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Post by Help on Sept 17, 2006 19:10:19 GMT -5
Hi guys, I am 14, and I am a bit scared of what I think/imagine. Everytime I see a hott guy, I imagine him having sex. Not with me, but like, in movies when the shot if from the woman's shoulder, and you can see the guy, thats what I imagine. I also cannot wait to have sex. Thats all I think about before I go to sleep. I do not want to think like this. but then I always think "Having sex is an extream way to show love, is it just kissing, but more personal?" I always think that.
There are some actors though, that I imagine in bed. Suck as Jack Devenport, Nicolas Cage ect. I really do not feel this is natural. I even sometimes think I am a perv. I want to have sex, I know I have to wait. There is too much at risk. but I want to do it! So badly. Everynight, it comes to mind. But like i said, I don't imagine me doing it. Just the guy. What does this mean? I am miserable like this. I feel like I am a pervert. Is it just hormones? Will it go away? Please help me!
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Post by Ruby on Sept 17, 2006 19:18:49 GMT -5
Okay, well, I'm not gonna lie.....I had the same problem. I have no idea how it went away but it did. This is something that's really normal. A lot of people have the same feelings and thoughts that you do.
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Post by Help on Sept 17, 2006 19:26:45 GMT -5
Gosh, are you sure? it seems so wierd and unnatural. God, I hate that feeling. In school, I almost make some sexual remarks, and just....ah. I want it to stop, I want it to stop so badily. How old where you when it stoped?
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Post by Help on Sept 17, 2006 20:19:31 GMT -5
Ok, I would edit my post, but I can't Everytime I see Nicolas Cage, I think "He would me a MONSTER in bed!" Then I think "WTF am I thinking!?" It normally happens with him. I don't know why. Ever since I saw a "sex scene" (it was NOT by the way!) I kept thinking that. Its embarresing to me! I hate it! Is there anything to do to prevent this?
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Post by Barbaro on Sept 17, 2006 20:24:52 GMT -5
I am sure you have tried this, but, avoid the thought. Try to not watch his movies. I too, find him atractive, though, I do not think about that. Nor have I ever thought about that. but hey, it might happen someday. I am sure it is hormones. And I am pretty sure it will go away. I am assuming you are a girl. I am almost more sure it will go away!
just curious, is the "sex scene" from the Rock, cause there is one in that movie, but well.... they say it is rated R because of it, but I don't think it is. Oh well. Hope I helped a bit.
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Post by littlemikey on Sept 18, 2006 1:26:16 GMT -5
I dont remember a sex scene from the rock....
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Post by Sparkle on Sept 18, 2006 11:37:37 GMT -5
It's hormones. It will go away soon
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Post by Ruby on Sept 18, 2006 16:13:33 GMT -5
Yes, sparkle is right. It didn't go away for me until I had my daughter....but it could have been the fact that I was in pain and agony and realized I would never want to have sex again lol
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Post by Barbaro on Sept 18, 2006 16:35:39 GMT -5
I dont remember a sex scene from the rock.... Wheen Goodspeed was assigned to go do the job. It was a very, very, very, WEAK one. As I said, its not really one
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Post by biancasaur on Sept 19, 2006 22:53:32 GMT -5
It sounds like you probably grew up believing that sexual thoughts and feelings are in some way "wrong" or "dirty." Do you come from a religious background that teaches that sex outside of marriage is wrong? Or perhaps your parents discouraged you from talking about sexual things when you were younger? That could explain why you feel so conflicted and strange.
The thing is, having sexual thoughts and feelings is completely normal and natural. There's no reason to be ashamed of them. Most people have sexual thoughts, feelings, and dreams. Being aroused, masturbating, wanting to have sex, thinking about people (yes, even actors) sexually -- these are things that most people do. Rather than wishing for them to go away, why not try accepting your sexual desires for what they are -- completely natural?
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Post by Help on Sept 21, 2006 22:47:05 GMT -5
Yeah, I coem from a religious background. Like I said before though, its jsut an more "private" way of showing affection, like kissing.
Well, I do want to wait until I am married but, like, I don't know! And since I am 14, I think I should wait awhile. Also at school, whe anyone mentions ANYTHING like that, they freak out like "Get your head out of the drain!" So, that might affect my view on this.
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Post by Help on Sept 25, 2006 23:38:47 GMT -5
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Post by littlemikey on Sept 26, 2006 0:40:52 GMT -5
But...... I am 14, and I don't have a boyfriend! Like, how do I prepair myself, I know I have to wait until marriage (personal issue) and, I don't knwo what to do!! I've even watched porn!!!!..... I just don't know what to do! its not that big a deal, its perfectally natural. Everyone experiences sexual urges in one form or another, its all the hormones going through your body from puberty. You dont need to feel embarrassed, dirty or scared. Everyone goes through it, your teachers, your parents, your friends at school. Everyone goes through puberty, there is no avoiding it. Just relax, strap yourself in, and enjoy the ride
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