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Jun 11, 2006 8:02:00 GMT -5
Post by nathalieab on Jun 11, 2006 8:02:00 GMT -5
I know this sounds weird but I'm obsessed on the thought of having a baby. If it was up to me I would be pregnant right now. I have dreams about having a baby and every time I see someone pregnant or with a child I get this feeling of being all alone or like there is something missing from my life. I love kids and have spent most of my time with them and all I can ever think about is that I want one of my own. Someone to love, take care of and be there for. And I know that some of you are gonna say "Get a pet" and I know i'm only 15 but this is the only thing that i've ever been sure about wanting. I know its alot of responsibility and not easy but I want it so much it's driving me insane...
Any advide? Anyone else that feels this way?
Nathalie
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Jun 11, 2006 12:12:41 GMT -5
Post by Rachel on Jun 11, 2006 12:12:41 GMT -5
Hey. Im sure i speak on behalf of most teenage girls,when i say that this is 100% normal,and we've all felt this too. I felt like this too a few years ago,i desperately wanted a child,and even spoke to my mates about it,and they were exactly the same. Even my cousin was thinking about getting pregnant by her boyfriend at that time,cos she so desperately wanted her own child (shes only 14,2months older then me) But she didnt..thank god!
Its totally normal,its your maternal instincts. Cos your growing up,everythings changing..including your brain,all the chemicals are messing your head up,and you have hormones. Wanting a child is something to do with your maternal side. All i can say is,just dont do anything silly.
Having a child at 15 would not be any good for you right now. If you was to have a child,everything would change. From your friends,the way people treat you,your education,future boyfriends. Its really difficult to bring up a child at such a young age,even with help from family members. Plus its not fair to put a child through that.
Having a baby is a HUGE thing,and isnt just a temporary thing. So just wait until your older,and settle down with someone you love.
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Jun 11, 2006 13:14:39 GMT -5
Post by nathalieab on Jun 11, 2006 13:14:39 GMT -5
Thanks
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Jun 11, 2006 14:05:12 GMT -5
Post by Beautiful Disaster on Jun 11, 2006 14:05:12 GMT -5
I felt the same way when I was 16, I think it was because I was bored and that would give me something to do. What changed my mind was I looked after my aunties baby for over two weeks everyday and I knew then I didn't want one anymore. At least not at this time. I love kids but right now I want to be able to go out and not have to get a babysitter everytime and all that stuff. I think its normal to feel that way because I know alot of other girls have gone through the same thing. Many of them jumped at the thought and acctually had a child. They regret and they dont regret it now. They dont because they love their child but they wish they could of waited to have more of a "social life" etc... Its not a good idea at all to get pregnant under the age of 20 I think.
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Jun 12, 2006 20:26:03 GMT -5
Post by WilD CherrY on Jun 12, 2006 20:26:03 GMT -5
I feel like that right now
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Jun 12, 2006 21:50:48 GMT -5
Post by biancasaur on Jun 12, 2006 21:50:48 GMT -5
It's definitely not weird. Think about it... if we were living way back in the day, we would have kids by now. But in today's society, it's just not set up the same way. Realistically, would you be able to have a child right now? Do you feel you really know enough to be able to take care of another human being for the rest of your life? It's a big deal. And for such a big deal, it's worth waiting a few years to make extra sure you're ready. I suggest you get a job at a day care or as a babysitter, or at one of those shops where they take pictures of little babies, so you can spend time with kids!
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Jun 13, 2006 0:08:41 GMT -5
Post by allianne on Jun 13, 2006 0:08:41 GMT -5
Babies!! Aww, I love them so much..they're soo cute and I just wanna hold them and play with them...but once you have to start changing diapers and cleaning their spit...u don't really want one as much anymore. But still, if I see a baby in a stoller down the street I wanna hold them.
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Jun 13, 2006 13:25:47 GMT -5
Post by nathalieab on Jun 13, 2006 13:25:47 GMT -5
I babysit alot and I never get sick of it. Most people are like happy to give the babies up to the parents when they come but I really feel like a mother when I'm with them. And when the parents come I wish they could just leave and let me take care of their children. I know it's alot of work but I know I can do it. I was 12 the first time I babysat a kid over night while the parents was away so I'm used to it. And I have four year old cousins that I love of all of my heart and they are my guys. I have a job at a elemantry school where I teach in third grade and spend alot of time with 1-2 grade. I never wanna leave and I just want to be on of the parents that pick their kids up after school. I talk alot obout having kids and my friends say that I'm gonna get kids very early. And I know that if I get pregnant in a month then I'm gonna have the baby..
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Jun 13, 2006 14:03:28 GMT -5
Post by Beans Meanz Heinz on Jun 13, 2006 14:03:28 GMT -5
Just don't rush into anything at such a young age. I always said that if I had a teenage pregnancy that I would keep the baby. but I know for a fact i wouldn't be able to cope. It's good that you get on well with kids and such. But just think about all the consequences that come with being a parent, concentrate on doing well at school and leave children for after that.
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