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Post by stephanie on Apr 25, 2006 21:43:23 GMT -5
but my friend controlls me I think it feels like abuse but IDK k I go to go somewhere with out her and she will like grab my arm and pull me and be like no your hanging out with me etc. does that make sense? or someone will call me on my cell when were hanging out and she will give me a dirty look and pout if i answer it or sumtin
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Post by littlemikey on Apr 26, 2006 18:02:49 GMT -5
Hmm... I think your friend may either be a control freak or scared that you will leave her... I would talk to her about it and see what the problem is.
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Post by lilcrazygirl on Apr 26, 2006 18:06:07 GMT -5
that happened to me once....just to ask....do you live in new jersey?
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Post by Rachel on Apr 26, 2006 21:10:07 GMT -5
Yep it seems she just wants to be in control of you,or in a strange way thinks your her best friend so she doesnt want to share you,and the way to do that is by making you do what SHE wants you to do. If your unhappy about how shes treating you,just stand upto her. The next time she pulls your arm and makes you go somewhere,just say 'please dont pull my arm' If you want her behaviour to stop,then the only way to make that happen,is to say something
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Post by xoxtomoxox on Apr 27, 2006 6:48:13 GMT -5
it looks like your friend is very insecure,iv had this problem before it usually is that the friend doesn't realize there hurting you(as strange as it seems!),she may be afraid to loose you,or she may be afraid to be around other people and feels she needs to have you to Lean on,either way if this is upsetting you i think you should sit down with your friend and remind her that you love her and you will always be there, and then tell her she doesn't need to be so clingy because its upsetting you!! good luck ! .............xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Apr 28, 2006 2:50:08 GMT -5
If that was my friend I would tell her to *beep* off every time she tryed to keep me from doing something. She sounds wierd no offence i wouldnt hang out with her she seems possesive
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on Apr 30, 2006 3:46:58 GMT -5
Your friend is obviously looking for more attention. It seems as if you leave her sight, she goes ballistic.
It's not abuse, but it is a problem that can be solved. Tell her that you don't like what she does, when she does it. Don't wait and let her control your life, you will feel aweful.
Hope I helped some.
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Post by vy on May 1, 2006 20:19:24 GMT -5
Dear Stephanie:
Don't let her control you. You are smart enough to know that she is, and I trust that you are smart enough to not let her do that.
There are many possible reasons as to why she might be acting this way: insecure, control freak, etc.
The important thing is, don't do anything that feels uncomfortable or is affecting you negatively.
If being around this individual starts to make you feel bad about yourself, then I suggest that you reconsider what you want more (your happiness or the friendship), and maybe even considering, letting the relationship go if that is what it takes.
Nothing is worth more then your well being.
You are the only one who has the right to control your life.
Good luck.
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Post by ♥ Victoria ♥ on May 1, 2006 20:40:56 GMT -5
This friend after all maybe really care about you that she is afraid you leave for over another friend. My best best friend is like that...everytime other ppl call me she asks me who, why they call, am I gonna lleave her one day. She even copies my style but at the end...she is a dear friend. I told her not to worry, that no other person can be my very very best best best friend...I told her all she needed to hear and now she is no more like before. Everyone here is right...follow those advices
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Post by Family Guy on May 1, 2006 22:10:53 GMT -5
Sounds like shes attached to u in more then just a friend way she sounds obssessed to me or scared to be alone or without u. tell her to stop it and don't stay when she pulls u over and tells u not to go
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Post by steph on May 2, 2006 8:21:48 GMT -5
well i told her not to and she told her mom that I was mean to her and shhe told me momm soo I got in trouble and my moom grounded me becuase i guesss she was crying all night.!! All I did was say "Don't; when she did itthats all not grab her like they thik or she said
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Post by (_.·: mot0 :·._) on May 2, 2006 19:42:51 GMT -5
well i told her not to and she told her mom that I was mean to her and shhe told me momm soo I got in trouble and my moom grounded me becuase i guesss she was crying all night.!! All I did was say "Don't; when she did itthats all not grab her like they thik or she said Did you tell your mom what exactly happened?
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