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Post by Sparkle on Mar 27, 2006 11:50:02 GMT -5
Ok- this freind tells my parents everything. She tells them if I've cut again, she tells them what I have and haven't ate in a day, she tells them who I'e talked to, she tells them if I've bought any more drugs... etc. And to be honest, this pees me off A LOT. What can I do? It's my life, not hers or my parents, and I know she may think what she's doing is best, but it's not. I'm getting better, slowly but surley, and her talking to my parents isn't helping. I feel she's closer to them than I am. I don't want to loose her, I love her, I just want her to back off a bit. How can I tell her politley? Without upsetting any one? Yeah...
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 27, 2006 14:40:32 GMT -5
Friends like that are annoying!! Is she the type who doesn't really do anything bad? I used to have a friend like that. You should just say "Hey, I apperciate you looking out for me but, I want to be the one to tell my parents things" or " I kind of don't like it when your telling my parents what I do all the time. If I wanted them to know I will tell them" or " Hey. I understand that you want to make sure Im okay but I am making progress and I really don't appreciate it when your always telling my parents. It makes it harder on me. I understand that you think your helping but really your not"
Just let her know that you want her to help you but not by telling your parents everything you do. Explain to her that it's your life and you want to be in control of it or something. Good luck!
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Post by GrapeJuice on Mar 28, 2006 2:31:54 GMT -5
Its really nice that you have a caring friend. We all know deep down in her heart she just wants to help you. I think she is scared to death about your cutting (as she should be) and is doing the only thing she knows. Don't be mad at her for it. Try and look at it from her point of view. Take that into consideration and tell her politly that you want her to help you and that you will tell your parents so she doesn't have to. Tell her that you feel like shes closer to your parents then you and explain how that makes you feel.
It is your life and you right but is what you are doing right? You know in your heart its not. If it was right you wouldn't be worried about your parents knowing. You need to get help and support and stop these things.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Mar 28, 2006 15:25:38 GMT -5
Thats really good advice. You should just be gentle and let her no softly that you dont like it and it seems like she is barging in on your life and relationship with your parents. If she knows you dont like it and it makes you feel bad she might stop.
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Post by Sparkle on Mar 29, 2006 0:50:57 GMT -5
OK- I won't see her today, but next time I see her I will try and talk to her. Thanks for your advice every one!
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Mar 29, 2006 6:32:19 GMT -5
Hey, if you want u should let us know what happens
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