[Beefy]
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Post by [Beefy] on Feb 24, 2007 0:46:01 GMT -5
Hello =] I have a question. When I was growing up my home was very.. different. Feelings were frowned upon unless you were my father and mother. If 'I' felt scared, unhappy, excited, whatever it was. It was the "we don't want to hear about it", it was wrong to feel sad or pain when people died I couldn't cry or be mad it was just wrong I don't know why. My parents would cry, be angry whatever they wanted as I listened and tried to console but when I needed to vent myself I always got the "I don't want to hear it right now" "Can you tell me later" when later never came or if it did it was the same response. Another common phrase was "I dont need this, I have enough to deal with already".
This was really hard on me and now that Im a bit a older its the same way maybe even worse. My problem is that I have begun to feel very 'cold-hearted' to friends. I hear often from them that "I don't care about nothing" or "I don't listen to them ever" when the have problems or what not.
I'm not trying to do this, honestly Im not and it has ruined many relationships. What can I do?
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Post by Web Master on Feb 24, 2007 7:28:04 GMT -5
Well I think its obvious why you act like this with out even realizing it. You live what you learn and thats what your doing. I think to break this you would have to see a psychologist. Its alot of emotional abuse to be treated like that and you have grown to learn its not okay to feel, anything. I would look into seeing a counselor and get their professional opinion as this is deeper then something I can do but we can definitely help you Thru it as much as possible. Im sorry you had to go thru that.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 2, 2007 15:13:06 GMT -5
Hello Beefy, I hope your having a good day today. Sounds to me like your feelings have been suppressed growing up and your having a difficult time expressing yourself to others now. Emotional abuse, what you parents did or are doing to you is very serious just like any abuse. People often think that sexual abuse and physical abuse are the only ones that get noticed. However since you don't have bruises you can see on the outside they are definitely on the inside. I am a strong believer that you will be able to open up more to other people but it will take some work with some counseling. Always remember your friends want to be there for you, they want you to be there for them. If you do open up to them even a little bit they have shown that they will be there for you and not turn you down. I really hope you can find the professional advise that you will need. Remember we are always here for support, rant, rave whenever you want. We will listen, read, respond and care.
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Post by martin on Mar 4, 2007 11:17:33 GMT -5
let yuorself shine they dont write ur life for u
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