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Post by Aviator on Jul 11, 2006 8:43:05 GMT -5
Okay, so I like a girl. I feel this girl might be "The One" that I love, but then again, at my age, its tough to say that. She has a boyfriend, and we're good friends. Her boyfriend is coming into grade 7 next year and me and her are going to grade 8.Something tells me that they're likely to break up, a friend tells me that when she breaks up with him I should wait a bit then tell her about my feelings and ask her out, but quite frankly. I'm scared! I'm scared that if she says no it might end our relationship and friendship...Is there any "Advice" you guys could give me to calm down or stuff to say when I pop the question. 2 nights ago I got to watch fireworks with her beside me. I should've looked at her more...
So, any "advice" that could ease my fear or anything?!
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Post by Kat on Jul 11, 2006 16:21:00 GMT -5
Ugh...I have the same problem, only it's with a guy and he doesn't have a girlfriend...at least, I hope he doesn't...
Anyway, um, it's tough to say. It might be better to give her a bit of a break in between her breaking up with her boyfriend and you confessing your 'love' for her. The thing is, it really is a bit overwhelming for a girl. It might be best to keep it at a distance at first.
In the case that you don't want to ruin your friendship, it might be best to talk to some of her friends about it first, if you feel comfortable doing that. Getting some advice from the people who know her best would probably be the easiest way to figure out how to approach it, but make sure that you know you can trust them if you don't want it getting out.
It sounds like you guys have been friends for a while, so she obviously does like you, it's just a matter of whether she feels the same way about you that you feel about her. It might turn out that she actually does like you, or that, since you're her friend, she'd feel more comfortable going out with you and could be more likely to say yes.
Well, I'm not really the best at giving advice...not as good as I was before, since I haven't done this in a while. So, best of luck!
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Post by Aviator on Jul 11, 2006 20:37:22 GMT -5
Well...I've known her for...a school year, but I only started becoming friends with her a couple of months ago. But I feel that even at this tiem we have a good relationship. I do not feel it would be a good idea to ask her friends, quite frankly...
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Post by kiara on Jul 11, 2006 20:43:53 GMT -5
dude, the guy with the problem already said eh talked to a friend about it. obviously to you, kat. u think that its the wrong advice..well man, i think u should wait a while if they break up. but yeah, she could me the one man. best of luck. woahs. the sky is like green....i htink you shuodl tell her wenever u are comfortable after they break up, but if there is ne danger of someone else in the picture who mite be a potential bf of hers, tell her before they get a chance dude! woahs.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 12, 2006 3:06:28 GMT -5
The chances of her being "the one" are slim. I dont know how many people I know said that when they were in grade 8 and they broke up weeks after. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, your young. Ask her out and be yourself. You'll have plenty more girlffriends down the road. If she says no then its her loss. It will only ruin the friendship it you let it so its up too you.
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Post by vy on Jul 14, 2006 0:39:39 GMT -5
Dear Aviator:
It is too early in the game to say. If you are nervous now, how will you be when you really have to ask her? So take it easy - your friend was just putting options out there, you don't have to ask her right away, or at all.
Easy - it's going to be okay.
(Just curious, but what do you mean by "the one"?)
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Post by Aviator on Jul 14, 2006 9:17:23 GMT -5
She probably isn't "The One" but...oh well, you're right, it will be okay....
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jul 14, 2006 19:29:21 GMT -5
Did you ask her?
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Post by Aviator on Jul 15, 2006 11:48:25 GMT -5
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No
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Post by razorskiss on Jul 15, 2006 21:30:14 GMT -5
Alright bro... i been in your shoes more than once but not as sudden, but all i have to say is just ask her how she feels about you, like i used "Do you ever see us more that just friends?" and just find out, if she doesn't then why not still be friends and move on. there will be someone out there for you.
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Post by Aviator on Jul 16, 2006 8:21:02 GMT -5
Has anybody ever seen "Zoey 101" because if you have, BAM. There is my exact situation in black and white...
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Post by Kat on Jul 18, 2006 15:59:06 GMT -5
Kiara--sorry, I didn't quite understand what you said there, could you please explain it a bit better? If you mean that I think that what Aviator's friend said is not the right advice, then that's not true. I think it's good advice and it makes perfect sense--after all, he has to get it out at some point, doesn't he? What I mean, is that it's really overwhelming for a girl: you break up with your boyfriend, and all of a sudden one of your friends asks you out. It's better to give her some time to get over the other guy first, but if you know of anybody else who's going to ask her, then you should make sure you ask her before they do.
Anyway, Aviator--Since I'm in exactly the same situation, I mulled it over in my head, and I concluded that when--and if--I confess to the person I like and tell them that I like them, I'm going to tell him not to treat me any differently unless he feels the same way. I'm not sure if that might make any difference for you? If you ask her not to treat you any differently, and not to go out with you unless she wants to, and you tell her that it's OK if she says no and you respect her feelings completely, and continue that you still want to be friends if she says no, you're far less likely to ruin the friendship.
As vy said, it will only ruin the friendship if you let it, so even if she does say no, and if it gets really awkward afterwards, don't let it get to you. Just be yourself and relax, and things will eventually go back to normal.
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Post by Aviator on Jul 21, 2006 8:59:52 GMT -5
Thanks guys...
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Post by Kat on Jul 22, 2006 22:11:24 GMT -5
Best of luck! Will you tell us how it goes? We all care and would like to know!
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