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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 13, 2006 16:49:59 GMT -5
I was wondering how people feel about people who cut for 'attention'. How do you know when its for attention or not and how does it make us feel when someone 'pretends' to do something or have something that we constantly try and stop but can't sometimes. Lately I think my friend cuts for attention and its really bothering me. I think this because she doesn't try and cover up her cuts. She pretty much shows them off to the world in a way like shes waiting for people to notice and say something. I mean I could be wrong she may just be looking for someone to care so Im scared to ask her if she cuts because she can't help it or to get attentions. What do you think?
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Post by Alcohol4ever on May 13, 2006 19:33:38 GMT -5
well i kno that..well..im at a month witout it on monday so let me rephrase this...when i get the urge to cut..and i do cut..i dont make like a special attempt to cover it up..like i will wear a sweater to school if i get cold, but if i get hot then ill just take it off..but i always keep my arms crossed..theres a couple times when ive acidently let it show to the world..and ppl have thought that i cut for attention..but i dont..so..mayb that there is a problem with your friend..so i think that you should ask her one day, like go "ive noticed some cuts on ur arm recently, is there anything rong" im not sure if thats the way to word it or not..but you should ask her..and if she is doing it for attention..tell her that there are some ppl that have done it for attention..and they end up getting addicted to it..im sry but i cant really help u there..
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Post by Rachel on May 14, 2006 7:37:24 GMT -5
Some people seem to think that nobody can possibly cut for attention. And that even though they act like there doing it for the attention,theres gotta be something deep inside them thats making them do it. But i dont know what to think to be honest.. I am a member of a pro-SI site,its great there. And theres a lot of people who think that people CAN do it for the attention. I guess the behaviour to look out for is not covering the cuts/scars up. Virtually shoving them in other peoples faces Loving the attention when they actually do get it Saying its cool or laughing about it Trying to make themselves the centre of attention. But above all this..someone who cuts and acts like what i said above,could in fact be someone whos just lonely and wants someone to help them and care for them. I know ive felt this before when i first started self harming by scratching myself with scissors. I had a feeling inside me that wouldnt have minded if my mum had found out. I think its cos i wanted to be shown i was loved and that people were there for me. But now ive started cutting..i would never want my mum to see the cuts. So it was a phase i went through.. I guess the only way to find out if its for attention or not,is to talk to them about it xx
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on May 14, 2006 17:05:33 GMT -5
pro-SI sites should be banned they are soooo horrible Im discusted by them.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on May 14, 2006 17:23:55 GMT -5
Thanks alcohol4ever I think I might just ask her that. I'm going to have to agree with mike pro-SI sites are wrong and I wouldn't be a member at any of them. I don't understand how anyone could make a site like that to encourage people to potentionally kill themselves or harm themselves. I think the makers of sites like that have severe mental problems whom need some serious help.
Most of the things you mentioned Rachel are things that she does but I don't want to be mean to her for wanting attention. She does get alot of attention already w/o having the scars or cuts to be shown off but she has laughed at it and thought it was "cool" to do.
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Post by Rachel on May 14, 2006 18:05:59 GMT -5
I dont want to exactly say that encouraging death and self injury is right..but the site i go on isnt like that at all. Its a place where people who self harm..can be as open as they want. Its a place where they virtually say 'yes were self harmers..so deal with it' they dont try giving you all the mumbo jumbo of going to shrinks and telling your parents. They actually understand you,they understand the fears you have of telling family you hurt yourself. They dont exactly encourage it..they just discuss things openly without saying any medical stuff. Its just a site for self harmers to chat about whatever they like,without the advice lark. But if theres a post there concerned about,they'll obviously advise that person to get some help. I wont go into it anymore,because your probably not interested anyway but just to let you know..its a great site,and im thankful i found it xx
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Post by razorskiss on May 23, 2006 10:40:49 GMT -5
Rachel, if you don't mind can you pm me that site it sounds very helpful. even though i'm against pro si sites this one doesn't sound bad.
and as for your friend killer, if there sraches then she might just be doing it for the attention. i know that my brother started to "cut" cause he was seeking attention because for some odd reason he thought that that was how i got girls but they were just sraches sraches. i think you should just talk to your friend and really find out if she cuting just for the attention.
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Post by sleeplesshadow on May 24, 2006 8:32:30 GMT -5
Maybe there is something wrong. If she is doing it and showing people, maybe that is because there is something that is wrong and she doesn't know any other way to ask for help. I am one for freaking out about how to hide my SI. But i know a friend, and she was having a lot of trouble and she started cutting and not hiding them. Her mom was never home, so she had no other way to tell everyone she needed help, but by showing someone. This person will get the help that maybe they need if they show that they need help. Maybe this person is one of these people that everyone think has a "perfect" life, maybe this person is just showing you that life isn't that perfect after all. I don't know *shrugs*
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