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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 3:51:13 GMT -5
I get told that sometimes it is bad to have online relationships, that it can be very dangerous. Well one of my friends online is someone who i can trust with my life. Overtime I have started to like her more and more, and I think she has to. I've even expressed that i like her a lot, and she has to. We both know each others feelings but will it be more than that? Knowing how we feel about each other?
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Dec 1, 2006 4:29:43 GMT -5
Have you seen her? Has she seen you? Have you talked on the phone? How long have you known her online for? How far away does she live from you? and yes online relationships can work. It takes a lot of effort tho from both sides.
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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 4:35:25 GMT -5
I believe so with the seeing of each other part, been a few months in between (i just started talking to her again after getting her email) no i haven't talked on the phone, and she lives on a whole other continent.
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Post by pyromanniac420 on Dec 1, 2006 4:48:13 GMT -5
I would be freaked out
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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 4:53:16 GMT -5
why would you be freaked out? oO
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Post by Sparkle on Dec 1, 2006 17:10:12 GMT -5
I'd say try talking to her on the phone. Do you know she is who she is? Have you been on cam? How can you be sure[/b]?
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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 17:14:00 GMT -5
I trust her for who she is. She was on this site once upon a time. And even though I trust her, I wouldn't give away things like my phone number or address
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Post by Sparkle on Dec 1, 2006 17:16:26 GMT -5
Hm- so you're not sure she's not a 50 year old perv? Sounds a bit risky, and like you could get hurt.
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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 18:09:48 GMT -5
I trust her and everything, but I am slightly hesitant as well. I'm use to getting hurt so it doesn't matter
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Dec 1, 2006 19:41:11 GMT -5
The internet is a unsafe place if you aren't smart. I don't think online relationships are a good idea. The person could be ANYBODY. How do you know they have never been arrested or in jail? if they are dangerous or not? If you do plan on meeting them bring someone with you, meet in the day time, in a public place. Don't take their word for it when they tell you something. I find the best thing to do is always be hesitant because you never know.
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Post by daydreamer on Dec 1, 2006 20:48:23 GMT -5
I am not stupid, I have taken plenty of precautions. I haven't told her anything I never wanted to tell her and the same with her. We aren't planning on meeting any time soon, nor do we ever at this current point in time since we have no way of proving to one another that we are who we say we are. It is trust, like I'm trusting you for instance by saying you are who you say you are. For all I know you could have been to jail and all of that stuff and I wouldn't know it would i?
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Post by Will on Dec 2, 2006 3:18:35 GMT -5
You make a fairly good point.
Statistically though, it's very risky to go see someone over the Internet. They could indeed be who they say they are, but they could also be a 50 year old guy 'grooming' you.
But let's assume she is who she says she is. Btw I'm assuming it's a she. I'll edit this if I'm wrong.
Now. She lives on a different continent. This means that the chances of you ever meeting up are very slim. One of my best friends knows a girl over the Internet (two actually) and he's planning to meet them. The difference here is they've gone through extensively to prove they are who they say they are - webcams, voice chatting, multitudes of pictures (you won't believe how many he's given me!).
In your situation, you guys are more hesitant. Since you're probably never going to that continent (Btw, which continent is it?), you're probably never going to see her.
The other thing: You guys only talk, so your relationship is purely emotional. Now, a week or two ago I'd be like "well, that doesn't matter, all you need is emotional right?" Wrong. A proper relationship has everything in balance and moderation, and this means a somewhat physical relationship, or you two will never get past the 'friends' stage. Sure, maybe you'll ask her out, but that's all you'll have; a title and a promise. Since she's over the Internet...
I mean, what if you, or she, finds someone else? What will you say to each other then? It's all a bit unreal because you're still not entirely sure who this person is...
One other thing. It's one thing to accidentally get hurt; it's another thing to purposefully walk into a trap saying "it's okay; I've been hurt before, I'm used to it". Because no one deserves that. I'm used to being hurt as well, but I'd still go out of my way to avoid it. All that will happen is you'll start getting self-pitying, and that's always a bad thing.
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Post by vy on Dec 2, 2006 7:39:25 GMT -5
Hey Daydreamer:
Sounds like you're in a difficult situation - so what are you gonna do?
(By the way, great insight Will - great read.)
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