that is why Jesus is always following us, but you cannot rely on God to answer your prayers the way you think they should be answered. Let's put this another way, anology: If someone thinks that their "social" problem can be fixed by getting a brand-new 2006 Mustang, God may say, "No...actually all you have to do is change your attitude towards people and you will obtain more friends." So, the essence of the horrid analogy was to show you that while we may think that the problem can be solved one way, often times God solves it a different way that will help you a.) grow more in him b.) learn c.) Glorify Christ (God). So, what I am saying is - Do not give up on Christ, for he will never give up on you.
- Do not be discouraged if it seems as if nothing is happening with your problem(s).
- Be sure that you find a minister/pastor who can lead you in the right direction and give you good, Christian advice. Your youth minister at your youth group is an excellent place to start. If you don't have a youth minister, I would assume that your youth leader can help.
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Post by vy on May 1, 2006 21:05:23 GMT -5
Dear Melissa:
Sounds like a hard choice: friends or friends?
Well, the good news is either way, you will have friends, but I suggest not worrying too much about how your friends will react, because if they don't like you for who you are, that means they don't respect you - and in turns, not worth your time.
The important thing is, do you want to be Christian? (Forget about what you get or lose.) Do you believe and support the teachings?
Good luck.
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Post by Jesusfreak on May 1, 2006 23:40:37 GMT -5
Dear Melissa: Sounds like a hard choice: friends or friends? Well, the good news is either way, you will have friends, but I suggest not worrying too much about how your friends will react, because if they don't like you for who you are, that means they don't respect you - and in turns, not worth your time. The important thing is, do you want to be Christian? (Forget about what you get or lose.) Do you believe and support the teachings? Good luck. And if you're having problems understanding the beliefs, you can ask me. Sometimes people just give up because they think all the Bible is, is just a bunch of fairy tales and they never get deep into all the inertwining meanings, etc. There's lots of good stuff, and believe me, if you tasted just a pinch of the theology you'd be coming back for more.
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Post by Kat on May 2, 2006 16:42:01 GMT -5
Can I just say? I'm not Christian or anything, but I've experienced a lot of friendships--good and bad. Plus, I've been Christian before, but I stopped, and also, I've been put down by friends (former friends now) because my beliefs are different than theirs. I suggest maybe confronting your friends. You should tell them how you feel, and explain that it seems llke you have to choose between your Christian friends and your non-Christian friends. Say that you don't think it's fair, and that regardless of their beliefs, someone can still be a great person and a great friend. You might want to explain that you will never hold anything against them because their beliefs are different than yours, and add that although you cannot force them to do the same for you, you ask that they do. Real friends will understand, and it will probably be like a wake up call to them. Then they'll probably apologize, and say that they didn't realize it or whatever...if they just get mad and ignore you, they might not be the best people to hang out with. Just my opinion, though. They're you friends, and it's your choice.
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