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Stress
May 18, 2006 20:18:26 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 18, 2006 20:18:26 GMT -5
I've been dealing with a lot of stress lately from some pretty big issues. But, how do you know when you should see a doctor about stress? I mean, I have trouble breathing sometimes and I get headaches, but it usually goes away. It's been getting worse lately tho and now I'm starting to get set off really easily. Like, I have a fight with my sister over clothes or something stupid and I will just start crying. Or, I'll have a lotta homework to do but I can't concentrate and I freak out about it. I've lost a lotta sleep over it too. I've told my mom that I think I'm developing bad anxiety and stress and asked her to take me to a doctor, but she doesn't think it's that serious. What should I do? And what should I say to her? I can't tell her exactly what's stressing me out, which could be a part of the problem.
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Stress
May 18, 2006 21:08:11 GMT -5
Post by Rachel on May 18, 2006 21:08:11 GMT -5
I just searched google for symptoms on anxiety,and these are the ones i came up with: - abdominal discomfort
- diarrhoea
- dry mouth
- rapid heartbeat or palpitations
- tightness or pain in chest
- shortness of breath
- dizziness
- frequent urination
- difficulty swallowing
So apart from the shortness of breath,are there anymore symptoms on that list which you suffer from? If not..then maybe its not stress,but actually your depressed? Its a shame your mums not taking it seriously. Just tell her that its a problem for you,and you want some help for it,and seeing the doctor may make you happier.
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Stress
May 18, 2006 22:29:26 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 18, 2006 22:29:26 GMT -5
Well I get these pains in my chest as a result of not being able to breathe. I went to the doctor because of it but they never found out what was wrong. I just figured out a while ago that I got pains and trouble breathing after I got stressed. I get stomach aches sometimes...and I get headaches a lot. That isn't on that list but..can't headaches be related to stress?
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Stress
May 19, 2006 0:10:41 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on May 19, 2006 0:10:41 GMT -5
Yes, they can. If your Mum won't come to the doctors with you, you could always go on your own or with a friend. Is this possible for you or is it out of the question?
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Stress
May 19, 2006 0:34:00 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 19, 2006 0:34:00 GMT -5
Well, I could go with a friend or myself..but I doubt my mom would buy me the perscription that he'd give me if he gave me one. I'd much rather just take her with me. It'd be a lot easier, but I don't know how to convince her.
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Stress
May 19, 2006 0:50:00 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on May 19, 2006 0:50:00 GMT -5
I'd do what Rachel said- Tell your Mother how you are feeling, say it would be very important to you,and ask if she can just take you for a quick check up. Other than that, I can't think of any thing.
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Stress
May 19, 2006 7:46:11 GMT -5
Post by Kat on May 19, 2006 7:46:11 GMT -5
Rachel and Sparkle both have good advice.
I think that you should, if you have trouble convincing her, show your mom the list of symptoms that Rachel listed, and show her which ones you have, explaining that it's a sign of bad stress. Otherwise, you can Google (as Rachel did) symptoms for stress, where they might have a whole few paragraphs on why it's bad to be stressed out, etc. and show it to your mom. That way, she might be able to see just how serious you think the problem is, and just how much you'd appreciate her taking you to the doctor.
You could always tell her that having headaches and stomach aches, and being short of breath really scares you and you want to know what's causing it. Even though you have a general idea, you don't know for sure, so you could explain to her that it's really hard to go on with life and act normal when these things are happening to you and you don't know why, which is why it's important for you to solve the problem. Maybe you could also ask her if she's noticed any changes in your behaviour since you started getting these symptoms, so that she understands the effect that they have on you.
Just tell her the truth, basically. You may want to prepare something ahead of time, too, so that you have a general idea of what to say.
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Stress
May 22, 2006 12:31:50 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 22, 2006 12:31:50 GMT -5
Thanks everyone. My dad comes in about a month so I think I'll ask him to take me to the doctor. I'll show him the symptoms that were listed.
