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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 3, 2006 17:18:28 GMT -5
okay I don't cut. I take erasers and rub it in the same spot numerous times until it burns and I'm bleeding. How do I stop this? I do it often too
**This post was made by wouldunotice and not by beautifuldisaster. Sorry for any confusion**
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Post by karlee on Mar 3, 2006 20:16:42 GMT -5
you can talk to anyone here and hopefully we can help you find some answers!! do you know why you do it? it could be depression or something of the sort which can be treated..
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 3, 2006 20:32:57 GMT -5
This is your way of coping. Just how other people cut you erase. Do you know why you do it? If we get to bottom of the problem and work our way up you can stop this. There's something going on with you that you don't like or your having trouble dealing with something in your life. What triggers you to erase? Think about what happens right before you do it. Usually its a result of some earlier trauma you've experianced. If you become aware of your negitive thoughts before you erase you can control them and control your erasing as well. Of course it takes time and patientince but its definatly do-able. Don't loose hope because there is a way out and we are here to help you find they way. Hang in there!
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Post by Italian Stallion on Mar 3, 2006 22:06:06 GMT -5
thankx so much i wasnt expecting such fast replys. but u are right i think it started when i was sexualy abused by my dad! i feel like im erasing the pain and the stuff he did to me from myself but the problem is always there so i keep on trying to erase my self pretty much. i never have told anyone b4 what my dad did ever this is the first time ive ever said it!! im scared my mom will get mad or something cuz he will just deny it. I usually do it now if anything bad happens. but before it was just when i thought about my dad or after he would drive me somewhere i would sit and erase my skin in the bathroom or my room wherever i am then!
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Post by Dreamers Dream on Mar 4, 2006 20:27:12 GMT -5
What you dad did was wrong. I can understand how you feel like your "erasing" what happened. But like you said you still feel the same way after you have "erased" your skin. If you don't feel like you would be comfertable talking to you mom about it maybe try and talk to a counseller at your school or someone else that you can trust. You need to talk to other people and let them know what your dad has done. He needs to punished for what he has done to you because its not right and he shouldn't get away with it. By comming here and telling us what happened you have made your first step. You have to find the courage to stand up to your dad because you did nothing wrong and I hope you know that. Please tell someone close to you and get this problem dealt with. I believe that the sooner you come out with it and talk to someone the sooner you will stop 'erasing'. If you need help and support in telling someone we are always here to guide you and help you anytime. Also, on this board there is a live assistance chat operator that can talk to you one on one in a chat room who could also help you if you wanted to have a conversation other then just posting and waiting for a response. This board is monitered most of the time by people who will respond pretty quickly but there's always that option too. I hope that we can help you over come this because I want you to stop erasing and start to move on with your life because this isn't your fault and it's a shame that you have to deal with it. Your dad is wrong for what he did, He knew better, He know's better and it's discusting that he can live each day knowing what he did to his son. Your not alone and your not a bad person because of what he did. You can over come this.
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Post by Witty on Mar 6, 2006 16:46:12 GMT -5
Hm, a way to stop with the cutting / eraser, is use a rubber band on your arm, when you get the urge to erase, snap your hand. I use that alot, and it has really come to help me. You should also seek help like everyone above me has said. I wish you good luck with your problems, and I am always here if you need someone to talk to.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 7, 2006 18:06:38 GMT -5
Sorry I deleted the post because it wasn't made by me but my name was on the side.. wierd Witty. I like your advice. I used a rubber band before and it worked untill i started to misuse it and I was using the snapping to hurt myself. So what else could someone do to fight urges like that?
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Post by Witty on Mar 8, 2006 16:41:14 GMT -5
Well, a hobby might get rid of the urge. Like singing, painting, writing, or sports. Also, to get rid of some of the tension, just scream off the top of your lungs. It is better to have a little soar throat then to cut yourself.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 8, 2006 17:24:49 GMT -5
I like those suggestions. Sometimes playing a game with a friend that you like can help. It takes your mind off it. And just like someone else on another board said.. Its like a itch you get when your laying in bed and you DON'T scratch it but, then the itch goes away. It's just like having a urge to cut or SI.
It is easy to abuse the rubber band method but if it's not abused it can work. Maybe draw, go for a run, take your dog for a walk, be around people so you can't SI. Just do anything to take your mind off it. You really need to talk to a counseller about what your dad has done, that will help you alot.
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Post by Italian Stallion on Mar 8, 2006 21:29:22 GMT -5
thanks beutifuldisaster I was wondering about that the other day. could the admin please modfy the post and say that I made that post.
Im going to try and use those suggestions like with the rubber band. I told my teacher at school I dont know what he's doing about it tho i have a appointment tomorrow with the school counseller
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Post by pretzelofconfusion on Mar 11, 2006 15:00:17 GMT -5
i'm curious to know how your appt. went. i hope it went well!!! i wish you the best of luck with all that is going on also.
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Post by Italian Stallion on Mar 11, 2006 19:43:05 GMT -5
well they were talking to me but they never asked about my dad so I dont know what the point was Maybe waiting for me to just tell Also they were recording the conversation so i dont know why they did that either I didnt say anything tho there was like 5 people in there so i didnt want to talk. They asked questions like how do you like the school? are you having troubles in any of your classes? How is it at home? etc.. So I dont know it was wierd. Nothing happened after that either. My dad triued to come in the other night and :do stuff:: when my mom wasn't there and I just pretended to be sleeping and lie stiff as a log so he couldnt roll me over, then he just left. my heart was beating soo fast I thought he was going to see that I was fake sleeping. anyways. yeah thats about all for now.
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