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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 26, 2006 21:41:08 GMT -5
yea i think ill just watch her wrists and go from there
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 27, 2006 14:46:48 GMT -5
Keep a really close eye on her if thats what you want to do. If you notice anything at all say something to her but be really nice. Don't act too caring tho or it will come off as fakes or like your babying her. I think the sooner you talk to her the better. Wouldunotice is kind of right. You never know when she will make the wrong cut and possibly hit a vein. Then you will be thinking "if I only talked to her sooner" etc. Even though you took the razors away she will find something else if she really wants to cut. Cutters can find anything to hurt them selfs! Hopefully your plan worked tho. It must be really hard to have a friend your soo worried about. Your such a good person for looking out for your friend. Stay strong for her and you. I wish you and your friend goodluck. You should try and get a plan together so she has a place to go for help. Like this site for example. Good luck!
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 27, 2006 19:29:11 GMT -5
I was planning on giving her this site but then she would wonder all of a sudden why i was doing it so yea but im trying but the more i want to telll her the more ......Ashley and hillary .....tell me not to so i dont know its getting harder and harder but i have to be strong for her but even thats getting hard
Was thinkimgabout killing my self today but i didnt now im really thinking my "plan"Through so yea
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Post by GrapeJuice on Mar 28, 2006 1:28:37 GMT -5
It can be very hard having a friend with serious problems like cutting. Sometimes helping them can really put you through a world full of hurt. There are a few things you might want to consider to see if you can get the situation under control for yourself and, perhaps, for your friend as well. First off, you might want to try to figure out why your friend may be cutting herself and, more importantly, encourage her to do the same. Cutting is generally a symptom of some larger problem with anxiety, anger or depression; getting to the root of that problem may eventually put an end to the cutting one. It also may be a positive thing for you to make it clearly known to your friend that what she is doing really disturbs you and that you are concerned about her. You friend might not be able to shake off the cutting as something frivolous when she sees how upset it is making you, and she might have some incentive to stop.
If after you talk to your friend and you see she's not heading toward some sort of self-induced resolution to the situation, you may want to convince her to seek other kinds of help, whether it is talking to a trusted adult or visiting a counselor. Should the situation escalate, you may want to think about speaking to a trusted adult directly about your friend's problems.
Ultimately, it is important to remember that you aren't responsible for living your friend's life or for making her decisions, no matter how much you love and care about her. Part of friendship is supporting someone when they are going through difficult times, but you aren't a therapist, and if you feel that this is simply too much of a strain for you, there's absolutely nothing wrong with giving yourself some distance from your friend.
If you would like your friend to come to this site we could possibly have this thread deleted so she cannot see it and just let your friend know that you really like this site and you thought it was cool. You don't have to tell your friend why you want her to come here but you can certantly suggest it. I will be here if she ever wish's to talk. If she joins please Private message me so I contact her. That way you don't have to say "hey you should talk to this person."
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 28, 2006 10:19:10 GMT -5
that is all really good advice and i just might use some of it but the truth of it is is that i don't want to talk to her and say You need help because then shell think I'm just trying to help her instead of being a friend i have wanted to give her this site but it would seem to Fishy and she would ask why and stuff so i think ill wait about a month and then give her the site and i will deffently tell you IF she goes here. that would be my big problem is getting her to sign up. so thanks for all the advice ill see what i can do and tell you what happens.
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Post by !Dances With Hamsters! on Mar 28, 2006 15:10:50 GMT -5
You dont have to tell her she needs help. Just say hey I like giving advice here you should check it out. You can give it to her to give advice.
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 28, 2006 19:04:31 GMT -5
that might work but im still shakey about it
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 28, 2006 22:28:04 GMT -5
Well if she does decided to come and you want this thread delete just let me know. Take your time and do what you think is right
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 28, 2006 23:15:32 GMT -5
well i found out that she OK and doesn't cut anymore but now I'm back to what i was doing and now I'm cuttting..............witch sucks because i didn't before it wasn't my way of suicide.
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Post by ¤Teen Vibe¤ on Mar 28, 2006 23:20:00 GMT -5
That's awesome about your friend! Have you made a list of what triggers your cutting? This way you can prevent the urges by avoiding what triggers you. Have you tried any way to pass the urges like ice cubes. the rubber band method etc?
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 28, 2006 23:31:04 GMT -5
OMG no i havent but i just screwed up things with my frinds OMG this is not a good day it was going well then it dive bomed strait to hell apparently what me and my friends did with the razors wasnt a good Idea now shes so Freeken Pissed i dont knwo what to do
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Post by Beautiful Disaster on Mar 29, 2006 1:57:38 GMT -5
Does she know you guys took the razors?
Let her cool down maybe be there for her to make sure she doesn't do anything. Do her parents know?
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 29, 2006 10:08:37 GMT -5
Yea i told her, i have a guilt Problem, No her parents dont know and she still Really mad at me MAN i just want to die so i dont have to live through tomarrow.
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Post by L.B on Mar 29, 2006 18:52:21 GMT -5
Please don't do anything stupid. Your doing what is best for your friend. Did you explain to her why you did it? Maybe you should tell her parents if its still happening. You can't deal with it on your own.
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Post by -‰KillerStyle‰- on Mar 29, 2006 18:58:28 GMT -5
okay I may sound like a hypocrit but don't kill yourself. You have to save your self before you can save your friend. Think about all the people that love you and would be totally crushed if you killed yourself. Your not only hurting yourself but your hurting everyone around you! Its not going to fix any of your problems at all and its pointless to commit suicide. Suicide is a pernament solution to a temporary problem. Why do you want to kill yourself? Whats going on? Get help, don't kill yourself! PM me if you ever want too.
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Post by [Taboo] on Mar 29, 2006 19:09:47 GMT -5
Its the only Option i have left. My friend wouldn't even say a word to me at all today it sucks. because i shrewed up her day yesterday and what even worse is that she looked me in the eye and i couldn't tell what as going Thur her head usually i can but not this time it was weird. i try ed cutting and as a matter of fact i just got done and came on here. I have no option left. there is no door number two this time.
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Post by Dregond [Gone] on Mar 29, 2006 19:24:01 GMT -5
*hugs you*
your frined probbly has a simple problem , must be jsut bad comunication..dont cut yourself *kisses your wounds* no more hurting yourself .. just give her time , or make her talk..!!!
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