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Post by sleeplesshadow on Apr 3, 2006 11:22:48 GMT -5
When i was younger i was raped by a stranger. To this day i have a hard time getting close to people. Especially guys. I don't know how to get over it. It makes me nervous talking about it. I had a guy who really liked me, and i turned him off because i didn't show him how much i cared about him. He didn't know about the rape, but i hate myself for losing him...he was a great guy.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Apr 3, 2006 15:28:01 GMT -5
Its normal for people to not feel close to people after that happens. Maybe you should tell him what happened so he understands. He's probably thinking it something to do with him.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Apr 3, 2006 17:05:39 GMT -5
ya he probably thinks something is wrong with him. i would go up to him and let him no that it wasn't about him it was something else thats just made it hard for you to be close to guys.
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Post by allianne on Apr 3, 2006 23:20:00 GMT -5
Yeah, I know exactly how you feel. The same thing happened to me. I couldn't really even hold hands with another guy..actually I still haven't. I was close enough to him that I was able to explain why I couldn't date him and he completely understood. It surprises me how nice some guys can be...but maybe you wanna talk about being raped? Because you need to try and move on before you'll be comfortable around other guys again. Trust me, I know..but hopefully time will help after you gain some good guy friends and realize that you can trust them.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Apr 3, 2006 23:56:31 GMT -5
Thats soo horrible!! all I can think of is talking about it...
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Post by sleeplesshadow on Apr 5, 2006 8:29:31 GMT -5
I have a horrible time talking about it...no one knows in my family. I didn't talk to my counsellor about it, it is driving me insane. I now have a bf in morocco, and he knows about it. He is really supportive of me, and it feels good. But i am still really scared to have a deep relationship with him. That is why the only way we talk is online...
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Apr 5, 2006 15:55:07 GMT -5
thats good that you have a new boyfriend!! just take small steps. You said he's being really supportive so have some trust in him.
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