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Post by Amanda on Apr 13, 2006 7:18:00 GMT -5
--Hey Im Amanda Ardes--
I found this site thru a search engine- my problem is my current boyfriend has started to show signs of a temper. He's been snapping at me and I have felt a few times - like he was going to hit me.- I don't know if he will or not but If he does what do I do or should I leave him before it happens?-- I have never been in this situation and he has been 'raging' @ me for lots of thins-- Thank-u to all advice given--
Amanda Ardes-
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Post by skullcrushergurl on Apr 13, 2006 12:59:59 GMT -5
You should speak up. If he really loves you, he would listen. Soemtimes you need to be outspoken. This can get serious so first, talk to him about it, then if he doesn't change abort the relationship before it gets worse.
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Apr 13, 2006 21:13:16 GMT -5
Yeah you should talk to him and try and find out why he's getting angry in the first place. It could be something that has nothing to do with you but your get the brunt of it. If you think he's going to hit you or his temper doesn't stop I suggest leaving the relationship until he can calm down.
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Post by Amanda on Apr 22, 2006 15:32:53 GMT -5
-- thank you so much-- he did hit me last week- not hard though!- he said he was sorry and didnt really mean it so I guess its okay- It was my fault I left the cupboard open by accident lol so it was okay if did that he was just mad,-- I think it will be okay- he loves me so i think Ill be fine- thanks everyone!
Amanda Andres
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Post by Sparkle on Apr 23, 2006 4:51:22 GMT -5
I'm sorry, but it's not OK- you really need to talk to him. So what if it wasn't hard? He still hit you, this is abuse. Talk to him, tell him he needs to stop. Ffs, you left a cupboard open? That is the stupidest reason in the world... if you don't talk to him or stop seeing him, next time he could seriously hurt you... if he's done it once there's a big possibility he'll do it over and over again... please, please do some thing before it's too late.
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Post by Rachel on Apr 23, 2006 10:53:43 GMT -5
He hit you because you left the cupboard door open? Im sorry,but that is not acceptable behaviour. If you dont get out of this relationship right now,it will get 1000 times worser,trust me. You need to leave him,for your own safety,else it will get A LOT worser,honest you will lose the will to live. You will be under his thumb,scared to death of him,but you wont want to leave him because he'll always say he's sorry after doing it,and will tell you he loves you. Loving someone does not mean you have control over them,and can abuse them when you please.
Please please,just take some action,dont let him ruin your life xx
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Post by MuHa Feel the Wrath on Apr 24, 2006 4:20:38 GMT -5
umm no thats not okay your crazy if u stay with him now. hitting someone over a cupboard door bein open? hes messed and needs some help get out of there u are not safe trust me. move break up do whatever just get out before u get really hurt or die! go go og o go ITS NOT OKAY.
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Post by vy on Apr 24, 2006 22:59:21 GMT -5
Dear Amanda:
It is natural for you to feel that it is your fault, but it is not your fault that he hit you. It was his choice.
"he was sorry and didnt really mean it" - Amanda
Girl, sorry doesn't cut it. He didn't mean it? Did his hand just magically pick itself up and hurt you? I don't think so. No one accidently hits someone else: from processing in the mind to actually hitting you - there is at least 30 seconds thought time - which he could have stopped, but he didn't.
Is this how a normal relationship should be like to you? How should a relationship be Amanda? Do you want to be with someone that hits you?
I've never met you before, but I'm sure you are a smart girl. I'm glad that you realized it was wrong and posted about it.
Hope you will reconsider everyone's suggestion. Good luck Amanda.
(P.S. No one has the right to hurt you, but only you can choose to let them hurt you.)
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on Apr 30, 2006 3:53:41 GMT -5
If you fight, and he hits you that is not love. You need to learn what love is, he hit you for leaving a cupboard open? No, no, no. I'm sorry. Tell him your over, this is not a good relationship you are in, I am sorry. You need to find someone that loves you and takes care of you. Someone who opens the door for you, tells you how pretty you are all the time, etc. Things like that. Not somebody who you fight with non-stop and especially not someone who hits you. That is just wrong.
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Post by xoxtomoxox on May 8, 2006 18:34:39 GMT -5
heya huni!! em iv been in this situation b4! so i no were u at k? the logical thing 2 say would be talk about it etc but with me and other people i know it seems 2 me you gota get outa this relationship b4 this goes any furter ,if you dont no this boy enough to no what he's really like then its best 2 say "bye bye" lol you deserve sum1 who treats you like you should not a violent boyfriend thats just gona way u down! good luck huni xx
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Post by Alcohol4ever on May 8, 2006 20:36:18 GMT -5
if he is abusing u..theres only one thing to do...GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP....seriously..i was in a abusive relationship for like 14 months..and i thought it would get better..but didnt
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