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Post by vy on Oct 4, 2006 21:29:09 GMT -5
Dear Teenvibe community: I fought with a bully I know, because he was picking on my friends. I tried talking to him because he used to be really nice, and I thought I could help him see his ways. It didn't happen, any suggestions? Or should I just let this one go? Sigh..he was such a nice guy, what happened?
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Post by littlemikey on Oct 4, 2006 21:42:42 GMT -5
I know some guys who are nice on the surface, but are really cruel inside... they are the worst kind of bullies, because people in charge (teachers for example) really like them and are reluctant to act.
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Post by vy on Oct 4, 2006 22:40:20 GMT -5
...how can they act so nice to some and mean to others. There must be a reason.
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Post by littlemikey on Oct 5, 2006 6:06:19 GMT -5
its part of their power game, the people they fear they are horrible too, the people they control they are nice too
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Post by Will on Oct 5, 2006 11:30:03 GMT -5
Simple. Alone, they are nice people. Like you and me. They care for others. They say nice things. But seperately. Together... They will try to outdo each other, and show who's the best. They bring themselves up by putting others down. Constantly. I've seen, so many times, people who are normally quite nice alone, ending up being complete a-holes when they're with others. The people they're nice to are the ones they try to impress. The people they're mean to are the expendable ones who they can hurt to give themselves a few extra 'points' of respect in front of others.
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Post by Web Master on Oct 5, 2006 13:30:48 GMT -5
What did he say when you talked to him?
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Oct 5, 2006 13:57:38 GMT -5
Maybe something happened in his life to change him? Honestly I wouldn't bother with it too much if its not reallyy hurting you or your friends.
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Post by ♥Monizzle♥ on Oct 6, 2006 15:13:29 GMT -5
Maybe something happened in his life to change him? Honestly I wouldn't bother with it too much if its not reallyy hurting you or your friends. I agree, there cold be some family issues that has happened in his life that has reflected on him causing him to take out his anger and fear on students at school. Also i suggest you just leave him be for a while once he has calmed down a little maybe try to talk to him just le him know you are still there for him whether he hates you or not.
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Post by vy on Oct 6, 2006 23:38:14 GMT -5
Well, those are all possible reasons. We haven't talked since the fight, but according to my friend, he has been treating them a lot better.
Last time when we talked/argued, he said that I don't know anything, labelled me a failure and started to put me down.
Yeah, I don't think the argument solved anything.
Thank you for all your responses, very helpful. ;D
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Oct 8, 2006 0:41:15 GMT -5
usually bullies make fun of things in other people because its what they hate about themselves. So maybe he thinks he is a failure but it makes him feel better to call someone else a failure (even if they are not) so he doesn't feel so alone.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Oct 8, 2006 3:35:09 GMT -5
...how can they act so nice to some and mean to others. There must be a reason. Bullies, ahhh aren't they so wonderful? Confused, angry people. Bullies feed on other people being sad. Why? They all have their own reasons. In this case I will have to agree with Killerstyle. Bullies tend to put other people down with what they feel is going on with themselves. If they label someone else ugly/loser/nerd/failure/worthless 9 out of 10 times its because THEY feel that way. I wouldn't take any of it to heart. Don't react to him, You're only giving him exactally what he wants.
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Post by vy on Oct 14, 2006 23:20:10 GMT -5
Yeah, you're probably right about him calling me all those things because he feels that way towards himself (failure, etc..). I'm not too worried about it though, since there doesn't seem to be much I can do. Kind of pessimistic sounding, but he's gonna have to figure it out for himself. Strangest thing is, he's being all nice to me again - how weird is that!? Lol. I know a nice bully, that won't apologize, I should say.
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Post by Marzon on Oct 14, 2006 23:48:30 GMT -5
Or it can be because he likes you. That might be a stretch, but think about it. If he argues with you, it's because he wants to talk to you without showing how he really feels.. depending on how he says the things.
That, or I don't know what I'm talking about and you just have an ordinary bully.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Oct 15, 2006 15:40:21 GMT -5
True he could like you! I think its dumb when guys go about it that way tho!
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Post by vy on Oct 19, 2006 21:01:06 GMT -5
Lol, Maybe he does? Maybe he doesn't? Who knows.
Just happy that no more arguments have taken place.
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Post by Marzon on Oct 20, 2006 0:11:49 GMT -5
Well in that case, celebrate and bully him for vengeance.
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Post by vy on Oct 22, 2006 23:04:40 GMT -5
Lol!!!
That will show him not to bully people! ;D But nah. Thanks for the suggestion though.
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