Kellie
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Post by Kellie on Apr 16, 2006 21:52:03 GMT -5
I just need someone to listen, just for a minute. Please, just listen.
My mother is an alcoholic. She drinks a lot. She hit me twice so hard that my glasses flew off of my face and my braces made my cheek bleed. She is always breaking things. I'm thirteen. When I was younger, she broke glass and I stepped on it. She burned my hand on accident. She dropped cigarette ashes on me once. You get the idea. My father is sick of it and so am I. She drinks so much she gets really weird. She smells awful. When she asks me why I hate her, I don't say anything. She doesn't get it.
My father wants to get a divorce, but my mother doesn't. My father isn't going to get one because he's too afraid that if this goes to court, the court may award mother coustdy of me (because the courts tend to favor the women).
I haven't told anyone this, but I've started to make a document with all the times my mother drinks and what she does. When I feel I have a strong enough case, I'll try to convince my father to divorce her based on evidence that I've collected.
I told my best friend my mother drinks, but I haven't told her everything else that happens. If I told my friend that, she probably would be too scared to come over. I hardly ever have friends over because I don't know when she is going to drink.
I hate my mother. I really needed someone to listen and I think I'm going to be sick now.
Thank you for your time.
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Post by undone on Apr 16, 2006 22:05:58 GMT -5
Girl, get a camera and hide it where this usually happens like in the living room and set it to record so when it does happen you have solid proof and you will forsure not be given to your mom.
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Post by stars2mind on Apr 16, 2006 22:29:22 GMT -5
nice...you covered it..... the camera thing will work...and catch some glimpses of you mom passed out or something.....and im sorry your mom is making your kinda hard ... you and your dad i hope become happy without her.....
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Post by GrapeJuice on Apr 16, 2006 22:57:46 GMT -5
Always remeber that its the alcohol doing this. It's not your mother. She is not in the right state of mind being drunk all the time and she should not be physically abusing you. If your father is afraid to get a divorce then just move out and stay married until your mother can sober up. She needs a reality check slapped right in her face. You and your father can move out if you want. Tell her before you go that you will not be coming back until she can get help and be sober for atleast 6 months straight. I think having a video tape is a excellent way to show people what your mother is doing not only to herself but to her wonderful daughter. You do not deserve to be treated like this by anyone and especially not by your mother. I suggest you take action and save yourself. You cannot help your mom if she doesn't want to help her self. You have to give her tough love and put an ultimatium on the table and stick too it. You can only do things for yourself, you can't count on anyone else, especially someone who is a alcoholic. By leaving you are saving yourself alot of stress. Please find a way to get out of there as soon as possible. You shouldn't have to submit yourself to this kind of abuse. Stand up for yourself and do what right. Fight till the end of time to be with your dad. Does anyone in your family know about this or someone that can stand up for you in court?
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Kellie
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Post by Kellie on Apr 16, 2006 23:08:20 GMT -5
Everyone knows my mother drinks, but I think only a few people know she sometimes hurts me. It doesn't happen often.
She always tells me it's my fault anyway. I'm responsible for every little thing that happened to her when she was my age. I wasn't even born yet!
So, don't get the wrong idea that it happens all the time. My mother may drink all the time. She always gets violent, but she doesn't always hurt me.
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Post by GrapeJuice on Apr 16, 2006 23:17:01 GMT -5
It really doesn't matter if its once a month once a year or everyday. You need to get out. It shouldn't be happening at all. Your mom needs help and you shouldn't be seeing her like that.
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Post by Kellie1 on Apr 16, 2006 23:51:39 GMT -5
I know she does, but she's over 50. She's been in AA. My mother is physiologically twisted. I'm really getting mad at her. She always puts me down.
Get this, my lowest grade was a 97, and she didn't think it was good enough. She tells me I'm a terrible writer, but when my teacher calls to tell her how I'm a talented writer, she agrees.
I'm tired of playing this sick games with her. She's irresponsible. She leaves her alcohol and cigarettes in plain sight of me. I would never try those things, but when I have friends over, would they try those things? I sometimes have little kids over as well. What if one of them drank some of that alcohol stuff?
Sorry. I'm ranting on and on. I probably sound like a maniac that wallows in self-pity.
It's late. I've got track practice tomorrow really early. Get this, my father is leaving for a week on a business trip tomorrow. We have all this week off. That means I get to spend seven days alone with my mother stuck in a house. I am probably going to be posting a lot this week.
((Sorry about me being a guest. I've been on here so long, my time has expired!))
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Post by littlemikey on Apr 17, 2006 2:23:17 GMT -5
Dont worry about ranting, we understand you, and so far I agree with what you are doing and the advice given to you. Remember that there are people who care for you, and if you stick at this long enough you will get all your problems sorted out ^_^. P.S. Your lowest score was a 97?! Wow, teach me how to be like you
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Apr 17, 2006 7:01:23 GMT -5
Sometimes you just have to brush off what people say, even if it does come from your mom. You know in your heart that getting 97 is a awesome job and all that matters is that you know it. It kind of sounds to me that your mom is angry at herself for being an alcoholic so she's taking it out on you. It also seems to me like your are playing a adult roll in your household. I get this from where you said "She's so irresponsible" You know whats right and you know whats wrong. My only hope is that you learn from your moms mistakes and don't follow the same path. Its a hard way to learn but at least you know better now. I went through the same thing although it wasn't alcohol it was something else but, I made a decision to not be like my mom and do everything the opposite. I took on the parent roll as I didn't have a dad around and my little brother needed to be taken care of.
It is wrong to be put in that position and I can tell you I know somewhat where your coming from. Its very unfortunate and you like I probably think it's unfair. It is unfair but, that's just what we have to deal with right. As long as you know for yourself that you will be okay, you will be. I moved out or was kicked out when I was 15 for not getting my brother a towel. I was happy but also sad that I had to grow up so fast and too early. Just learn from her and do the opposite. Okay I'm rambling now so I'll stop lol.
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Post by Aviator on Apr 17, 2006 10:53:15 GMT -5
I'd take it to court, and if you get into custody of your mother, run away to one of your family membersNobody deserves to be in such an environment. I hope you do the right thing
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Kellie
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Post by Kellie on Apr 17, 2006 18:26:06 GMT -5
Thanks for the great advice everyone! It's helping me deal with her.
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Post by Rachel on Apr 17, 2006 23:45:29 GMT -5
I dont really have advice on this,but all i can say is you are a very brave girl for keeping with this in your life for this long. You are truely special xx
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Apr 18, 2006 2:07:50 GMT -5
Stay stong kellie.. you will get through this. Remeber we are always here for you
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Post by Kellie on Apr 18, 2006 20:17:22 GMT -5
I really want to thank everyone for your support. It makes every day a little more bearable. I'm feeling a lot better today. Thanks a million!
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Post by Emo Kid on Apr 18, 2006 22:36:14 GMT -5
report your mom to the police IMO
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Post by L.B on Apr 20, 2006 15:07:23 GMT -5
report your mom to the police IMO Good Idea but not always easy, you do need to get away from it untill she stops though.
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Post by Kellie on Apr 22, 2006 22:50:02 GMT -5
That's so easy to say, but how can I? I live in Maine. I have no other family other than my mother and my dad. The rest of my family is in California where I was born. It's not easy to runaway. Plus I have many animals. I don't have anywhere to go. I wouldn't want to runaway either.
I just want either my mother dead or for her to go away. I'm not going anywhere. She better go.
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