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Post by emily on Aug 10, 2006 16:59:10 GMT -5
my bf says he doesnt need to use a condom because i can use a female condom i dont want to sound stupif so what are those and do they work? im 13 too if that helps
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Post by littlemikey on Aug 10, 2006 17:56:07 GMT -5
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Post by emily2 on Aug 10, 2006 17:59:57 GMT -5
omg thats scary looking
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Post by biancasaur on Aug 10, 2006 20:57:38 GMT -5
Female condoms are effective the same way male condoms are, but your boyfriend is mistaken if he thinks he "doesn't have to wear a condom" -- they pretty much work the same way, in that there is a barrier between the penis and vagina. The only difference is that a male condom goes over the penis, while the female condom is inserted into the vagina. Using a female condom is not going to 'feel better' for him than using a male condom. Also, remember that even if you use a female condom, it doesn't mean the responsibility is all on YOU -- learn how to use it together!
Condoms can be a pain sometimes, but they are really awesome little things if you think about it. I recommend "Inspiral" condoms (you can get them at Walgreens) -- they have an interesting shape that allows the condom to move in a more natural-feeling way.
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Post by martin on Aug 11, 2006 4:58:04 GMT -5
omg thats scary looking Things like this can be scary especially if you never used it or seen one before. If your really worried about it then Don't use it and have him use protection instead. Theres no reason why he can't do it until you feel comfortable with it. If he doesn't understand this then maybe you shouldn't be having sex with him. I also suggest you get birth control if you haven't yet.
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Post by emilyagain on Aug 12, 2006 19:05:04 GMT -5
thansk martin that made me feel better but I cant not use it cuz he wont use a condom and he will get realy mad if we dont have sex cuz he says its how we know its a true relationship is when u have sex so I want to show him i like him and its a true relationship.
biancasaur evern with the girl condom thing he shuold wear one too?
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Post by littlemikey on Aug 12, 2006 19:35:53 GMT -5
thansk martin that made me feel better but I cant not use it cuz he wont use a condom and he will get realy mad if we dont have sex cuz he says its how we know its a true relationship is when u have sex so I want to show him i like him and its a true relationship. biancasaur evern with the girl condom thing he shuold wear one too? Hold on a second here. Any guy that will get mad if you dont have sex is just trying to use you. Having sex does not make a relationship 'true'. You should only have sex if both of you feel ready, not because he says its what you need to do. I think you should reconcider what he is saying.
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Post by dearblackgoodbye on Aug 12, 2006 19:53:36 GMT -5
Don't have sex just because he will get really mad if you don't... stop and think about it for a minute... he is telling you that in order to be with him, you have to have sex. That is unfair and he is forcing you into it. Plus, he isn't willing to wear a condom. Don't have sex with him, if it was a TRUE relationship, you would both agree to do it because you are ready, not because he says you are supposed to.
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Post by biancasaur on Aug 16, 2006 2:47:36 GMT -5
I agree with the above posters. A "true relationship" is a relationship in which each person cares about the other person's feelings. If he's telling you that you HAVE to have sex, he's NOT respecting your feelings. Telling you that is bordering on abusive. If you think about it, the way to find out if it was a "true" relationship would be if he respected YOUR feelings about sex no matter what he wanted personally. He's obviously not doing that.
I really, really don't think you should have sex with a person like that; sorry, but that's my honest opinion. I think you should re-think this relationship. If you are afraid that he's going to get mad or possibly hurt you, ask for help from a parent or counselor.
As for your condom question, no, if you are using a female condom then he should not wear a male condom as well. That could cause friction that might make the condoms break.
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Post by Will on Oct 3, 2006 22:52:24 GMT -5
Agreed. There's no point, especially at your age, to be rushing into things like this. He sounds like the type of guy that will leave you if you get pregnant. He will probably brag to his friends about 'scoring'.
Is this what you want? Remember that high school relationships are so superficial and end over the silliest of things. In the meantime, if you have sex with him and then he dumps you, you're left alone. With a major part of you missing, gone, taken away in a moment of weakness. I trust you'll do the right thing.
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