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Post by sleeplesshadow on May 19, 2006 12:01:31 GMT -5
I'm still grieving for my last boyfriend. Today it will be 2 years since his death. I am still very attached to him. But I am engaged to someone else...who loves me. I haven't told him about my grieving for Ian, but i don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin our relationship. someone help me, i don't know what to do
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Post by stars2mind on May 19, 2006 18:15:51 GMT -5
you say he loves you right? then it wouldnt matter to him...if he loves you he would try to help you through it!!! Just tell him about it! (unless you dont love him back)
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Post by littlemikey on May 19, 2006 20:09:24 GMT -5
It is perfectally fine to greive about someone that you loved. If your current boyfriend truly loves you he will understand. Dont worry about it ruining your relationship, because it wont *hug* I know it is a tough time for you, and dont think that missing your boyfriend will make your current boyfriend break up with you, he sounds like he loves you dearly, and he will understand your pain.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on May 19, 2006 21:52:21 GMT -5
I agree with everyone else have u taken any grief counsellign?
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on May 20, 2006 1:59:05 GMT -5
if u love him and he loves u and ur engaged then the right thing for u is to tell him whats happening.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on May 21, 2006 6:24:16 GMT -5
Sleeplesshadow, I'm very sorry to hear about your last boyfriend Ian. Things like this can be very hard to get through and its normal to still be grieving. Many people will grieve their whole life but you may not notice it everyday. I know someone close to me passed away and there isn't a minute or a second of each day that I don't think of them. If your fiance loves you he will be understanding and caring as it seems like he is. What you need is someone to be there for you right now and I think having your fiance there might be the best person. If he can't be there for you then, maybe you should think about reconsidering this engagement. As a fiance I would think he would be the first person to be there for you at a time like this. Certainly tell him about your last boyfriend. It shouldn't ruin your relationship since you are obviously very close to this man since you are engaged to him. Have you ever talked to a counselor about this? As mentioned above I also think talking to a grief counselor would help you. You can put some closure to this. What are you currently doing to help your grieving process? Little things like visiting the grave site, talking to them, looking at pictures help and sometimes they don't. A grieving counselor would be able to help you come up with ways to better cope with the loss.
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Post by sleeplesshadow on May 21, 2006 13:28:32 GMT -5
No i havn't gone to grieving counselling. I just told him about it, and he understands perfectly, he lost both his parents a little while go. So i didn't screw anything up *sigh of relief* Thanks everyone for the encouragement. Him and i are both in the grieving process together, so we are both trying to help each other out as best as we can. Then we will fix up our other issues. Thanks a lot everyone.
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Post by xoxtomoxox on May 26, 2006 8:50:42 GMT -5
if someone loves you they will be there 4 you no matter what,and if the person your with now cant understand how hard this is for you and how painfull it must be,then i thing you need to re-think the relationship, like your planing to marry some one that you dont even trust enough to tell everything?
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Post by Alcohol4ever on May 28, 2006 19:48:01 GMT -5
he should understand, like its really had to lose a loved one
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Post by stars2mind on Jun 5, 2006 23:54:44 GMT -5
i agree
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