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Post by boyfriendadvice on Jun 1, 2006 18:08:46 GMT -5
My Boyfriend and I have been going out for two months now. I knew him for about 6 months before we went out. We became friends and slowly began to realize that we both really liked each other.
Here's the problem-now 2 months into the relationship, it's easy to see that he likes the physical aspect of our relationship. We have agreed that we're not going to have sex, but sometimes I feel depressed. I don't even know why, but ever since I have gone out with him my self esteem has dropped considerably. I think it is because all of this attention makes me thing that I am worthy because of how I look . . . not because of who I am-which is how it used to be.
Therefore, I have considered chastity-but I am afraid that my boyfriend will be upset if I pull back the physical aspect of our relationship, and then he'll think I don't like him anymore.
Thanks in advance for the Advice.
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Post by L.B on Jun 1, 2006 18:13:07 GMT -5
If he only likes you for your body then hes not worth ur time. You want and need someone who will like you and respect you for who you are
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Post by GrapeJuice on Jun 1, 2006 18:23:51 GMT -5
If you feel like his only 'like' in the relationship is all physical then there has to be some changes made. I think its a good idea for you to "cut him off" from that aspect untill you feel like he likes you for more then just arm candy. He has to show you by wanting to know what you like and dis-like, he has to like your personallity or this relationship won't go anywhere! Why do you think your self-esteem has dropped so much? Does he say or do things to make you feel that way?
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Post by boyfriendadvice on Jun 1, 2006 18:37:57 GMT -5
Well, like I said, I think my self-esteem dropped because I thought he only liked me for physical body-but who knows, I mean, I could be wrong. He has expressed intrest in me other than my body, but recently when we're together, we do talk, but it seems like everything is just building up to one long make out session. Every time we seem to go just a tiny bit farther-I'm worried that is his only goal. I like your idea of "cutting him off" for a bit-but I can't stop it all! I mean think about it, he'd think that I wasn't interested in him.
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Post by bgolem30 on Jun 1, 2006 18:43:07 GMT -5
The most important thing in life is to be confident and true to yourself, if not, you are scarred for life. This guy needs to respect you for who you are as an individual, not for how you look. Since you've been with this guy for this long, you should be able to tell what's going on, maybe talk with him or something. But if you keep dating him and all he really wants is one hot girl, things may get way out of hand.
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Post by boyfriendadvice on Jun 2, 2006 11:29:48 GMT -5
Well, for a little more background, we are both in High School. He has not done anything to affect my self esteem knowlingly. Unknowingly he has been very physically attracted to me . . . more son than before. Our dates consist of making out, with a little bit of talking. He is a great guy but recently my self-esteem has dropped because I feel like he only likes me for my body-I never felt that way before, but recently, I have. We have not had sex. The farthest we have gone is very intense french kissing. (passionate, him rubbing me, me rubbing him, etc)
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Post by Beans Meanz Heinz on Jun 4, 2006 16:17:51 GMT -5
Firstly don't let him pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. And secondly if he's just interested in your looks then he's shallow, maybe you should talk to him and tell him that you don't wanna move things ahead too soon. And if he doesn't like that then get rid of him, not meaning to be harsh. Just if a guy's only with you for your body then he's not worth it.
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Post by vy on Jun 7, 2006 23:47:20 GMT -5
Dear Boyfriendadvice:
Talk to him about how you feel, unless you don't expect this relationship to last. If you are not comfortable talking to him - how are you comfortable dating him?
You must make the call as to how far you will go with him, and will have to take control of what you will share with him. It is your body, and you have every right to have rules and limits to protect yourself. Don't feel bad about rejecting any request from your boyfriend, because you have the right to.
If he really loves you, he will respect you - even if you don't agree to his every request.
Good Luck Boyfriendadvice.
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Post by ¥Keith's Sheila¥© on Jun 26, 2006 22:54:28 GMT -5
If he only likes your physical appearance, etc. He is a waste of time. Afterall, a good relationship is where there is truth, pure love, and of course, faith in each other.
Talk to him about this, and try to seek the truth. But, in my experience, my ex-boyfriend and my boyfriend seem to like only your body, but that usually isn't the case.
Overall, watch his actions, and observe and evaluate.
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Post by pyromanniac420 on Jun 27, 2006 4:28:12 GMT -5
I agree with every1
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