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Post by female on Sept 17, 2006 13:24:12 GMT -5
I AM ALWAYS SO HORNY. i have done some pretty stupid things. Like i agreed to let a 19 almost 20 yr old go down on me anywayz...i have met this guy who's 14 and he's really sweet..and funny, and adorable and HOT and like....we might go out. but...he's not a virgin. and i am. and im afraid if i start fooling around with him and he wants to have sex i won't be able to say no. i mean just hearing him talk to i wanna have sex with him. but im also afraid i would do it wrong or that like it would hurt to much. and....
i think im ready for sex...but it makes me feel bad that im only 13. yet i feel ready. What should i do?
female 13 yrs. usa
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 17, 2006 13:53:24 GMT -5
Maybe it's just your hormones? No, it doesn't mean you're ready. I think you should seriously wait.... you'd regret it a lot in future
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Post by GrapeJuice on Sept 17, 2006 17:06:45 GMT -5
Raging hormones are pretty much the bane of every teenager's existance. You hit puberty, and all of a sudden those hormones are going crazy. Unfortunately, a lot of teens mistake these sexual feelings to be an indication that they're ready to have sex. In reality, there's a whole lot more to being ready to become sexually active than just feeling "horny."
First off, you have to know the risks and consequences, and be prepared for those. Having sex can lead to unwanted, unplanned pregnancy, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases, and a lot of emotional baggage. Could you handle it if you got pregnant? Do you know how to protect yourself from such a possibility? Do you know that no manner of protection works 100% of the time? What about STDs? Do you know how to protect yourself from those? Again, do you know that no manner of protection works 100% of the time? Do you know that some STDs are deadly and/or incurable? Sex is a big responsibility, and you have to be sure that you can handle that responsibility before you even think about taking it on.
You're young, only thirteen years old. You have plenty of time to become sexually active. It's a big decision, so just take your time and don't rush into anything. Before you have sex for the first time, you should know beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is what you want, that you're 100% ready to handle it and be responsible about it. If you can, talk to people you trust about this decision you're trying to make - your friends and family. They might have some valuable advice for you. I hope this helps. Best of luck to you.
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Post by Ruby on Sept 17, 2006 17:49:56 GMT -5
you may "feel" ready but your really not at the age of 13. I had the same attitude when I was 12. I said to myself "I'm ready. I'm old enough to make my own decisions." But in reality I was NOT ready. I made the biggest mistake of my life. I regret not waiting but now, guess what, I have a daughter. I don't regret having my daughter but I regret not waiting until I was older to have sex. Please think this through. It may feel like your ready but accidents happen and it's possible for you to get pregnant, even if you do use a condom or take the pill.
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Post by biancasaur on Sept 19, 2006 22:58:02 GMT -5
i have done some pretty stupid things. Like i agreed to let a 19 almost 20 yr old go down on me anywayz... You say that you are ready to have sex, but you're saying that having oral sex is a "stupid thing" that you "let" someone do. Sounds like you are conflicted about whether sex is right or wrong? im afraid if i start fooling around with him and he wants to have sex i won't be able to say no. This is a big red flag. The most important thing in a sexual situation is being comfortable talking to your partner, and that includes saying "yes" to sex you want and saying "no" to sex you don't want. So when you say you "won't be able to say no", what are you talking about? Do you mean that you will want to stop but are afraid what he might say if you try to say no? Or, do you mean that you are afraid that you will want to have sex, period?
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Post by Alcohol4ever on Sept 22, 2006 20:42:03 GMT -5
Okay you all stole my ideas! Hmmm Yeah. You should just wait. Especially because your so young. You WILL regret it when your older. So if I were you, I'd date him, but if he wants sex. Then maybe hes not right for you. Do you understand what I'm getting at?
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Post by Will on Oct 3, 2006 7:14:32 GMT -5
A lot of things can go wrong if you give in. Just because you like the guy now does in no way mean you will be committed with him indefinitely. Nature's plan is to pump everyone up with hormones and throw enough people at each other so that two people will everntually procreate and keep the 'tribe' going as it were. The fact is, in our society we don't need to procreate to continue the species anymore. so basically, while it may be tempting, there's no point in putting yourself at risk to fulfil an outdated primal urge.
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