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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Aug 14, 2006 22:54:17 GMT -5
My friend recently told me that he has cancer and his hearts been stopping a lot. I'm worried sick about him 24/7 because I care about him a lot. All my friends are bombarding me with stuff like making signatures, problems of their own, and wanting to role play all at once. Plus my family keeps picking on me, calling my fat and crap like that. I have been getting sick lately, not eating like I used to because I'm so stressed. The only thing that's helping me relax is cutting. I was doing fine (haven't cut) since early july but then I've been doing it lately to help me. I don't want to cut but I need it to relax. Even my music isn't helping. Advice?
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Post by Wandering Hope on Aug 14, 2006 23:12:15 GMT -5
a few suggestions that might be useful:
1. stop RPing or slow down a lot for the time being
you need a break
2. get a full nights sleep
3. keep yourself busy by going outside and walking
4. tell your friend how much you love him
5. let someone else in on everything thats going on
6. cry
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Post by Ruby on Aug 15, 2006 0:15:27 GMT -5
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Post by Sparkle on Aug 15, 2006 1:51:57 GMT -5
Maybe after he passes away? He could still survive you know.... My friends mum has survived 3 cancers. It is ossible.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Aug 15, 2006 1:54:15 GMT -5
Wow that must be so difficult! My advice is too just chill out and spend as much time with your friend as possible. Take a break from all the things that are overwhelming you, have some time for yourself to gather your thoughts. A good thing to do may be to talk to someone that deals with family and friends that have a friend who is diagnosed with cancer. I know these things would help alot and they help you prepare for whatever may happen every step of the way. They also give you things to do that will help you cope better etc.. If you look in your phone book or do a google search for a Counseller type person who deals with friends and family dealing with a loved one who's been diagnosed with cancer I'm sure you will find something. Not eating and being stressed out is normal, Your cutting because you don't know how to cope (which you probably already know) but there is other things that will help you cope with this aside from cutting so I would hope you would look into those things. I really hope you get everything you need and your friend gets better. Just because he has cancer doesn't mean he will die. People do recover from cancer and get better so have faith.
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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Aug 15, 2006 11:56:18 GMT -5
I know people have survived cancer but I always think the worst is going to happen. Whenever he tells me he has breathing troubles I imediately think he needs to go to the hospital. Even when it's just his asthma acting up. He tells me not to worry so much but I can't help it.
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Post by Ruby on Aug 15, 2006 13:49:41 GMT -5
It's only natural for you to worried about your friend. You love him very much so you are concerned about his health. When he tells you about his breathing troubles make sure he's told an adult just in case it's more than asthma. Just keep being a wonderful friend to him and continue to care about him. All you guys can do now is hope for the best and try to act like it's a normal day. I was given wonderful advice by my favorite teacher and I think it might help you: Focus on today, not next week or next year. Take things one day at a time and set small goals for yourself, like "Will I make it through the day without getting overwhelmed?" If you focus on getting through the next year than you will feel really anxious and upset so, TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. I wish you and your friend the best of luck and if you ever need to talk just PM me anytime!
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Aug 15, 2006 17:57:27 GMT -5
Don't cut hun, crying is soo much better then cutting. Don't stop eating, just eat more fruits and veggies.
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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Aug 17, 2006 21:48:30 GMT -5
I told him I cut and he got mad . Then on Tuesday he asked me to be his girlfriend and I haven't seen him since. I miss him a lot and a lot. I haven't cut since then but I want to really bad.....
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Post by pretzelofconfusion on Aug 18, 2006 15:17:15 GMT -5
cancer is tough to deal with.. but there is always hope. pray for him and believe in gods will. talk to him and let him know you are always there. just treat him like a normal healthy person. as for the cutting... i agree crying is better although i cant do it myself because of the antidepressants im on and they make it so i cant.. i dont know if you are in the same situation or not but either way just try to get out with friends and have FUN, write poetry or music, go for a walk (no matter how upset i am the release of endorphines when im on a walk in fresh air ALWAYS seem to make me feel better. its amazing.), draw, write a book lol. also, please seriously try and believe in the advice we are giving you. if you take them in with an open heart chances are they will work better for you than if you automatically dont think they will work. if you are looking to lose weight (which is not necessary. you're perfect just the way you are in my eyes!) just eat healthier, dont stop altogether or cut back too much. stay healthy hun! good luck!! a thousand hugs and a distant shoulder to cry on, karlee
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Post by Jessi Wessi™ on Aug 18, 2006 15:38:28 GMT -5
I want to say thanks for all your help. I've been feeling better during the days when I talk to my friends. It's just at night when I'm alone that I go back to being slightly depressed. I have started to write in my journal again and it does help somewhat. But seriously, thanks for your help.
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Post by pretzelofconfusion on Aug 22, 2006 23:05:51 GMT -5
its no problem. anytime you need a little advice dont be afraid to ask your teenvibe family!! lol also good luck with everything once again and keep your chin up! night is worst for me also because you usually have nothing to do but THINK, which isnt good. keep yourself distracted anyway possible so you have no time to sit and ponder every stressful thing in your life until you go to bed. even then distract yourself with prayer, counting sheep, thinking of plans for the days to come.. until you fall asleep. always remember that we love you and are here for you! -karlee
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