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Stress
May 22, 2006 13:11:32 GMT -5
Post by Sparkle on May 22, 2006 13:11:32 GMT -5
Are you sure you're OK waiting that long? I mean a month is a pretty long time....
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Stress
May 22, 2006 13:21:21 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 22, 2006 13:21:21 GMT -5
I think it's my best option. He'd actually understand, and i've started talking to him about how i've been getting headaches and stuff now. It helps a great deal that I've been talking to him, so I think I'll be fine.
And on a side note. I know it's bad when you start eating less from stress..but how do you know when it's affecting your health?
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Stress
May 22, 2006 21:41:25 GMT -5
Post by Beautiful Disaster on May 22, 2006 21:41:25 GMT -5
Everytime u eat less if effects your health. Um I think amonth is too long to wait it could progress in that time and u might as well stop it before it gets worse. Can't another relative take you like a auntie/uncle or a grandma or something.
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Stress
May 25, 2006 2:04:02 GMT -5
Post by allianne on May 25, 2006 2:04:02 GMT -5
I don't have any family that lives near me. I don't really think it'll progress into anything more serious than it is now. If I start feeling I can't wait I'll see if I can ask a friend to come with me.
Does anyone know what the doctor will do? They make me nervous...LoL
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Stress
May 25, 2006 4:10:20 GMT -5
Post by Beautiful Disaster on May 25, 2006 4:10:20 GMT -5
Nothing really just ask you questions. Thats about it, maybe check your blood pressure look in your ears listen to your breathing just the normal routine stuff.
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Stress
May 25, 2006 21:47:40 GMT -5
Post by vy on May 25, 2006 21:47:40 GMT -5
Hi Allianne:
Hope you feel better. Sounds like you are having a lot of problems due to stress. A lot of times, stress can cause our body to become sick. Maybe discussing the "pretty big issues" that you had referred to, might help less the stress.
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Stress
Jun 1, 2006 19:13:32 GMT -5
Post by bgolem30 on Jun 1, 2006 19:13:32 GMT -5
OK listen, I am going through the same exact thing. It's not a good feeling when we're upset, but it does feel good to cry. I don't know how serious this issue of yours is but, I have a feeling it isn't something to be worried about. You are just going through some teenage stress where everything in your life you feel like you can't control or handle it. Life is hard, but you have to keep living it. But if your chest pains start to get to the point where it hurts soo much, you need to let someone know and get to a doctor because now that is not normal. Just be true to yourself and help yourself. If you ever want to talk message me or email me bgolem30@yahoo.com
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Stress
Jun 2, 2006 22:32:20 GMT -5
Post by littlemikey on Jun 2, 2006 22:32:20 GMT -5
I suffer from rather bad anxiety attacks from time to time, and going to see a doctor is one of the best things you can do, they can give you some meds that help you calm you down, not anti depressants, or things that numb the brain by reduicing the levels of some chemicals, but simply pills that make your brain produce endorphins, the chemical that keeps you calm and happy.
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Stress
Jun 3, 2006 23:26:31 GMT -5
Post by allianne on Jun 3, 2006 23:26:31 GMT -5
ooh, thank you! I was afraid if I went they'd say I was depressed and then try to put me on meds I didn't want...I really just want something to help me relax and stuff just like you said.
bgolem30, well this has been going on for a while. Some of it is just regular teenage angst, but a lot of it isn't. I probably should've given more detail about why I was stressed but...well anyway, I went to the doctor about my chest pains before. They didn't find anything wrong. Afterwards I tried looking online and found out that they could be related to stress and panic attacks ect. and I had been suffering from stress for a while so it seemed to fit.
I honestly don't get why my mom doesn't want to take me. I KNOW she has noticed a change in me. I start crying real easily and I'm constantly angry and snapping at her..i'm not happy. She's TOLD me that i'm not like I used to be, but she doesn't wanna take me. I think it makes her feel like a bad mom, and she doesn't want my dad to know I have to go to the doctor because i'm unhappy with her.
I'm thinking I'm going to try talking again to her. I thought it would work waiting a month but...I'm not so sure anymore.
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